Getting DH to understand what you are going through

Any tips that have worked?

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

i told mine i was gonna get him one of those fake bellies so he can feel what its like to carry around all this extra weight lol

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

get him the book "pregnancy s ucks for men" - you should also get "pregnancy s ucks" for yourself. they are two very funny, intelligent books written by a husband and wife and i think it really helped my husband to realize i wasn't making this sh!t up

keep in mind that without a big belly NO man is going to be able to understand what you are going through... hormones are just a foreign concept to them, especially when it's not brought about by AF.

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

Posted by Jul1013

Posted by headoverheels

keep in mind that without a big belly NO man is going to be able to understand what you are going through... hormones are just a foreign concept to them, especially when it's not brought about by AF.

Well said! Mine thinks the tiredness is all on my head, he laughs and rolls his eyes

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

Good luck. I haven't found anything that works. I am having an easy pregnancy (knock on wood) but he rolls his eyes any time I do complain like I am making it up.

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

aw, I think that with my DH too.. its like he doesnt want to hear about my aches and pains.. i think all he thinks is that pregnancy=big belly.

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

DH is pretty good about things... he is definitely pulling extra weight around the home... I don't have any mood swings, and as of yet, most of the symptoms I experience he has empathy for me... He just gets a little annoyed when I'm super fatigued and begin marathon complaining about things that he can't help improve.... (like back aches during long car rides)

He'll even do non-alcoholic beer runs for me

I think the real trick is to mention some of the symptoms you're having that he can relate to.... constipation, back aches, leg cramps.... you don't have to be pregnant to have those, and everyone knows how annoying they are....

Message edited 5/20/2008 11:33:56 AM.

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

My DH has been pretty good with being understanding, although he doesn't understand how I can be so tired all of the time. He keeps telling me that if I keep moving and continue being active that I'll be more energetic. I read a stat recently that said that a pregnant woman puts off as much energy lying on the couch as a man at the gym and he told me I'm ridiculous.

He also wonders why my nesting hasn't kicked in yet and why the house isn't spotless.

eta: in answer to your actual question, he has been reading a couple of books and has come to my appointments with me...I think this has helped him to better understand what's going on and what I'm going through.

Message edited 5/20/2008 12:32:08 PM.

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

Posted by headoverheels

get him the book "pregnancy s ucks for men" - you should also get "pregnancy s ucks" for yourself. they are two very funny, intelligent books written by a husband and wife and i think it really helped my husband to realize i wasn't making this sh!t up

keep in mind that without a big belly NO man is going to be able to understand what you are going through... hormones are just a foreign concept to them, especially when it's not brought about by AF.

Re: Getting DH to understand what you are going through

I agree! Some guys think we're making it up to get sympathy. :P

Either that or he thinks we read about them or heard our pregnant friends complaining about them then start developing them psychosomatically. :P

Men are so unsympathetic!

My husband thought I was making up the part about not being able to change cat litter! I made him talk to his mom (who owned cats and was pregnant 3 times) before he caved in.