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ChattyKathy
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Should They Have Told Me?
My friends are a having a house warming party this weekend.
They invited two of my ex-friends who I have had a falling out with. They are starting to talk to them again. I only know they are invited because they sent out an evite. When I put in my response I noticed it was right above one of the girl's repsonse.
I kind of feel like they should have mentioned it, just in case I might feel uncomfortable. I have not talked to these girls in two years.
Am I expecting to much ?
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Posted 11/28/07 11:29 AM  |
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
I think they could have told you out of courtesy. Do they know you don't talk to these girls still?
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:31 AM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
I think they def should have told you
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:33 AM |
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nowanjgirl
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
You probably are expecting too much. Your friend probably didn't even give it a second thought.
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:33 AM |
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ChattyKathy
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
Yes they do. I have two friends that have started talking to them again.
I told them I felt a little annoyed that I am the only one these girls do not talk to. But if I have to be the bad for what happened then I take responsibilty.
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:33 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
sorry, but IMO, it's not their problem - especially since it's been over two years since you had the falling out. unless it was over something really egregious (sp?) i think this time you should jsut suck it up. would you have said no if you knew?
on a side note - is it possible they didn't tell you b/c they didn't want to make a big deal and they knew you'd see it on the evite anyway?
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:34 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
Posted by headoverheels
sorry, but IMO, it's not their problem - especially since it's been over two years since you had the falling out. unless it was over something really egregious (sp?) i think this time you should jsut suck it up. would you have said no if you knew?
on a side note - is it possible they didn't tell you b/c they didn't want to make a big deal and they knew you'd see it on the evite anyway?
ditto
i'm not sure why you had the falling out--but the whole 'you are inviting so-and-so and you should have told me cause i don't like them anymore" is a teeny bit high school-ish. (i'm not meaning to call YOU high school-ish...but i hope you udnerstand how i mean it). your friends probably figured you are all adults and can just be civil and enjoy yourselves and be happy for the friends having the house warming. since its not about you guys and your falling out--its about them wanting their friends to enjoy a nite together.
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:37 AM |
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ChattyKathy
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
I don't know...maybe they thought I'd see it on the evite.
I told them, that I am more then willing to hang out with them again so they don't need to feel like they have to have seperate groups of friends.
But this is the 3rd time that one friend has convinently left out about telling me they are hanging out with these two girls so it makes me a suspicious.
I figured I was expecting to much. I just know that I would have let my friends know if I had invited someone they would have felt uncomfortable about seeing.
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:39 AM |
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ChattyKathy
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
By the way none of your opinions offend me...I welcome them.
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:40 AM |
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luckysmom
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by headoverheels
sorry, but IMO, it's not their problem - especially since it's been over two years since you had the falling out. unless it was over something really egregious (sp?) i think this time you should jsut suck it up. would you have said no if you knew?
on a side note - is it possible they didn't tell you b/c they didn't want to make a big deal and they knew you'd see it on the evite anyway?
ditto
i'm not sure why you had the falling out--but the whole 'you are inviting so-and-so and you should have told me cause i don't like them anymore" is a teeny bit high school-ish. (i'm not meaning to call YOU high school-ish...but i hope you udnerstand how i mean it). your friends probably figured you are all adults and can just be civil and enjoy yourselves and be happy for the friends having the house warming. since its not about you guys and your falling out--its about them wanting their friends to enjoy a nite together.
Sorry but i agree here. Just because you had a falling out with these 2 girls doesn;t mean your friend should not invite them or hang out with them. If you think about it, it kind of puts your friend in an awkward situation as well. She knows the 3 of you do not get along and she doesn't want to have to choose who she should invite. She should be able to have all her friends there. Even if some of them don't get along. There will be other people there you dont have to talk to them
Good luck 
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:54 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
I dont think they needed to tell you. The both of you should be able to put your issues on hold for the sake of your friend.
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:57 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
Posted by luckysmom
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by headoverheels
sorry, but IMO, it's not their problem - especially since it's been over two years since you had the falling out. unless it was over something really egregious (sp?) i think this time you should jsut suck it up. would you have said no if you knew?
on a side note - is it possible they didn't tell you b/c they didn't want to make a big deal and they knew you'd see it on the evite anyway?
ditto
i'm not sure why you had the falling out--but the whole 'you are inviting so-and-so and you should have told me cause i don't like them anymore" is a teeny bit high school-ish. (i'm not meaning to call YOU high school-ish...but i hope you udnerstand how i mean it). your friends probably figured you are all adults and can just be civil and enjoy yourselves and be happy for the friends having the house warming. since its not about you guys and your falling out--its about them wanting their friends to enjoy a nite together.
Sorry but i agree here. Just because you had a falling out with these 2 girls doesn;t mean your friend should not invite them or hang out with them. If you think about it, it kind of puts your friend in an awkward situation as well. She knows the 3 of you do not get along and she doesn't want to have to choose who she should invite. She should be able to have all her friends there. Even if some of them don't get along. There will be other people there you dont have to talk to them
Good luck
I used to have a friend like this; wouldn't hang out if friend B was hanging out, etc. It got to be too much maintenance and I felt like I was restricted when having a larger occasion who I wanted there. I'm no longer friends with her and it's made life easy for me. It's a hard call when you are planning events etc. to keep track of who is friendly with whom. It even happened within the family and that was even stickier
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| Posted 11/28/07 11:59 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
Posted by ChattyKathy
I told them, that I am more then willing to hang out with them again so they don't need to feel like they have to have seperate groups of friends.
Because of this, and it was an evite (so you can see who is invited and who wasn't) and the falling out happened 2 years ago, I don't think they need to tell you. Especially since it sounds like you have all be in the same place before and its been fine.
Message edited 11/28/2007 12:27:43 PM.
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june262004
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Re: Should They Have Told Me?
Posted by headoverheels
sorry, but IMO, it's not their problem - especially since it's been over two years since you had the falling out. unless it was over something really egregious (sp?) i think this time you should jsut suck it up. would you have said no if you knew?
on a side note - is it possible they didn't tell you b/c they didn't want to make a big deal and they knew you'd see it on the evite anyway?
I agree,
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