IVF#2 a bust - please help - poll

Apparently at 40 I have great estrogen, so much so that it was not suppressed by birth control pills and I have produced, 2, yes count'em, 2 eggs on my own. They aren't cysts, blood tests confirmed my estrogen is rising and I will have 2 eggs - currently 1 is a 22 and the other is a 14..

So, IVF is out this cycle. Dr. Cain has given me a few options:
1. do nothing, wait for period and start over with different protocol.
2. trigger tonight and abstain from bd'ing until I get my period.
3. trigger tonight and have an IUI on Sunday am.

Part of me feels like maybe I should do the IUI, like I was meant to do this now. I know, it's stupid. Part of me is afraid to do it b/c the last pregnancy was successful, in that I got pregnant, but lost it due to a chromosome problem. IVF with PGD would help eliminate this problem.

I am on a fence. DH says he will do whatever I want.

Please let me know your thoughts.
Thanks!

Message edited 1/9/2009 2:45:17 PM.

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I would do nothing.
If you do get PG and there are any issues, it's going to delay you that much longer.
I wouldn't take a chance and just wait for AF, you are going to ovulate any day now anyway.

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Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

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Posted by daisy32

Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

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I wouldn't risk it. I'd do either the first or second option...

I know this is small in comparison, but right as we started I found out I had lost my immunity to Rubella. I could either sign a waiver and go ahead with treatment or get another vaccine and wait a month (meaning we'd only get 2 cycles covered by insurance instead of 3). The RE said the chances of me contracting Rubella and passing it onto my child were VERY slim, but I still couldn't in good conscience take that risk... no matter how small. In this whole IF journey I've been on the crappy end of the statistics and I wouldn't be able to handle knowing that I could have prevented that just by waiting a month. Again, I know it's totally small in comparison and really up to you to decide what you are comfortable with.

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Posted by IrishLass

Part of me is afraid to do it b/c the last pregnancy was successful, in that I got pregnant, but lost it due to a chromosome problem. IVF with PGD would help eliminate this problem.

Please let me know your thoughts.
Thanks!

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Patty!!!!! What would stop you from doing the IUI??? There is a chance for this to work!!! I dont understand why you wouldnt?


ETA: I see why now.. Shouldhave read everything first . I would still it because the odds of it sticking again are not that high usually the egg doesnt fertilize.. But m/c are so painful i do understand exactky why you are hesitating... Go with your gut.. Sorry your even dealing with this..

Message edited 1/9/2009 3:55:58 PM.

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Posted by daisy32

Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

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Posted by dilb712

Posted by daisy32

Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

I also agree with Lisa..

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Posted by CAH127

Posted by dilb712

Posted by daisy32

Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

I also agree with Lisa..

I agree with this, as well.

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Posted by WNA01

Posted by CAH127

Posted by dilb712

Posted by daisy32

Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

I also agree with Lisa..

I agree with this, as well.

Me too!

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nm-calling you

Message edited 1/9/2009 6:09:40 PM.

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Posted by CAH127

Posted by dilb712

Posted by daisy32

Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

I also agree with Lisa..

I agree with this, as well.

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I'm sorry for what you are going through. Since I'm not experienced in these areas, I can't offer you advice. Just wanted to wish you luck in the future.

Message edited 1/9/2009 9:11:29 PM.

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thanks to all. I'm actually completely ok with what is going on, I am not upset or disappointed or stressing at all. It's hard to believe, but really. (actually, DH is shocked, but ok.)

I have triggered tonight and will make my decision tomorrow am...

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I agree with Gerty. With the variables that you personally have going into this, that makes the most sense to me.

What a hard decision to make...

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Posted by daisy32

Honestly Patty I would do the IUI. Just because like u said the fact that u created the follies on your own - its almost like a sign.

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I don't want to offer an opinion b/c I have not endured what you have but just wanted to say that I'm sure whatever decision you make will give YOU the best peace of mind and that I'll be for you.

Shawnna

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What ever you decide to do good luck to you...........

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FYI...I am doing exactly what I advised you not to do and what I THOUGHT I would not do I am done giving advice

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Posted by Domino

FYI...I am doing exactly what I advised you not to do and what I THOUGHT I would not do I am done giving advice

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Posted by Domino

FYI...I am doing exactly what I advised you not to do and what I THOUGHT I would not do I am done giving advice

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Posted by IrishLass

I wrote the intial email right after I got the phone call, I was still surprsied I produced 2 eggs with no fertility drugs, on birth control pills. (by the way, how does that happen? LOL.)
The doctors have given up with BCPs on me. And we will not be using them the next stim cycle. My body doesnt care whether I take them or not. This happened on my first IVF cycle too. So now with massive IVF meds and starting out on BCPs I have two mature follies on the right side and one mature follie on the left

But on my drive home from work, I was calmed, and I believe it was my faith that lead me to this calmness. By the time I got home I knew what I wanted to do. This situation has been presented to me, there are no guarantees in any pregnancy, including PGD, I want the IUI. It may work, it may not. I will tell you this, it will be the least stressful IUI I've ever had b/c I'm totally ok if it doesn't work.

Domino - good luck and all my faith and prayers for you! Having my IUI tomorrow,when are you doing yours?

thanks for the babydust and right back at ya As for my IUI? It would have been on monday, and honestly, would have been a complete hassle...the waking DH up at 5:30 to "do his thing" and then race like a looney with his stuff to St. Brook...sit there for an hour, then drive myself to the train station and work a half a day in nyc would just be out of control. So what are we doing? Dr. S the funny man that he is, gave my DH a prescription for "sex" with six refills. Yes, we are gonna try it the old fashioned way...and if it works it was meant to be....wouldnt that be a hoot...as for the actual prescription DH said he is framing it if we pregnant and will hang it in our kid's nursery.

Message edited 1/10/2009 1:38:29 PM.

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Posted by Domino

Posted by IrishLass

I wrote the intial email right after I got the phone call, I was still surprsied I produced 2 eggs with no fertility drugs, on birth control pills. (by the way, how does that happen? LOL.)
The doctors have given up with BCPs on me. And we will not be using them the next stim cycle. My body doesnt care whether I take them or not. This happened on my first IVF cycle too. So now with massive IVF meds and starting out on BCPs I have two mature follies on the right side and one mature follie on the left

But on my drive home from work, I was calmed, and I believe it was my faith that lead me to this calmness. By the time I got home I knew what I wanted to do. This situation has been presented to me, there are no guarantees in any pregnancy, including PGD, I want the IUI. It may work, it may not. I will tell you this, it will be the least stressful IUI I've ever had b/c I'm totally ok if it doesn't work.

Domino - good luck and all my faith and prayers for you! Having my IUI tomorrow,when are you doing yours?

thanks for the babydust and right back at ya As for my IUI? It would have been on monday, and honestly, would have been a complete hassle...the waking DH up at 5:30 to "do his thing" and then race like a looney with his stuff to St. Brook...sit there for an hour, then drive myself to the train station and work a half a day in nyc would just be out of control. So what are we doing? Dr. S the funny man that he is, gave my DH a prescription for "sex" with six refills. Yes, we are gonna try it the old fashioned way...and if it works it was meant to be....wouldnt that be a hoot...as for the actual prescription DH said he is framing it if we pregnant and will hang it in our kid's nursery.

ETA: will trigger in an hour and start BDing sunday night

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Posted by IrishLass


Thats funny! If it was Monday, we wouldn't be doing it either..but Sunday is easy. DH has to go to work, but later so I can get the cup to RSofNY and wait with Edward Cullen in the office for it to be washed.