WWYD?

DH's (distant) cousin had a baby in October. They're having her christening a week from Saturday- which we were JUST told about, even though the invite came over 2 weeks ago (my ILs forgot to mention it to us b/c the invite only went to their house for everyone).
I don't know how I feel about going to this. These people got married after us, and already have a baby, while we're still trying... I can't help but wonder how many of DH's family know we're about to go thru IVF, and I don't want to be the talk of the party, if we're not there. At the same time, I don't know that I want to be around babies, and something focused completely on a baby (hope that doesn't sound bad )
I KNOW now that my SIL knows we're going to be going thru IVF that ALL of DH's cousins will know, because it'll just be 'small talk' for her- and any opportunity she gets to gossip she takes, regardless of who it is... but I also know if we're there we'll be at the same table as her, so the odds are she would't tell the whole table w/ me or DH sitting there.
Part of me feels like maybe I should just suck it up and go, since maybe my optimism for my upcoming IVF cycle will get me thru the few hours that we're there- and if not, I can always find an excuse to leave early. Then part of me wants to ignore it all together. We've skipped all of the events like this in the last couple of years because of me, and I know my ILs don't understand how we're always busy, even though they haven't called me out on it yet.
The main reason I would want to go is to see a lot of DHs older relatives who we haven't seen in a while- it seems like for the past few years the only events have been birth related things (which I've skipped all of) or death related things... so we really haven't seen his family. Any thoughts?

Message edited 6/19/2008 9:58:33 AM.

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Just go and deflect the questions. I know its hard and it always kills, but one day it'll be your baby's christening and you wouldn't want anyone to skip the celebration.. Go and try to have fun , you usually have a good time when you least expect it.

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we all have difficult sitautions to deal with and we all handle it however we can. Do what you want. No body here can tell you what to do

All our friends are now on their second baby, and we were one of the first to marry - its life

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I would go -
If for no other reason, to deflect the inevitable Q&A and avoid the gosspip. NO ONE has to know you are going through IVF, or anything else.

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I would "suck it up" and go. I know it's hard, but life happens, and you can't ignore it forever. One day it WILL be you and your baby

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I think its a matter of where you're at. Why go some place where you're going to be miserable? Me, I would go, but I'm also not that effected by those with babies...I oogle and go crazy over babies. They dont make me sad. I just know I'm going to have one sooner or later and bestow effection on the babies that are in my life until "mine" comes along

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BTW, just wanted to add...if you don't attend enough events then when you do have a DC they may not attend yours.