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Blu-ize
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Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
Spoke to Dr. Davis and because of my protocol I won't be able to start until after the new year.
I'm pretty upset and didn't expect to cry about it.
I am due for AF on Nov 10 and if I have to do 10 days on estrogen patches then I will miss series 80. He thinks that it will be the best protocol.
A couple of things:
I hope that with the volatilty of the market, I keep my job and my insurance.
I will be 2 months closer to 42 years old.
This will give us one or two more tries naturally.
I'm pretty upset now and I didn't think I would be. I was all psyched to go ahead.
Dr. Davis says we can start on day 2 but he doesn't think it will be the best protocol without estrogen priming.
I feel like my heart is breaking. I feel like I've waiting so long just to start.
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MrsRbk
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
Susan, I'm so sorry!  You've had so many bumps in the road to even begin, I can't even imagine how you are feeling right now.
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| Posted 10/29/08 4:38 PM |
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LisaW
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
Unfortunately this is the IVF game....waiting
It will be here before you know it 
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| Posted 10/29/08 4:39 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
maybe I'll have a natural miracle and I won't have to worry about all of this.
I know there will be layoffs at my firm. I just hope I can keep my job. That's an even bigger issue I guess.
He also doesn't think I should go for more than 2-3 cycles based on my elevated risk for breast cancer.
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| Posted 10/29/08 4:42 PM |
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BA2008
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
This whole year has been a waiting game for us. I know it sucks and its OK to be mad about it. But, there is nothing you can do. I tried to rush this so many times so I could be pregnant yesterday. It just doesn't work that way. And it is a little annoying how they cycle.
On the flip side, if we decide to go for #4, we would cycle together. Though I am not sure if we are doing that or not. I'm still confused on what to do.
Hopefully, your job is safe
Why can't you start the estrogen patches now. Or is it b/c you don't know when you surged?
This will all be worth it in the end!!!
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| Posted 10/29/08 5:15 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
yeah, it's crap.
I think I know when I surged based on OPKS but I haven't gone for IVF teach yet so it would be hard to schedule us and to get me on the patches. I'm 11 days away from AF right now approximately.
I could go with day two and start without estrogen but he says the best shot is with it and since I probably won't cycle more than 2-3 times he wants to try the most aggressive protocol there is. He hopes to get 8 eggs and have half of them fertilize and look good enough to transfer. That's what he said today. That would be a really good response to that protocol. I can only hope I get that lucky.
Getting older is weighing on me. I know plenty of women our age get pregnant with IVF..I just hope I didn't blow it.
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| Posted 10/29/08 6:01 PM |
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Diana712
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
Hello!!!  I am older!!! Try to stop dwelling on the age thing.. I know how hard that is.. but just try.. Focus on what your Dr is telling you and just go with the flow.. I am prayng for you and your Job as well.. Thats ruff.. When will you find out about layoffs? and If you do a cobra can it be covered?
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| Posted 10/29/08 9:47 PM |
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mojosmom
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
I'm sorry. I know how devastating it is to look forward to something and then be told it's not going to happen as you expected.
The worst part about infertility is the waiting. Sometimes I feel like I am "waiting" to start my life.
I wish you all the best with your job.
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| Posted 10/29/08 10:34 PM |
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JennyPenny
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| Posted 10/29/08 10:37 PM |
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jellybean78
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| Posted 10/29/08 10:54 PM |
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MrsMessina
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| Posted 10/29/08 11:49 PM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
I agree with Lisa...IVF is always a waiting game.
But if you trust your RE, they know best and even though it's difficult sometimes, it's better to wait as they ask than to rush things.
You can probably cobra your insurance even if it's worst case scenario, so I wouldn't stress about insurance too much.
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| Posted 10/30/08 6:35 AM |
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CAH127
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| Posted 10/30/08 8:55 AM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
thanks everyone. I know it's not the worst. I just really thought that I would get into the orientation, order the meds and get going. I felt like the brakes were put on and we are at a dead stop.
What's pissing me off more right now is that DH has nothing to say about it.
His only question was how much more is this going to cost because we were close to our out of pocket now and next year we start a whole new deductible.
I'm really disappointed. I don't want to rush it, the right protocol is really important. Dr. Davis is great though and spent about 10 minutes on the phone with me. He understands and is willing to try without the estrogen patches but feels it's not aggressive enough and I may not get the best results.
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| Posted 10/30/08 9:11 AM |
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BA2008
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
Posted by Blu-ize
thanks everyone. I know it's not the worst. I just really thought that I would get into the orientation, order the meds and get going. I felt like the brakes were put on and we are at a dead stop.
What's pissing me off more right now is that DH has nothing to say about it.
His only question was how much more is this going to cost because we were close to our out of pocket now and next year we start a whole new deductible.
I'm really disappointed. I don't want to rush it, the right protocol is really important. Dr. Davis is great though and spent about 10 minutes on the phone with me. He understands and is willing to try without the estrogen patches but feels it's not aggressive enough and I may not get the best results.
I was thinking about the deductible too. Rats!!!!! Our insurance is up in February. Oh well. I'm sure they'll raise the rates significantly as well. Though I haven't been reimbursed yet for any of the b/w or u/s, so it might not even matter.
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| Posted 10/30/08 11:12 AM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: Wow, I didn't think I would be this upset
had a chat with my boss. She's very high up in the firm and while we think we're fine you never know. I wanted her to know what my needs may be in 09 if you know what I mean.
She may have some pull to help me in some way if the worst happens.
I feel better about it..not so nervous about the job and now I can work even harder and get back on track with my body and health.
My boss and I are very close so either way she will know where I stand and will do what she can to help if the worst happens.
Fingers crossed. I have done everything I can and all I can do now is wait.
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