bpmom
Feeling Blessed
Member since 6/07 2963 total posts
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Vent about mothers and MILs
Why do mothers need to do things THEIR way?
They ask you your opinion and your wishes, you think they'll follow them, but BAM! You get the "I hope you didn't have your heart set on that" response when you find out they did something completely different. Pi$$ed off and hormonal....didn't think I would be cranky like this, but I'm ready to scream at her right now.
I am having two showers (against my wishes). The one by my parents' house (off LI) was supposed to be small (6-8 close aunts, cousins). Nope - closer to 18-20 of my mothers and aunts' friends.
The one by my parents' house was supposed to be the day after Christmas or the day before Christmas Eve - nah, why not have it the week after so I have to drive three hours away TWICE when I'm 7 months pregnant?
My mother asked me what kind of food I wanted at the OOT shower - I said Mexican appetizers might be fun...guacamole, salsa, nachos, virgin margaritas OR do something warm and hearty like a great soup with some cute sandwiches. NOPE....she just told me we're having leftover ham, scalloped potatoes and broccoli salad - all leftovers from our Christmas dinner...HUH? Then she just asked me what kind of "snacks" I would like to have - I told her I thought we were having Mexican appetizers - she looked at me like I have two heads...??
I feel bad because I snapped at her and asked why she wanted my opinion if she was going to do something else...I didn't mean it to be rude, but seriously why even ask? It's not like it's MY shower or anything, right?
Then for the LI shower, she and MIL are not on the same page when it comes to food and drink. They are catering it themselves, and my mom wants to keep it as simple as possible while MIL wants to have a nice party. MIL wants us to have wine and cocktails, but my mom has never heard of cocktails at a baby shower and she's fighting it. Cocktails for 45 women could get pricey and I must admit - my mom is cheap and reluctant to pay the extra $. (IMHO, if the lady of honor can't drink the booze, nobody should drink the booze)....not a fight I'm willing to throw down for, though...
They asked if I wanted any games, I said no, then I realized they have their hearts set on two or three quick games. I just saw the folder labeled, "shower games" and it's stocked full of 5-6 paper and pencil games. I had specifically said that I didn't think we should do any games, but the three games I agreed to were kind of interactive - I don't like the word games or the word searches or the Baby version of the Price is Right. When I asked my mom about it, she said she had already bought all the stuff for the games, so "Too bad." TOO BAD? WHAT? Who says that to the daughter you're throwing the shower for?
I understand I am probably being sensitive (or hormonal), but I'm so annoyed right now...I usually like to consider myself a reasonable person but I just don't get the blatant disregard for what I want....It would be one thing if they didn't ask and just did what they want - I'd probably be less upset. But to actually ASK me, and then do the opposite - this is just rude in my opinion.
I feel better just after typing this - I'll probably take this post down 10 min. from now after I feel better. Just needed to vent.
Thanks, girls.
ps 8 weeks to go until baby arrives and I'm hoping I get everything done before I give birth....
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