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GraciesMom
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My strategy backfired!!!
My daughter will be 9 months next week and has been waking up every night for the past month. She stands up and cries until I come in and rock her back to sleep. When I put her back in her crib (asleep) I pray that she will stay that way. Sometimes she lasts 15 minutes, sometimes an hour and if she feels like pulling off a miracle 3 hours. I get back into bed with such anxiety that she is going to wake up that I can't fall back to sleep. So last night we decided to let her cry thinking she just wanted me to come in. We let her cry for 5 minutes, I went in put her back down andleft again and let her cry 5 more minutes. I went back in and she was hysterical and now WIDE awake. She was up from 2-4. I am exhausted as usual. I think we chose the wrong time to let her CIO. Tonight we are going to try to put her in her crib awake at bedtime. We have never done this. I know it is our fault that she has these bad habits now. Anyone have any suggestions?
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BrunetteMom
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
Unfortunately, you need to stop going back in and just close the door and let her cry it out. She keeps crying because you keep going in to soothe her. And it is NOT your fault. All parents go through sitations as these and they are not easy. Take it one day at a time. and Good luck! 
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Marybeth222
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
Posted by GraciesMom
My daughter will be 9 months next week and has been waking up every night for the past month. She stands up and cries until I come in and rock her back to sleep. When I put her back in her crib (asleep) I pray that she will stay that way. Sometimes she lasts 15 minutes, sometimes an hour and if she feels like pulling off a miracle 3 hours. I get back into bed with such anxiety that she is going to wake up that I can't fall back to sleep. So last night we decided to let her cry thinking she just wanted me to come in. We let her cry for 5 minutes, I went in put her back down andleft again and let her cry 5 more minutes. I went back in and she was hysterical and now WIDE awake. She was up from 2-4. I am exhausted as usual. I think we chose the wrong time to let her CIO. Tonight we are going to try to put her in her crib awake at bedtime. We have never done this. I know it is our fault that she has these bad habits now. Anyone have any suggestions?
Is it possible that she's teething. My daughter went through this phase too and it did last a week or so, however, it eventually passed.
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| Posted 1/4/06 9:16 AM |
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GraciesMom
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
She has been doing this for over a month now. First I thought it has to be teething, then she was sick. I think she has gotten use to me "coming to her rescue". We'll see how it goes tonight. I started reading Dr. Weisbluth's book and he says to let them cry for an hour! I can't imagine that! Its going to be a long night. I just hope its not too late to break these habits. Thanks for the advice.
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michele31
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
If it is just happening the last month she may be teething or going thru some anxiety. It has nothing to do with you giving her bad habits.
JMO
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| Posted 1/4/06 10:33 AM |
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mommy2Alex
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
I have a hard time with Alex for naps. He cries and cries. I can't stand letting him cry it out all the time. He is also 9 months. Nighttime is good, but naps is another story. The other day I happened to catch supernanny and she recommended standing next to the crib but not making eye contact. So I have been trying this all week. After I lay him down, I stand at the foot of his crib (parallel) and look straight ahead, I stay until he calms down and starts doozing off. It is working well. Maybe you could try this at night. When she wakes up go in and lay her back down then stand near her crib w/o looking at her until she starts to soothe herself and then leave. She making be waking at night and is experiencing separation aniexty and doesn't know how to get herself back to sleep.
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
My son will be 9 months on Jan 9th and he does the same thing. He has never slept through the night but now if he nurses to sleep I can't get him in the crib without waking up. He starts screaming. I feel so bad I get up and have been bringing him in the bed with us. I know I am starting a bad habit but I am away from him at work for at least 12 hours and the thought of letting him cry it out makes me feel like I abandoning him. I think he misses me plus he is teething. I just can't let him be left alone screaming in his crib.
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GraciesMom
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
Dawnie, How are you? We were due a day apart. I was Reed2be on LIW. How is Justin? (I think that'syour son's name.)
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| Posted 1/4/06 10:58 AM |
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GraciesMom
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Re: My strategy backfired!!!
Posted by mommy2Alex
I have a hard time with Alex for naps. He cries and cries. I can't stand letting him cry it out all the time. He is also 9 months. Nighttime is good, but naps is another story. The other day I happened to catch supernanny and she recommended standing next to the crib but not making eye contact. So I have been trying this all week. After I lay him down, I stand at the foot of his crib (parallel) and look straight ahead, I stay until he calms down and starts doozing off. It is working well. Maybe you could try this at night. When she wakes up go in and lay her back down then stand near her crib w/o looking at her until she starts to soothe herself and then leave. She making be waking at night and is experiencing separation aniexty and doesn't know how to get herself back to sleep.
Oh forget about naps. She still naps in her bouncy. Another routine I am starting to regret. I do stand next to her crib during the night and then try to sneak away. I think the problem really escalated when she learned to pull herself up. Thanks for the suggestions. I will try anything at this point. But I am glad to hear that I am not alone.
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