Would you be upset?

Thanks everyone.

Message edited 1/16/2006 9:47:10 AM.

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Upset? ....no, not at all.
worried- yes of course..

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worried

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Well it would depend on what it was for.
For depression, anxiety, mood- YES because in the end how he behaved could affect our relationship.
High BP, Cholesterol- somewhat unless I knew he stopped because he was hardcore about diet and exercise so he wouldn't need meds.

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Thanks.

Message edited 1/16/2006 9:47:24 AM.

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Well have you asked him why he didnt tell you ? I would say thats a problem right there? I would focus first on that. If he was afraid, or worried or what that he didnt tell you? I would be more hurt and then once we discussed it, he would likley be more open to discussing starting back up etc.

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Message edited 1/16/2006 9:47:38 AM.

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I'd def. be worried.

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Well lets look at thing from his point of view...nobody like to be dependant on medications...so maybe he felt he didnt need them anymore or want to live without having to take them...if he would have told you, every little spat would have been blamed on the fact that he didnt take his meds...give the guy a break at let just this time...

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Yes, I think I would be if it was something long-term and perhaps important to his well being.

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i would be more concerned. i hope it gets better

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Message edited 1/16/2006 9:47:53 AM.

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Posted by prncssrachel

Posted by CAJ

Well lets look at thing from his point of view...nobody like to be dependant on medications...so maybe he felt he didnt need them anymore or want to live without having to take them...if he would have told you, every little spat would have been blamed on the fact that he didnt take his meds...give the guy a break at let just this time...

I'm sorry, but I find this unfair. This is assuming that I am that kind of person who would blame our fights on whether or not he takes a pill, which is far from the case. I know you are just trying to be supportive, but it's NOT the medication that is the issue here. It's the fact that he didn't tell me.
I share everything with my husband, and it upsets me that he did not share this with me.

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I would be upset AND worried. If the doctor decided that the anxiety was serious enough to prescribe medication, then I would be upset that he decided to stop taking it before discussing it with me or the doctor. The anxiety affects both of you, since you are the one that has to deal with the aftermath of the attacks, if he has them, and being pregnant, I would say you are under enough stress as it is.

He should talk to the doctor. Maybe he can prescribe something else that wouldn't have the same side effects for him. Different meds affect people differently and the doctor might be able to recommend another type.

ETA: I just read some of the things posted after I wrote this. I would also be upset that he didn't tell me. I expect him to talk to me about this type of stuff.

Message edited 1/16/2006 9:06:40 AM.

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Posted by prncssrachel

Posted by CAJ

Well lets look at thing from his point of view...nobody like to be dependant on medications...so maybe he felt he didnt need them anymore or want to live without having to take them...if he would have told you, every little spat would have been blamed on the fact that he didnt take his meds...give the guy a break at let just this time...

I'm sorry, but I find this unfair. This is assuming that I am that kind of person who would blame our fights on whether or not he takes a pill, which is far from the case. I know you are just trying to be supportive, but it's NOT the medication that is the issue here. It's the fact that he didn't tell me.
I share everything with my husband, and it upsets me that he did not share this with me.

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It does seem like your MAD he didnt tell you. From an outside prespective which is what I think your asking for. I think Mad is not the approach. You should be upset yes and want to make sure your husband understands you wont lecture, judge or make him feel bad about decisions so he donest ever want to not tell you something again.

If It were me, I would completly forget about what it was exactly he didnt tell you ( even when its as serious as meds) and focus on how to make things right between you two so it wont happen again. IMO that would resolve some of his and your anxiety right away and you can move on to actually discussing the med taking with him.

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etd. for your privacy. - I've FM'ed you.

Message edited 1/16/2006 9:49:14 AM.

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fm

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