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hoping2bmommy
LIF Infant
Member since 11/08 182 total posts
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Taryn
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Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
My aunt is so upset about me being pregnant and the fact that instead of spending the night and her house, I will be driving the 3 hours back on Christmas eve to spend Christmas morning with my husband and exchange gifts she has told me that i shouldn't come to christmas and she will ship my gifts to me, I have never been banned from christmas and not spent it with my family, this is soooo upsetting!!!!
It's my family, i never thought i wouldn't be able to come to christmas, especially over being pregnant!!
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Posted 12/22/08 1:51 PM  |
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Lucky
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Dawn
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
You are a grown woman and can make your own choices. I think you should go to Christmas Eve at your Aunt's and then travel home as you had intended. She'll get over it!
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| Posted 12/22/08 1:57 PM |
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Bridex100
Two Under Two Mommy
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Momx100
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
Why would your aunt be upset that you are pregnant?
You are a married grown woman! Shouldn't it be expected that a baby follow a wedding??? 
Most people get the opposite reaction - unwanted unsolicited questioning on when they plan to start a family.
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| Posted 12/22/08 1:58 PM |
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nov04libride
big brother <3
Member since 5/05 14672 total posts
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Me
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
Is she upset about the pregnancy, or you driving the 3 hours alone on Christmas Eve? Honestly, my mom wouldn't want me driving 3 hours alone at night on Christmas Eve either. 
Is your husband spending Christmas Eve with you and your family?
Message edited 12/22/2008 2:05:36 PM.
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| Posted 12/22/08 2:03 PM |
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hoping2bmommy
LIF Infant
Member since 11/08 182 total posts
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Taryn
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
My husband unfortunately has a mandatory day at work and can't be there. I will be leaving at 7ish and be home around 10ish. Usually im home later than that. She basically said as long as i am pregnant im not welcome at christmas
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:04 PM |
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luckyinlove
I love my baby girls!
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Lauren
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
Posted by hoping2bmommy
My husband unfortunately has a mandatory day at work and can't be there. I will be leaving at 7ish and be home around 10ish. Usually im home later than that. She basically said as long as i am pregnant im not welcome at christmas
Why doesn't she want you to be pregnant? Shouldn't she be happy for you?
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:22 PM |
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HomeIsWithU
Baby #2 on the way!
Member since 9/07 7816 total posts
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Jenn
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
If thats her reaction, then tell her you're sorry she feels that way and its unfortunate that she will not be a part of your child's life.
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:31 PM |
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
Member since 9/05 32436 total posts
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Stephanie
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
Posted by hoping2bmommy
She basically said as long as i am pregnant im not welcome at christmas
but WHY? Is she concerned about you driving alone or is she jealous that you are pregnant? Sorry to say, but she sounds a few fries short of a happy meal
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:33 PM |
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nov04libride
big brother <3
Member since 5/05 14672 total posts
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Me
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
Posted by hoping2bmommy
My husband unfortunately has a mandatory day at work and can't be there. I will be leaving at 7ish and be home around 10ish. Usually im home later than that. She basically said as long as i am pregnant im not welcome at christmas
ahh, gotcha. i remember you posting about how she disapproves of your pregnancy.
at this point, i would write her off for a while, and surround yourself with people who are supportive during this time. 
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:33 PM |
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nov04libride
big brother <3
Member since 5/05 14672 total posts
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Me
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by hoping2bmommy
She basically said as long as i am pregnant im not welcome at christmas
but WHY? Is she concerned about you driving alone or is she jealous that you are pregnant? Sorry to say, but she sounds a few fries short of a happy meal
i think the OP posted before saying that her aunt feels that she and her DH are too young to become parents.
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:34 PM |
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mindygirl73
LIF Adolescent
Member since 2/07 692 total posts
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reens
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
I wouldn't drive there then at all. Can you stay local for Christmas? I wouldn't subject myself to her nonsense. This is a happy time.
I'm sorry you're so upset. 
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:35 PM |
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lvdolphins
My Loves!
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
I am so sorry! Like the PP said, write her off for a while and let her "get over it".
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:36 PM |
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
Member since 9/05 32436 total posts
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Stephanie
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by hoping2bmommy
She basically said as long as i am pregnant im not welcome at christmas
but WHY? Is she concerned about you driving alone or is she jealous that you are pregnant? Sorry to say, but she sounds a few fries short of a happy meal
i think the OP posted before saying that her aunt feels that she and her DH are too young to become parents.
the aunt should mind her own business. Ugh, I would NOT go there for Christmas or any other holiday
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:36 PM |
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MarisaK
HELLO Manolo !!
Member since 5/06 14562 total posts
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Marisa
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
OK -
First of all, you are pregnant, not suddenly incompetent - You can still drive, it IS allowed - 
And If YOU want to spend Christmas Eve with your FAMILY b/c your husband has to work and then drive the 3 hours to spend Christmas Morning w/ your HUSBAND - I think it should be expected that you'd WANT to spend Christmas with your HUSBAND - I personally, would do the exact same thing - I wouldnt' want to be alone Christmas Eve and the drive would be worth it to me .......and I don't think it's crazy for you to drive 'alone' at night just b/c you're now pregnant. -
If you were 38 weeks, that's a different story - but you're not (are you?)
Second - this may be none of my business, and if so please just tell me to shove it - but when you say your Aunt says you're 'not allowed' to celebrate w/ the family.......are your parents and/or siblings involved in this as well?
B/c WHO the HELL is ONE family member to tell you that you're not welcome at a family event ? -
She's made it very clear that she disapproves of your pregnancy, but you are married, you're not 13 years old - so what's her problem ??
to you !!
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| Posted 12/22/08 3:39 PM |
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sfp0701
Liam's Mommy!
Member since 1/07 9764 total posts
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Tricia
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
I'm so sorry. I think you said your aunt basically raised you, so I am wondering if there are any other family members that might have an opinion on you being banned since you are pregnant? I just can't believe her attitude about this. Was she upset when you got married?
I'm sorry she is ruining your holiday and putting a damper on an otherwise happy time. Could Dh make the drive to your aunts and spend the night there with you? If not, I wouldn't go. You will likely get upset and then drive home, 3 hours, upset. That's not a good thing. Stay home with DH where you can be happy and rejoice in your pregnancy.
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| Posted 12/22/08 4:19 PM |
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nyteacher13
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Re: Im not alllowed to go to family christmas now....
I'm sorry, but your aunt sounds like a real friggin MORON like my SIL. I'm 35 weeks pregnant, and my bitchofaSIL STILL didn't congratulate us. What did I do about it? I totally WROTE HER OFF and told her exactly how I felt.
Try telling your aunt off (lol) it's really an enlightening experience when you do. My relationship with my SIL is completely over and my life is better because of it.
(ps - I'm only half kidding about telling your aunt off!)
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