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I just got asked to babysit for the entire weekend, including overnight Saturday.

I AM SO TIRED and I was looking forward to the weekend so much but I dont have any excuse NOT to do it.



update: she just emailed me on FB and her pop is going to watch them so now they get to go to the wedding AND i dont have to feel guilty
can i get a woot woot?!



to make up for it i will take the boogers to cheeburger cheeburger one night. . . but I need DH there as back up LOL

Message edited 3/26/2009 2:06:38 PM.

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that sux

i know what you mean -- i've had to babysit my brother's kids because, well 'its not like you have anything to DO' was thrown in my face.

its like you hate feeling like a bad guy for saying "i just want to RELAX this wknd" and they think you're being selfish -- but then you feel like THEY are being selfish by asking you to give up your entire weekend too. so either way--you're screwed!

whats going on that you have to baby sit all wknd? that's kind of a tall order on a wednesday!

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they haev a wedding in NJ so it will be late afternoon Saturday to early afternoon Sunday.

I just haev a hard time saying "no i am busy" when i dont have set plans

I wish i could say oh what am i doing this weekend? I am cleaning the apartment, doing all the laundry, going to church, relaxing, catching up on my DVR, maybe grabbing a drink with friends, spending time with my husband, sleeping in. . . .

In all fairness, our MIL was supposed to do it BUT she is in the hospital ( which is what i thought she was calling me about )

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This is where I've learned to say "No."..and beleive me it took years...do i feel guilty...a bit...but you know what...just because i don't have kids doesn't mean i don't have a life...and my brother is starting to learn.

When it's an emergency...yes, i will drop everything & run. If it interferes with something I planned already or i am just not in the mood than i say "Sorry...i can't...is next weekend OK??" Hang in there

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My friend sent me THIS do you think it will work????

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I'm sorry you're not into the whole babysitting thing this weekend. I can relate to what you're saying, and hopefully they appreciate you helping them out on short notice.

Although I do things for my nieces and nephews without any expectation, my sisters do remember that around events like my birthday or Christmas.

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Posted by KittyKatCopper

This is where I've learned to say "No."..and beleive me it took years...do i feel guilty...a bit...but you know what...just because i don't have kids doesn't mean i don't have a life...and my brother is starting to learn.

When it's an emergency...yes, i will drop everything & run. If it interferes with something I planned already or i am just not in the mood than i say "Sorry...i can't...is next weekend OK??" Hang in there

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Oh god!!!! Well hopefully it will be a great time!

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Definitely not my idea of a relaxing weekend! How old are they?

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eeks sucky! My bro and sis in law never ask me to babysit EVER. Kinda interesting, guess they don't trust me alone with their kids. My parents are getting tired of always being asked but they always have to go there and its always an overnighter since they live 2 hours away. I guess I get off the hook.

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It's so much more enjoyable when YOU want to take the kids than being asked unexpectedly.

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So, just to clarify - I absolutely adore my neices and nephews and love spending time with them. HOWEVER, at 3, 7 and 12 - they can be a handful AND they have no known bedtime. I have been there where they are up until 2am. . . I am exhausted come the weekend and it just seems horrible to me. If it were an emergency I would have no problem with it !

Anyway, we actually said no. I was so proud of DH for taking my side since he would be at work for most of the time he said that it was up to me and we didnt think that we would be able to do it.

but now, OF COURSE, i feel guilty!!!!!! argh!

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Posted by kimbalina

Posted by Tilde

So, just to clarify - I absolutely adore my neices and nephews and love spending time with them. HOWEVER, at 3, 7 and 12 - they can be a handful AND they have no known bedtime. I have been there where they are up until 2am. . . I am exhausted come the weekend and it just seems horrible to me. If it were an emergency I would have no problem with it !

Anyway, we actually said no. I was so proud of DH for taking my side since he would be at work for most of the time he said that it was up to me and we didnt think that we would be able to do it.

but now, OF COURSE, i feel guilty!!!!!! argh!

No guilt!!! Feel good. Do it on your own terms!! It was very last minute for a non emergancy!
When they do stay over set ground rules like 11pm bed time. No exceptions!

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I don't blame you for not wanting to do it...but I do kind of think it was an emergency. They had someone else originally who is in the hospital and physically can't do it. Will they be able to get someone else or will they have to miss out on the wedding?

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Im right there with you on the guilt. I can never say NO to anyone in my family that asks me to babysit. Im the ONLY one that doest have my own kids. I always feel "its the least i can do"

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