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Lucky09
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Invited to a shower, but then told...
"don't feel obligated to come."
What does this mean exactly?  DH's college friend's wife invited me to her baby shower and just sent me an email that she knew I was invited, but that I shouldn't feel obligated to come at all.
It is being held at someone's house. Do you think they are getting too many "yes's" and this is her polite way of telling me not to come?
I sort of wanted to go to meet some new people in my area.
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
I wouldn't take it that way.
Maybe she thinks you would be uncomfortable since you won't know too many people.
I would still go and mingle. Have a good time
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| Posted 3/20/08 4:50 PM |
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Beth
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Mssissy
I wouldn't take it that way.
Maybe she thinks you would be uncomfortable since you won't know too many people.
I would still go and mingle. Have a good time
totally agree- maybe she felt like you wouldn't want to come- or it would look like she was asking for gifts??????
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| Posted 3/20/08 4:51 PM |
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Lucky09
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by Mssissy
I wouldn't take it that way.
Maybe she thinks you would be uncomfortable since you won't know too many people.
I would still go and mingle. Have a good time
totally agree- maybe she felt like you wouldn't want to come- or it would look like she was asking for gifts??????
Okay, you guys are making me feel better. Maybe it's just the day I had that is making me overly sensitive.
Thanks!
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| Posted 3/20/08 4:52 PM |
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by Mssissy
I wouldn't take it that way.
Maybe she thinks you would be uncomfortable since you won't know too many people.
I would still go and mingle. Have a good time
totally agree- maybe she felt like you wouldn't want to come- or it would look like she was asking for gifts??????
ITA!!!
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
nah.. i just think she feels youll feel uncomfortable and wont know anyone. I think she was trying to let you know it was okay if you didnt want to go b/c of not knowing anyone.
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| Posted 3/20/08 4:54 PM |
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donegal419
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Mssissy
I wouldn't take it that way.
Maybe she thinks you would be uncomfortable since you won't know too many people.
I would still go and mingle. Have a good time
yes, i would take it this way as well... or considering the relationship between you and her is a bit distant... your husbadn's friend's wife.... for example, i didn't have DH's friends' SO at my shower.... she probably just doesn't want you to feel like you have to come if you're not comfortable.
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| Posted 3/20/08 4:55 PM |
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Christine
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
I think she's letting you off the hook if you don't feel like going.
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| Posted 3/20/08 4:55 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Christine
I think she's letting you off the hook if you don't feel like going.
I agree. The phrasing is a little weird though, I'd probably wonder too.
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| Posted 3/20/08 5:41 PM |
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by Mssissy
I wouldn't take it that way.
Maybe she thinks you would be uncomfortable since you won't know too many people.
I would still go and mingle. Have a good time
totally agree- maybe she felt like you wouldn't want to come- or it would look like she was asking for gifts??????
That's what I think.
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| Posted 3/20/08 6:43 PM |
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Christine
I think she's letting you off the hook if you don't feel like going.
Probably. But I don't think I would go after that.
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| Posted 3/20/08 6:57 PM |
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Re: Invited to a shower, but then told...
Posted by Lucky09
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by Mssissy
I wouldn't take it that way.
Maybe she thinks you would be uncomfortable since you won't know too many people.
I would still go and mingle. Have a good time
totally agree- maybe she felt like you wouldn't want to come- or it would look like she was asking for gifts??????
Okay, you guys are making me feel better. Maybe it's just the day I had that is making me overly sensitive.
Thanks!
I totally agree with them, too! Also, it's possible that she feels maybe it was "nervy" to invite you since you aren't that close. (Some people are weird about showers.)
I'm sure she was trying to be more polite -- not trying to tell you not to come. I would go and have a great time! 
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