| Posted By |
Message |
Melbernai
I am a lucky Momma!
Member since 7/05 15652 total posts
Name:
Melissa
|
Nasty E-mail
(Okay, am I completely off my rocker for being ****** about this?
A friend of mine who I've known for a long time but didn't talk to for about 3 years because we had a falling out -- and only recently reconnected when I was getting married and was expecting -- had a pocketbook party this weekend. She sent out invitations a month or so ago and at that time I said that I didn't know if I'd be able to go since I'd have a newborn. She called me on Thursday asking if I was going and I said it all depended on how Emily was the day of -- and that I'd call her that day. Saturday came and went and I comlpletely forgot. Emily has been very fussy with her rash on her face -- it's very itchy for her -- and I just forgot.
I got an e-mail today from her saying how she would have liked a callsaying that we wouldn't come from myselfa nd also from my mom and sisters because she invited them also...this is a clip of what she wrote:
"sorry you weren't able to come to the party...i wished you and your family would have extended the courtesy by giving me a phone call."
Am I wrong for being peeved by her? She does't have any kids and has made it clear that she might not even want any -- so maybe she just doesn't understand ... but it was an honest mistake on my part and I don't feel that I should be getting a nasty e-mail from her, epecially when I told her weeks ago that I might not be able to go.
|
Posted 10/31/05 1:33 PM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
steph4777
**************
Member since 5/05 11726 total posts
Name:
Stephanie
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
You have a right to be annoyed. I would just email her back and say that your daughter was not doing well that day and you were a little preoccupied.
|
| Posted 10/31/05 1:45 PM |
| |
|
Boobobunny
Live in the Present
Member since 5/05 3572 total posts
Name:
Dannielle
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
although you have a right to be annoyed at her for not understanding what it is like to have a baby....she also has a right to be annoyed....after all you did tell her that you would call her the day of the party.
I'm sure its not the response you want to hear...but if we expect our single friends to understand that we have other responsiblities than we need to understand our single and or childless friend's feelings also.
|
| Posted 10/31/05 1:53 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
Posted by steph4777
You have a right to be annoyed. I would just email her back and say that your daughter was not doing well that day and you were a little preoccupied.
I agree...it was just a pocketbook party, its not like she was having a dinner party and you blew it off.
|
| Posted 10/31/05 4:04 PM |
| |
|
Jenziba
?
Member since 5/05 6265 total posts
Name:
Jennifer
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
I'd be annoyed at her too!!! She should just get over it!!!!
|
| Posted 10/31/05 5:10 PM |
| |
|
-Lisa-
---------------
Member since 5/05 6530 total posts
Name:
Lisa
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
Posted by Boobobunny
although you have a right to be annoyed at her for not understanding what it is like to have a baby....she also has a right to be annoyed....after all you did tell her that you would call her the day of the party.
I'm sure its not the response you want to hear...but if we expect our single friends to understand that we have other responsiblities than we need to understand our single and or childless friend's feelings also.
I agree. When I have a party, I hate when people don't RSVP and leave me hanging. I don't think what she wrote was all that rude (unless there was more to the email). You did owe her the courtesy of a response, as did your family (not that that's your responsibility).
|
| Posted 10/31/05 5:59 PM |
| |
|
monters
Back in LI!
Member since 5/05 1525 total posts
Name:
Robyn
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
Posted by Boobobunny
although you have a right to be annoyed at her for not understanding what it is like to have a baby....she also has a right to be annoyed....after all you did tell her that you would call her the day of the party.
I'm sure its not the response you want to hear...but if we expect our single friends to understand that we have other responsiblities than we need to understand our single and or childless friend's feelings also.
I agree with this also..
|
| Posted 10/31/05 8:39 PM |
| |
|
05mommy09
Family of 5!
Member since 5/05 15364 total posts
Name:
<3 Mommy <3
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
I would totally agree with booboo bunny had it been a formal party...or a real party at that...but a pocketbook party, is not a big deal...
Every single pocketbook party ive ever been invited too says bring friends, n never has an rsvp....Its not like she needed a final count, theres no way to get one with these kinds of parties..(hence telling people to bring friends)
I dunno thats jmo....
|
| Posted 10/31/05 10:03 PM |
| |
|
Melbernai
I am a lucky Momma!
Member since 7/05 15652 total posts
Name:
Melissa
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
I guess I was just easily irritated when I got the e-mail. It's just so typical of her to be upset about something like this -- like really really upset -- and her throwing in about my family not RSVPing either -- that just annoyed me. I reminded them on Thursday when she called -- but I don't live with them and I can't help what they do.
|
| Posted 10/31/05 11:09 PM |
| |
|
Stefanie
♥
Member since 5/05 23599 total posts
Name:
Stefanie
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
I guess the fact that you and your family didn't go, really put a damper on her party...
She'll get over it...
|
| Posted 10/31/05 11:42 PM |
| |
|
iffer042373
5 weeks till I'm a big sister
Member since 5/05 2642 total posts
Name:
Jennifer
|
Re: Nasty E-mail
Well you did tell her your would call and you didn't and neither did anyone in your family so yeah she does have a right to be annoyed but so do you she needs to understand that having a child makes you forget things like I know I have been ready to return a call and marissa would get into something and I would get distracted and never make the phone call I would respond to her saying that your sorry you didn't make the phone call but your child wasn't feeling well and you totally forgot about it and if she c an't understand then oh well.
|
| Posted 11/1/05 1:16 PM |
| |
|
