When is it going to stop hurting when..

people tell me they are pregnant? Dh had lunch with someone this summer who said she was starting to try. He calls her to see if her and Dh want to go to the Beer Garden tonight.. Can't, she's 4 months preggo..

Dh told me and all I said was, "freaking great". I can't even be a little happy for her.

My one year date from my miscarriage is coming up on the 30th and this was the cycle that I got pregnant on last year. And my brother replapsed and my whole family is fighting.. So, I guess I am negative, depressed and emotional anyway.. but, really there was not one bit of happiness when he told me that. Not one. That is awful.

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I don't think it ever stops hurting

You definitely have a lot going on right now and its ok to be upset. We are all here for you!

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I remember when I was trying to get pregnant the first time it seemed that EVERYONE around me was getting pregnant - both my sister-in-laws got pregnant at the same time, and half of our friends were getting "oops" pregnant. One girl went as far as to complain that she was pregnant? I couldn't believe the words that were coming out of her mouth. I would have killed to have that "problem".

This is such an emotional process and it sounds like you have a lot going on right now. You have every right to be upset! BIG HUGS!!!

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I'm sorry, but I don't think it ever stops. I wish I could say it was different, but for me, there is always a twinge.

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I am so sorry...

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I don't think it ever stops hurting...you just learn how to deal with it.

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I"m so sorry and I can tell you that it doesn't ever really go away. You just get better at dealing with it...

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I feel like it never stops and now some are on their second child and I can't even have one

It really $ucks!

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I am so sorry

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Ugh.. Now Dh might have the story wrong.. because, well, he's male. But he said she just found out that she's four months preggo and hadn't even started trying yet. She went of BCP and just fell pregnant

Thanks girls At least I am not alone in these feelings.

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I totally understand everything you feel.

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i AM IN THE SAME EXACT BOAT.. I guess it wont stop hurting until we get ours.. This is exactly my 1 year also from my miscarriage.

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It doesn't stop hurting, but you learn to put up a front and grin and bear it. At least I did. It still wrenches my heart, though, when I hear someone getting pregnant reallyt easily. And it's not their fault, obviously, it's my own. But I can't help it.

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My four best friends all had babies last year. I work with two of them, so their bellies were in my face every day. My child should have been born right in the middle, it wasn't meant to be.

One was an "oops", one happened the first month they tried, and the other two know what I'm going through because they tried for three months each. Yeah... Whatever...

It took me longer to get pg the first time and then I lost mine and haven't been pg since. It's not fair and it sucks.

Two friends are ttc #2 now. I am confident that they will be pg again before I am again. I'm just waiting for them to announce. It does hurt. You cry, you deal and you get through it.

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Ya know, I never really felt like this when I was going through all my stuff. I guess I just always thought if it as I would never wish what I was going through on anyone else so I was happy to hear people had an easier time with it. It was when I heard horrible stories on the news that I really freaked out