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SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!
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So what do you say...
to your cousin who just lost her best friend and soul mate 
her husband died yesterday after a 2 1/2 year battle with cancer. he was suffering so much, but it doesn't make losing any easier. 
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Posted 5/17/08 8:22 AM  |
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MsSissy
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Re: So what do you say...
I'm so sorry
I don't think there is really much you can say.
Just be there to listen when she needs it, a shoulder to cry on when she needs it and a offer a helping hand wherever and whenever she needs one.
I can't even imagine
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| Posted 5/17/08 8:25 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!
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Re: So what do you say...
Posted by Mssissy
I'm so sorry
I don't think there is really much you can say.
Just be there to listen when she needs it, a shoulder to cry on when she needs it and a offer a helping hand wherever and whenever she needs one.
I can't even imagine
she lives in VA and there is no funeral. she is having him creamted - per his wishes. I don't know when I will see her again - but I want to do something
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| Posted 5/17/08 8:27 AM |
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Chrisnamy
Summer is coming soon
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Amy
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Re: So what do you say...
I'm so sorry for your cousin!
How heartbroken she must be.
i'm sorry for you also...because you obviously care so much for your cousin.
Message edited 5/17/2008 8:55:29 AM.
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| Posted 5/17/08 8:50 AM |
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KGools
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Re: So what do you say...
That is so terrible... I'm so sorry  
There really is nothing you can say except how sorry you are and how you wish you could be there with her right now and tell her how amazing he was as a person, friend, and husband. Honestly, at this point, she's probably not hearing anything anyone is saying to her, but a call letting her know that you are thinking of her and love her could help.
If you could CitySearch a deli in her area that delivers, you could order her some trays of food to be sent to her house... that might be nice.
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| Posted 5/17/08 9:03 AM |
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EckoRed81504
We are complete <3
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April
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| Posted 5/17/08 9:49 AM |
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DaniJude
You're My Home <3
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Danielle
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Re: So what do you say...
i wouldn't even know what to say.
sometimes - there isn't anything you CAN say - you can just be there for her and offer a shouler to lean on and someone to hold her when she is crying. i'm very sorry for her loss and for what she is going through.
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| Posted 5/17/08 11:55 AM |
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hunnybunnyxoxo
this is what it's all about
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Re: So what do you say...
aww im so sorry!
i think the best thing you can do is just be there for her.
maybe you can make a dish of food like lasagna or baked mac and cheese for her...
- im sure she wont eat but maybe in a few days she'll come around to it.
she is not going to have the want or need to cook so a food entree might come in handy
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| Posted 5/17/08 11:59 AM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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| Posted 5/17/08 12:00 PM |
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Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!
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Re: So what do you say...
OMG...I'm so sorry...
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| Posted 5/17/08 12:00 PM |
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You can call her and cry hysterically on the phone like I just did earlier to my cousin... I'm sure that would help! 
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| Posted 5/17/08 1:05 PM |
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Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
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I'm so sorry D!
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| Posted 5/17/08 1:08 PM |
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Songwriter76
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Re: So what do you say...
I think this is a beautiful way to look at death and it helps me a lot:
Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Everything remains as it was.
The old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no sorrow in your tone.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting, when we meet again.
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| Posted 5/17/08 1:42 PM |
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Katie111806
Team Pink!
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Re: So what do you say...
My cousin lost her husband in February after a battle with cancer as well. It has been very tough and all I can do is be there for her when she needs me.
I'm so sorry for the loss!
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| Posted 5/17/08 1:49 PM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
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Dina
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Re: So what do you say...
Here's what I would say and do:
1) I think all you can say is that is S ucks and if she needs anything AT ALL to call you, no matter when it is.
2) Bring food over to her house after everyone "leaves". Be there for her the one - two weeks AFTER the funeral and wake. If she has kids, babysit, offer to do laundry, drop off dinners, etc.
I am so sorry for your loss
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| Posted 5/17/08 3:47 PM |
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Diana712
RIP my beloved Brother Richard
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Re: So what do you say...
When my father passed away.. My Grandmother sat next to me and put her arm around me and said... "We are all just passing through" This made me realize that yes we are.. This was 15 years ago and I never forgot it... It somehow to me eased the pain..
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| Posted 5/17/08 4:42 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
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Leslie
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Re: So what do you say...
I honestly would not know what to say. I am so sorry for her loss.
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| Posted 5/17/08 4:54 PM |
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I cannot even begin to imagine. My heart goes out to her.
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| Posted 5/17/08 8:04 PM |
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