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SweetTooth
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question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
We got an invitation to my cousin's bat mitzvah yesterday. On the bottom there is a little picture of a bowtie and next to it says "invited"
What does this mean?
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Posted 4/10/08 9:14 AM  |
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MrsRbk
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
 maybe black tie optional?
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:15 AM |
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
I've never seen that, but I would guess it means that guys should feel free to wear black tie, but it's not required...just like black tie optional
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:17 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by MrsRbk
maybe black tie optional?
this is what I was thinking, but would you make an event with all those kids black tie? I don't have a dress thats anywhere near black tie, and really don't want to buy one.
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:18 AM |
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by SweetTooth
Posted by MrsRbk
maybe black tie optional?
this is what I was thinking, but would you make an event with all those kids black tie? I don't have a dress thats anywhere near black tie, and really don't want to buy one.
Yeah, some people do. I've been to a number of black time bar/bat mitzvah's.
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:22 AM |
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
I think I have seen/heard of that. I think it's black tie optional, but with the word "invited" in lieu of "optional". They think it either sounds more elegant, or they are telling you-- we want you to dress black even thought it's not mandatory.
I personally think it's stupid, just make it black tie, or not.
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:37 AM |
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
This is not that unusuall for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah, and many times they make it optional expecting the adults to go with it, but many of the kids do not.
I think they just played with the working, as another poster mentioned, to make it sound more like a request than an option, KWIM?
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by MsMBV
This is not that unusuall for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah, and many times they make it optional expecting the adults to go with it, but many of the kids do not.
I think they just played with the working, as another poster mentioned, to make it sound more like a request than an option, KWIM?
Agreed on all counts.
Adults - Black Tie
Kids - Suits....
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:53 AM |
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Maybe that DH is also invited? I've never seen that before, so I'm just making a wild guess.
Sort of like the  smilie here to indicate DH....
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| Posted 4/10/08 10:11 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by GoldenRod
Maybe that DH is also invited? I've never seen that before, so I'm just making a wild guess.
Sort of like the smilie here to indicate DH....
Hmm, interesting theory.
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| Posted 4/10/08 10:39 AM |
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by SweetTooth
Posted by GoldenRod
Maybe that DH is also invited? I've never seen that before, so I'm just making a wild guess.
Sort of like the smilie here to indicate DH....
Hmm, interesting theory.
That is interesting, but wouldn't the envelope say Mr & Mrs? What if you aren't married? Are they implying you have to bring a date then? And then the invite should be Ms. & Guest.
I'm going with the black tie optional theory but adding that since it is not mandatory you don't have to buy a whole new dress, just whichever is the dressiest.
HTH
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by SweetTooth
Posted by GoldenRod
Maybe that DH is also invited? I've never seen that before, so I'm just making a wild guess.
Sort of like the smilie here to indicate DH....
Hmm, interesting theory.
I'm full of interesting theories.... 
The black tie optional idea makes more sense, but everyone else already said that. I didn't want to just say "ITA", so I figured I'd start my own conspiracy theory... 
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
It DEFINITELY means "Black Tie Invited", trust me, I know these things 
Its a little more forceful or insistent than "Black Tie Optional" ... they didn't want to come out and just state "Black Tie" so they added the "Invited" to soften the request.
I would still say that a dark suit with a white shirt is acceptable for your DH.
And I would probably wear a formal gown ... or at least a long dress.
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| Posted 4/10/08 11:21 AM |
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
very simple, bowties are invited
in other words, if you want to leave your DH at home and bring a bowtie thats fine
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by PreshusSmurf
It DEFINITELY means "Black Tie Invited", trust me, I know these things
Its a little more forceful or insistent than "Black Tie Optional" ... they didn't want to come out and just state "Black Tie" so they added the "Invited" to soften the request.
I would still say that a dark suit with a white shirt is acceptable for your DH.
And I would probably wear a formal gown ... or at least a long dress.
I'm with the expert!
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by randella
I think I have seen/heard of that. I think it's black tie optional, but with the word "invited" in lieu of "optional". They think it either sounds more elegant, or they are telling you-- we want you to dress black even thought it's not mandatory.
I personally think it's stupid, just make it black tie, or not.
I agree.
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Here are invitations with the bowtie symbol so you can see what it actually looks like ....
(these aren't the invitation the OP rec'd, just invitations that have the "bowtie")
Message edited 4/10/2008 1:40:58 PM.
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SweetTooth
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
Posted by Laura1976
very simple, bowties are invited
in other words, if you want to leave your DH at home and bring a bowtie thats fine
Well, we're going to have to make do with what we have. DH only ones one suit and I don't really have any dresses that are considered black tie. We don't have the $ to buy new clothes and give her a gift on top of it, so they're going to have to live with our non black-tie attire. Thats better than not attending, right?
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Re: question about an invitation I recieved yeterday
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Posted by GoldenRod
Maybe that DH is also invited? I've never seen that before, so I'm just making a wild guess.
Sort of like the smilie here to indicate DH....
Hmm, interesting theory.
that's actually the first thing I thought
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