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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
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so disgusted with mil right now...
i'm not really involved with the planning of my shower. however, my dh and i wrote the list for his side b/c i knew my mil would want to invite eveyone under the sun. so we put the list together about 2 months ago and called it a day.
sure enough, mil gets wind of who is left off and calls my sister to have people added. my sister tells her to call her son and speak to him. she never does and a few weeks later calls my sister AGAIN and tells her to add these people to the list. b/c they are all going on vaca the week of the shower and none will be able to make it. who are all these people you ask? my mil cousins. thats right, my dh's 2nd and 3rd cousins. for my baby shower. and they are coming to the shower. they are not going away, they are coming.
my mil is so manipulative to do this and she is not paying a dime towards this shower. and these people are so far removed family wise, i don't know why they have to be there.
sorry for the rany, but i am so disgusted with her i don't even want to talk to her.
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alexlynn7
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Re: so disgusted with mil right now...
wow, that is so RUDE. how could she invite people to an event that she is not contributing towards? now YOU have to pay for the people SHE invited?!?! 
can you ask her to pay for the extra guests??
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| Posted 9/9/07 9:15 AM |
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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
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Re: so disgusted with mil right now...
i can ask, but it won't do any good. she'll offer to "help" and maybe contribute $200. which seems like a lot, but its not when you factor in the favors and cp's and the place itself.
i am so annoyoyed with her, i don't even want to go to my own shower.
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| Posted 9/9/07 9:17 AM |
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Theresa05
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Re: so disgusted with mil right now...
I would tell my sister FLAT out, I don't want these people there...
its NOT your MIL shower
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| Posted 9/9/07 11:45 AM |
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NewlyMrs
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Re: so disgusted with mil right now...
I would also flat out (or have my DH tell her) that if she wants these people there, then help pay for the shower, if not, they are not invited.
IMO, I think both sides should help pay for it anyway (since we are not married and it's for us both really), but that is just me.
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| Posted 9/9/07 11:50 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: so disgusted with mil right now...
Posted by NewlyMrs
IMO, I think both sides should help pay for it anyway (since we are not married and it's for us both really), but that is just me.
That would be hysterical for us since my MIL didn't even RSVP for my shower
Anyway, on topic, I think your DH should handle this, he should call her and tell her since it turns out they are not going to be on vaca that she does have to help cover their plates at the very least.
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| Posted 9/9/07 11:54 AM |
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alexlynn7
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Re: so disgusted with mil right now...
Posted by saraH
i can ask, but it won't do any good. she'll offer to "help" and maybe contribute $200. which seems like a lot, but its not when you factor in the favors and cp's and the place itself.
i am so annoyoyed with her, i don't even want to go to my own shower.
could you calculate approximately how much the extra guests are going to cost and then ask her for it?
that would make me SO MAD... 
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| Posted 9/9/07 11:55 AM |
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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
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Re: so disgusted with mil right now...
I can't say anything to her, b/c again, i'm not supposted to know. and my mom offered to pay for my shower. i don't think she expected help from my mil, after the bridal shower fiascso.
i apprecite the input, but really my mil is a sneaky person and i knew this would happen. and when we made the list originally my dh told his mom that the cousins were not going to be invited.
i think its way too far of a relation from my dh to be invited to my baby shower.
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| Posted 9/9/07 12:19 PM |
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