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kerrycec03
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GRRR about a wedding I'm in
Ok, so I'm one of 4 bridesmaids in a good friends wedding. Its me, her sister (MOH) and two girls in Buffalo. Her shower is 4/12 and we were going to do her bachelorette party the same day because of the two bridesmaids in Buffalo. Now the bride tells me via email that one of the Buffalo girls isn't coming down. Ok, what about the other one? Nobody knows and she isn't answering emails or her phone. very shady.
Wedding isn't until 6/28 (I would have done the bachelorette party in May/June but because the bride REALLY wants the Buffalo girls there, which they won't be, we changed everything)
Well, now it basically is two bridesmaids fitting the cost of the extras for her shower. I'm cool with favors and such, but the Buffalo girls were suppose to do the gift, but if they aren't her, they probably won't do that. GRRRR!!!!!
More of a vent.
Message edited 3/10/2008 11:42:25 AM.
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LFitzy79
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
yikes...that really stinks...for you AND for the bride...what about calling the one that's not coming down and asking her what's up with the gift and with the other girl? maybe she'll be a little better about getting back to you.
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| Posted 3/10/08 11:40 AM |
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Kara
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
I'm sorry.
If these girls are close enough to be in the wedding, I cannot imagine that they wouldn't contribute toward a shower gift. (I'm actually surprised they aren't going to the shower -- but that aside, I'd assume they would still be contributing to a shower gift for the bride!)
I'd keep trying the girl. Very odd that she isn't responding at all...
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| Posted 3/10/08 11:41 AM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
btw I can't get Two buffalo gals go around the outside, 'round the outside, 'round the outside out of my head now 
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| Posted 3/10/08 11:41 AM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
Its just annoying because from the get go, we knew they would be difficult with costs because I know its cheaper up there. Luckily the Brides mom is paying for the shower location (very greatful), the MOH paid for the invites and will get lingerie & the shower give aways. I said I'll buy the favors and the Buffalo girls said they will buy the gift (either her pots & pans or a candle poem thing). Now its up to me and the MOH to get the gift I'm sure. So what I budgeted costing me $200 will now cost $400 PLUS the bachelorette party ($150). Not to mention my DH is out of work, but its my good friend and she was there for me, so of course i don't mind, I'm just kinda p***ed with the Buffalo girls. And why not tell the MOH that you aren't coming down, instead of the bride. I mean, the bride already knows everything as per her request, but telling us would be nice as well.
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jxnoscar
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
Posted by Kara
I'm sorry.
If these girls are close enough to be in the wedding, I cannot imagine that they wouldn't contribute toward a shower gift. (I'm actually surprised they aren't going to the shower -- but that aside, I'd assume they would still be contributing to a shower gift for the bride!)
I'd keep trying the girl. Very odd that she isn't responding at all...
Totally agree. Just bc they aren't there doesn't mean that should not pay. That is ridiculous IMO
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Kara
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
Actually, you know what? I shouldn't be surprised. My SILs (both of them) were in my wedding. Neither came to the shower and neither sent a gift. In fact, one of them didn't even have the courtesy to RSVP to the shower. 
I hope these girls are more thoughtful and responsible than that...
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| Posted 3/10/08 11:57 AM |
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CouponKT
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
that is kinda rude for them not to come and not to answer your communcations
I would somehow try to relay that you are ALL a part of the wedding party and somehow responsible to pay for the things that go along with it
just b/c they don't COME to the shower should not mean that their responsibilities go away (gifts or money)
Sorry! 
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Kara
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Posted by BabyCote2006
that is kinda rude for them not to come and not to answer your communcations
I would somehow try to relay that you are ALL a part of the wedding party and somehow responsible to pay for the things that go along with it
just b/c they don't COME to the shower should not mean that their responsibilities go away (gifts or money)
Sorry!
ITA. I would send an email to ALL the bridesmaids and the MOH, giving an update on the shower progress. Then, ask the other girls to send an update -- Something like, "Hey, XX and YY, can you please let us know what you decided to do for the bridal party gift?" or something like that.
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DaniJude
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
Posted by Kara
I'm sorry.
If these girls are close enough to be in the wedding, I cannot imagine that they wouldn't contribute toward a shower gift. (I'm actually surprised they aren't going to the shower -- but that aside, I'd assume they would still be contributing to a shower gift for the bride!)
I'd keep trying the girl. Very odd that she isn't responding at all...
ITA!
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| Posted 3/10/08 1:46 PM |
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LFitzy79
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
question...If the Buffalo girls aren't coming, why don't you reschedule the bach party for another night...that way at least it won't be all that money at the same time....just a thought.
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| Posted 3/10/08 2:45 PM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: GRRR about a wedding I'm in
Man I feel really bad for the bride. She must be kinda down. I'm sorry you got shorted as well!
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