Livid right now – Am I overreacting?

Sorry this is long. But I am fuming right now. I have a stepbrother. He is 27 yrs old. He was in the military the last 10 yrs. During that time he ended up with 3 wives and 3 kids. X-wife #1 is in Germany with his 7 yr son. X-wife #2 is in Jersey with his 11 month old daughter. Current wife and him live in Maryland and just had a baby girl 1 month ago. He does nothing for or with kid #1 or 2. No child support, no gifts, no calls.
My family has met his current wife 1 time before this weekend. They came here to visit with the baby yesterday and are staying for 3 days. Two months ago we were all invited to her shower. I wasn’t feeling well enough to commit to sitting in the car for 4 hrs to go so I sent a very generous gift for them with my mom and step dad. This was over two months and I never got a thank you, not even a call. Nor did my sisters who also sent gifts. My mom and step dad did though. Maybe because they spent almost 1k on gifts for them?
Anyway I saw them last night at a family party and I mentioned to her that I hope she liked the gifts because I never heard anything from her. Her response to me was “wait and see how hard a newborn is, you don’t have time to pee, none the less sit and write thanks you’s”. I bit my tongue and walked away knowing that she had her shower over 1 month prior to delivery. Throughout the night she asked me numerous times what “brand/model” of items did I register for? Then she asked me about a car seat and I told her I registered for the Britax because my sister (who is going to be our baby’s god mother) told me to register for it because she wants to buy it for me. She said “wow you have expensive taste”. I repeated to her about my sister the god mother asking me to. So at this party we were talking to aunts/uncles/cousins about my sister being the god mother and everyone was commenting how my baby will be lucky to have such a great godmother, she is always so generous and she is so caring. Wife #3 heard all of this. Then my sister came over and was talking about my shower and this and that. Yes, I am fortunate enough to have a big family and we all are very generous to one another. She complained most of the night how no one got her a stroller for her shower. “People are so stupid and wasted so much money on bibs and diapers”. “She doesn’t even use bibs”.
So today I go to my moms and everyone is there. My step dad went out and bought them the stroller because I guess he felt bad for her. Ok fine, he money his choice. Does not bother me at all.
Anyway, during dessert she called my sister outside and asked her to be their daughters’ god mother. She has met her 2 times!!!!!!!!!!! She has family and friends in Maryland. My stepbrother even has a sister. Why would she pick my sister knowing she is going to be my baby’s god mother in November? My stepbrother hasn’t seen much of my sister in 10 yrs either because he was all over the world with the military. And then has the nerve to say they will probably do the baptism sometime in November. It took all I had in me not to beat the living crap out of the girl. Is she for real?????????????
So I got upset and went upstairs and started to cry. I am furious. My mom tells me I am overreacting actually her words were “your pregnancy hormones are all screwed up”. Don’t blame this on pregnancy hormones, this chick a materialist greedy little witch.
Am I wrong for feeling this way??????????? I am so extremely ****** off right now and I cant stop crying.

Re: Livid right now – Am I overreacting?

she sounds like a witch with a 'b'.
I would really be pi$$ed off too!

Did your sister accept? I hope your sister saw through that!

Message edited 7/22/2007 9:10:29 PM.

Re: Livid right now – Am I overreacting?

Um no - I would be upset too. The only reason she asked your sister is for gifts! What BS......

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Deb you are not overreacting at all. I too would be furious.

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I would feel the same exact way. She is just looking for $$ and gifts, and is trying to steal her away from you.
I hope your sister declined. This chick is a brat!

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I can completely understand where you are coming from but I have to say... you are the more fortunate one in all this. It sounds like her intense jealousy and need to be on the inside prompted her to ask your sister. She obviously wasn't thinking with a clear head.

Surely, She must know at core that your sister, first and foremost, is going to want to take care of her blood... YOU and your dc. Clearly your child is going to be more important and exciting to your sister. She must not have too many close family and friends. I feel bad for her... She sounds completely insecure.

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Posted by Mrs




she sounds like a witch with a 'b'.
I would really be pi$$ed off too!

Did your sister accept? I hope your sister saw through that!

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wow i don't think you are overreacting at all!! i would be totally pizzed off!!!

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u are absolutely right to be p'od - what a b!tch...what did your sister say? i hope she declined, that's just wrong. so sorry that u have to go through this right now...ugh...sorrry....

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I would be very very upset too. I don't think you are overracting.

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I don't think you're overreacting, but try not to take it out on your sister. She was put in a bad position, and did the polite thing. Hopefully when the dust settles she can politely let them know that if they have the baptism in November, there is a good chance that someone will have to stand in for her.

Your stepbrother's wife sounds like a piece of work - be grateful there is 4 hours between you!!

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wow, I was going to ask id your sister said No, but then I read where she called this baby her god daughter. hold moly. you are not overreacting and its not preggo hormones. this chick wants your sister to be god mother purely b/c your sister will buy the baby nice things and that is unacceptable. how many times is she going to see this kid? what happens when the marriage ends? sounds bad I know, but from reading your stepbrothers track record I don't see this going anywhere.

sorry you have to deal with this.

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I would be really po'd - she sounds like a real piece of work! That was really a low blow on her part and your poor sister was put in a very awkward situation. Did your sister say yes?

ETA: Nevermind, I saw the later post about your sis saying pass me my god daughter. I'm so sorry you're going through this

Message edited 7/23/2007 8:06:22 AM.

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I think you are right to be angry with the woman, but I wouldn't blame your sister-she sounds too nice to see this woman's greed. Your sister is right though, your baby will have a very close relationship with her because your so close to your sister. I actually feel bad for the other baby-doesn't seem like she will get much of a chance to see her god mother because they are so far away and because there really isn't much of a relationship between your sister at the baby's parents.

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Posted by Karen

I don't think you're overreacting, but try not to take it out on your sister. She was put in a bad position, and did the polite thing. Hopefully when the dust settles she can politely let them know that if they have the baptism in November, there is a good chance that someone will have to stand in for her.

Your stepbrother's wife sounds like a piece of work - be grateful there is 4 hours between you!!

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This woman sounds like some piece of work. I hope she saw right through her and said no! How greedy! I'm sorry, I would be livid also

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Deb,

You have every right to be pizzed. You know they're only after the gifts nd $$ from your sister. Did she realize that?