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mommy2bella
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Wedding Help!
I have a wedding in Atlanta next Friday night.
AFTER I sent the invite saying that we were coming back we received a form letter in the mail with the Hotel info and next day Brunch info...
AND...then it said
"Black Tie--that means tuxedos and suits for the men and cocktail dresses and gowns for the ladies."
What does that mean? I mean, I thought Black Tie meant Tuxes and Gowns, but the way it was worded is weird and it wasn't on the original invite.
I am not renting a tux for DH to go to a Friday Night wedding in Atlanta with this unclear wording, but what does this mean for me?
I have an awesome dark blue Chinese Laundry dress I got for a wedding last year. Fits amazing, but it's knee length. Can I get away with that for this wedding?
Help?
Message edited 9/25/2008 10:49:51 AM.
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MissRadiant
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Re: Wedding Help!
I think they just mean formal attire. Your dress should be fine and as long as your DH wears a suit he should be ok as well.
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| Posted 9/25/08 10:49 AM |
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KvsGrl
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Re: Wedding Help!
Your dress sounds perfect (short is totally acceptable) and your DH should wear a dark suit and tie.
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| Posted 9/25/08 11:39 AM |
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Shorty
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Re: Wedding Help!
they probably just worded it that way because out of state weddings don't always have a dress code.  I've seen jeans and pants at them!
I'm sure your dress is perfect.
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| Posted 9/25/08 11:43 AM |
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Re: Wedding Help!
It think its fine, she said suits or tuxs and cocktail dress or gown, I agree alot of people feel out of state weddings are less formal, which is why she probably wrote that
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| Posted 9/25/08 11:48 AM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: Wedding Help!
Thanks. I wasn't sure if I was being an NY snob by assuming this.
Yay, thanks!
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| Posted 9/25/08 11:53 AM |
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KGools
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Re: Wedding Help!
Posted by Shorty
they probably just worded it that way because out of state weddings don't always have a dress code. I've seen jeans and pants at them!
I'm sure your dress is perfect.
Agreed! A few people wore jeans to my FSIL's wedding (her DH's side of the family... waaaay upstate!), so the bride was probably saying in a round-about way... NO JEANS!
Have fun!
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| Posted 9/25/08 12:06 PM |
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tourist
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Re: Wedding Help!
Posted by mommy2bella
"Black Tie--that means tuxedos and suits for the men and cocktail dresses and gowns for the ladies."
That's not what blac k tie menas! There desription is more like "Regular evening NY wedding, but you can get a little fancier if you want."
They say suits & coctail dresses are fine, so your outfits sound good. Like others said, I think they are trying to prevent people from either coming business casual, or in jeans, or in club wear.
Why didn't they just put "Formal Attire" on the invite?
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| Posted 9/25/08 5:54 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Wedding Help!
Posted by Shorty
they probably just worded it that way because out of state weddings don't always have a dress code. I've seen jeans and pants at them!
I'm sure your dress is perfect.
I agree. I think you'll be fine.
Are these former tri-state residents getting married down south? If so that's probably the reason for the letter. People out of state have interesting attire when it comes to weddings.
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| Posted 9/26/08 12:13 AM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: Wedding Help!
it sounds to me like she meant to say "black tie optional" but missed the mark
ITA with the others that OOS weddings are not the big to-do that NY weddings are. She was probably just trying to avoid the jeans and shorts in her pics.
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| Posted 9/26/08 10:33 AM |
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Diana712
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Re: Wedding Help!
For some reason OOS weddings are not as formal.. she has probably been to some there (is she originally from NY?) and saw the difference.. She wants a formal wedding.. i would put DH in a dark suit and you should wear the dress you mentioned.. I am sure she will be very happy with that.. She was being very clear (which is something I have never seen on an invitaion really spelling it out) this way no misunderstandings!! its like get dressed up people!! 
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| Posted 9/26/08 10:43 AM |
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anonttcer
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Re: Wedding Help!
I think your dress should be fine - the wording said cocktail dresses and gowns- that dress seems like it qualifies as a cocktail dress.
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| Posted 9/26/08 10:58 AM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: Wedding Help!
Thanks everyone...
I know the wording was definitely not what black tie is.
They live in Cali and the groom is from Middletown...I think SHE is from Georgia.
It was weird. I almost want to scan the doc and show it 
Now I just have to figure out my heel situation, since I haven't worn heels since I broke my foot in July!
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| Posted 9/29/08 2:51 PM |
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bluegreen08
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Re: Wedding Help!
I think you're fine. That isnt the correct def'n for black tie, but I agree with the others who said OOT weddings can be a lot more casual and she just did what she felt she had to to make the guests dress appropriately for her formal affair.
A friend of mine went to a cousin's wedding in TN and posted pictures on facebook -- if you can believe it, the MOG changed after the ceremony into JEANS and a SWEATER with her hair back in a claw clip!!!!!  (and they werent even nice jeans, they were "mom jeans")
Apparently 2 of the bridesmaids changed for the reception too.... out of their BM dresses and into jeans. 
It was like a trainwreck-- hurts to look but you can't help it.... the mother/son dance pictures of him in a tux and her in the sweater/jeans....  i saved the pictures 
in short, be glad she gave a dress code and just wear what you had planned
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| Posted 9/29/08 5:49 PM |
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NASP09
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Let us know how it goes
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