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Please Put me in my place......
Having just bought 2 shower gifts for 2 relatives getting married, I'm feeling really resentful that I never had a shower and my in laws did NOTHING for my wedding.
They didn't pay for anything, didn't even offer, yet invited about 12 of their friends. This was really wrong, but I went with it b/c I didn't want to stir any waves in the beginning of a new marraige.
Its not so much the money that I am so resentful about, or the fact that I didn't have a shower, etc., but don't you think it would have been nice if my MIL had done something nice, like throw a shower for me? THe 2 showers I'm going to are being thrown by either Mom's or MILs.
My own Mom passed away....I think it would have been nice if MIL did something for me.
Sorry to sound like a brat.
Vent over. 
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
You have every reason to feel the way you are feeling. It would have been nice if your MIL would have stepped in and did something for you. I can totally understand your anger/frustration.
 Here's a hug!
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| Posted 9/3/07 5:23 PM |
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jprimrose
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
Posted by DeniseMarie
You have every reason to feel the way you are feeling. It would have been nice if your MIL would have stepped in and did something for you. I can totally understand your anger/frustration.
Here's a hug!
I totally agree. I am so sorry. Try not to let the anger and frustration get the best of you. Just remember you are a better person than her. She has to live with herself. 
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| Posted 9/3/07 5:36 PM |
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nowanjgirl
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
I can see why you are upset. Yes, your mother in law should have stepped in and thrown you a shower. As I get older though I realize that some people are clueless and just don't think of things like that.
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| Posted 9/3/07 7:54 PM |
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Chrisnamy
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
I feel your pain.
My parents have both passed and we did everything on our own.
They didn't help with anything. Not even the Rehersal dinner or a shower gift.
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| Posted 9/4/07 11:52 AM |
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butterfly20
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
wow, id definately be upset.... she should want to try and be most like a mother to you
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| Posted 9/9/07 8:54 PM |
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
sorry that I can't put you in your place.
It's totally understandable.
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| Posted 9/11/07 11:59 AM |
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
Are you close to your MIL? Were you close around the time you and dh were getting married? Maybe she felt uncomfortable throwing you a shower. Some people come from the school of thought that your bridal party should do that. Why didn't your MOH do anything like that? I guess I would feel hurt that you didn't have one, but did you express that to anyone? Did people KNOW you wanted one?
As far as the wedding...did you speak to your husband about how you felt? I understand they invited 12 friends but were they close to your husband also? Were they people you guys knew? I'm not trying to take sides but it's hard to help when you don't know much......not everyone's parents contribute to the wedding. DH's family didn't give anything and my MIL never came to my shower due to her work sched. I guess I need more info about the situation....
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| Posted 9/11/07 11:06 PM |
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cromano1118
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
You have every right to be upset... my MIL tried to invite a bunch of people too and wanted me to change the reception room... I refused b/c it was MY day, NOT hers.
I think that there are just some people out there that are positively selfish and cant think of anyone but themselves.
I am evil and would make a comment to her something like... "I'm so busy over the next few weeks... with two bridal showers to go to, etc... that is one thing I'm sad I missed out on. I would love to have had that memory. 
Ultimately though the important thing is that you are happy in your marriage and that your DH is good to you.
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| Posted 9/17/07 2:35 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
I would be hurt and feel the same way. Your feelings are totally understandable.
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| Posted 9/17/07 11:20 PM |
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PegaLega
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
You have every right to feel that way, I would be upset too. My MIL was very helpful so I cant really imagine why your MIL wouldnt want to do something nice for you
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| Posted 9/21/07 2:18 AM |
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bayla
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
you def have every right to feel this way, my SIL's mother passed a long time ago and when she married my BIL (DH's brother) my MIL threw her a shower. I am so sorry its bothering you
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| Posted 9/22/07 2:55 PM |
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mooshyboo
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
I am sorry I would have probably been upset also... here is a huggy for you....
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| Posted 11/1/07 11:48 AM |
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Chrisnamy
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Re: Please Put me in my place......
Sorry!
Message edited 11/1/2007 12:31:47 PM.
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