Saddest Momments-How Have You Coped

In those dark momments of your life, what have you done to cope w/ what's going on? How have you been able to lift yourself?

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When I am at my most sad, I try to be most productive. When someone in my family died, I cooked enough for an army for when we had people over after the funeral. I scrubbed every surface til it gleamed. At times I have also had trouble sleeping, and when I exhaust my body it enables me to sleep and let my mind rest.

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I have a really hard time lifting myself out of sad situations. I have a history of depression and sometimes I can spiral down quickly.

I credit DH for helping me out of those sad moments. And, though it may sound strange, my dog.

Brodie always comes up and snuggles and tries to lick my tears away when I cry and I can't help but smile.

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When my grandfather died suddenly, I felt really bad that I didn't visit him for a long time. I wrote a letter to him expressing my regrets and letting him know how I felt. That made me feel a little better. I also just wrote a lot in my journal that I kept at that time. I still think about my grandfather and how much I miss him. The day before my wedding day, I gave DH my grandfather's cufflinks and asked him if he would wear them. It made me happy to know that a piece of my grandfather was there.

When DH was diagnosed with cancer, I did a lot of research about it. Luckily, his odds were good but it was still one of the most traumatic things that has happened to me. During that time, DH and I would spent a lot of alone time together. We made sure to dance to what became our wedding song every night.

When I am upset now, I listen to the radio and just try to focus on something good.

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It is always hard to get through the challenges of life. What I try to do is put things in perspective and count the many blessings I have.

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I just try to keep myself busy and plow through. I try not to think about things too much. I have a lot of faith that everything happens for a reason and that i will get through whatever it is.

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my saddest moment was when my grandma passed away.. I don't think I'll ever get over it.. I can still bawl like a baby when I think of her (I am tearing now just writing about it)

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I look at the blessings that I have. When I lost my dad, I realized that I was so blessed to have had such a wonderful father for 21 years.

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Prayer helps me the most.

I also get a lot of comfort in being out in nature - walking on the beach, in the park, places where it is quiet and I can be calm.

Sometimes exercise helps too - to get the stress out.

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Prayer...I had James baptized teh day after he was born. I wanted to make sure that God was a part of his life. So my faith in God and my very supportive family helped me and Dh, and kept James Safe, Healthy and Strong.

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Prayer. My relationship with God. Having faith that in the midst of a tragic situation God is there holding me, carrying me through it.
I also count my blessings (my DH, little who will be here in May, my family, my doggie, etc.).

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When I lost my mom, I basically threw myself into other things. For example, I became obsessed with Christmas because I wanted to make sure my family had a nice christmas even with my mom gone (she had done all the shopping, food preparation, etc) after Christmas I threw myself into work and I believe that partially why I got promoted so rapidly.

I dont know if there is anything that has helped me cope. I try to just go on with my life they way my mom would have wanted! But I have a really hard time when something good happens, or somethign bad happens, or I need advice. Thos are the times that I most want to be able to reach out to her.

a lot of people say Faith helped them through, now a year later I am finally no longer angry with God. For a long time I was just so mad at Him for taking her away I wanted very little to do with religion.