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lvlz
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
I think the conversation has drifted a little bit from the original question, but I have to put my 2 cents in regarding the whole locals being upset about NY'ers moving in. There is a huge influx of NY'ers moving to NC and I believe (from indepth conversations w/ co-workers who are "locals") the frustration is much more w/ the folks who move down here and still act like a stereotypical New Yorker. And by that, I mean the rushed, agressive lifestyle (driving is a biggie...as well as time spent at the supermarket - there are no quick runs in and out of the store down here, it's a social event!!). So when the "locals" see their way of life shifting more and more to a cut throat, rushed atmosphere, it is easy to blame the newcomers. It is a completely different way of life here - much more relaxed, easy going - no need to speed through life, enjoy where you're at right now type of attitude.
I also think a lot of people assume there is a lot of backwards thinking down here just because it is the "south". I hear a lot of "Well, we do it this way in NY" or "schools would be better if they did what NY does" - I can imagine it is quite difficult to hear that, and again easy to get defensive and say "well, go back there then if you don't like it down here." Imagine if it were the other way around and a bunch of southeners were moving into LI trying to change your school systems, government, etc. because they feel they know better.
I guess I just felt as though I had t come to the defense of my new neighbors 
To the original poster, no there is not as much diversity down here as other areas of the country, but there is diversity. My street alone has people from Asia, Mexico, African Americans, and whites!
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Janice
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
maybe fear of the unknown was a bad choice of words...
A lot of the time I feel "New Yorkers" get a bad rap. I think they fear what we will turn their city into.
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Ny'ers do get a bad rep. I know in the business I work in, that is the case, but we all have sterotypes about different parts of this country, whether its the south, west coast, middle america, texans, etc. I think only Ny'ers truely understand Nyers
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2girlsforme
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
Posted by Janice
I was getting my oil changed in Union County and these 2 cowboys were in the waiting area with Josh and me. The one cowboy kept commenting on Josh's blue eyes and what a great looking kid he is. That's always a good icebreaker so I chatted.
He asks me if Josh's dad is a huntin' man. I said no, actually a Puerto Rican business man from NYC. If I had a camera to capture the look on this guy's face! He explained him and his buddy were just discussing NY'ers and how every month there are more and more of us. He says, how south is too south for ya'll? I said I wouldn't touch SC. He says well then I will look for a realtor in SC today If ya'll love NY so much, take 95 right back up
Then, last week...I witnessed the sight of all sights. Indian Trail Walmart. Wednesday afternoon. (Lisa don't stop me if you heard it )A wedding going on in a Walmart. Bride, Groom, flowers, make shift alter. BP, Leo was excited there was cake
I guess what I am trying to say is, I don't think I am looking for a "white" neighborhood, just not a "hick" neighborhood. I don't mind country folks, they are harmless, but 24/7 would get old quick.
Not to barge in, because I know nothing about the topic. However, I just have to ask do they really allow weddings in Walmart?????
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MrsRivera
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
Posted by JennZ
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by Janice
Then, last week...I witnessed the sight of all sights. Indian Trail Walmart. Wednesday afternoon. (Lisa don't stop me if you heard it )A wedding going on in a Walmart. Bride, Groom, flowers, make shift alter. BP, Leo was excited there was cake
OH GOOD GOD...we're moving to Indian Trail...is that really what goes on there???
My brother lives in Indian Trail and all his neighbors are from NY, He is the Brandon Oaks community and loves it.
ETA: That walmart is funky.
Your brother is literally about 5 minutes from us! Thanks for the heads-up on that Walmart!!
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
Posted by Janice
I was getting my oil changed in Union County and these 2 cowboys were in the waiting area with Josh and me. The one cowboy kept commenting on Josh's blue eyes and what a great looking kid he is. That's always a good icebreaker so I chatted.
He asks me if Josh's dad is a huntin' man. I said no, actually a Puerto Rican business man from NYC. If I had a camera to capture the look on this guy's face! He explained him and his buddy were just discussing NY'ers and how every month there are more and more of us. He says, how south is too south for ya'll? I said I wouldn't touch SC. He says well then I will look for a realtor in SC today If ya'll love NY so much, take 95 right back up
Then, last week...I witnessed the sight of all sights. Indian Trail Walmart. Wednesday afternoon. (Lisa don't stop me if you heard it )A wedding going on in a Walmart. Bride, Groom, flowers, make shift alter. BP, Leo was excited there was cake
I guess what I am trying to say is, I don't think I am looking for a "white" neighborhood, just not a "hick" neighborhood. I don't mind country folks, they are harmless, but 24/7 would get old quick.
were you offended? b/c i'll be honest i think i would be, or am.
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
Posted by Janice
I was getting my oil changed in Union County and these 2 cowboys were in the waiting area with Josh and me. The one cowboy kept commenting on Josh's blue eyes and what a great looking kid he is. That's always a good icebreaker so I chatted.
He asks me if Josh's dad is a huntin' man. I said no, actually a Puerto Rican business man from NYC. If I had a camera to capture the look on this guy's face! He explained him and his buddy were just discussing NY'ers and how every month there are more and more of us. He says, how south is too south for ya'll? I said I wouldn't touch SC. He says well then I will look for a realtor in SC today If ya'll love NY so much, take 95 right back up
Then, last week...I witnessed the sight of all sights. Indian Trail Walmart. Wednesday afternoon. (Lisa don't stop me if you heard it )A wedding going on in a Walmart. Bride, Groom, flowers, make shift alter. BP, Leo was excited there was cake
I guess what I am trying to say is, I don't think I am looking for a "white" neighborhood, just not a "hick" neighborhood. I don't mind country folks, they are harmless, but 24/7 would get old quick.
there is this joke that this remind me of when you said the guy asked you if your husband was a huntin' man.
Do you want to go huntin'?
What kind of huntin'?
CAN huntin?
CAN huntin'?!?!??
You know, afriCAN, mexiCAN, puerto riCAN.....
just shariing this b/c that's what i think they may have been saying b/c my husband is white and i know this is a very well shared joke among the very white.
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mommy2Two
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
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Posted by mommy2Two
and when i mean by what are you, what nationality are you.
one of the things that have kept me in ny is that i think there is diversity here and since my kids are mixed i want them near the diversity. i have gone on vacation to places like virginia and there is nothing but predominately white. it's either a white neighborhood or a other neighborhood. i see moving south as something white people are more likely to do b/c they feel the neighborhood is changing (less white) in many parts of li and going south (where it is all, a lot more white) don't flame me but i am curious if this has to do with people leaving li too. everyone i've known personally or hear about moving south to nc, virginia and georgia has been white. (30 plus people/families)
There are ways to find out about demographics of any area you are interested in. DH and I have several friends who have moved south and I can honestly say that none of them did so for reasons that were related to ethnicity. You seem to want your children in an area with "their own" but I'm left wondering if you feel that white people should not want that. If you want them to just be in a diverse place, then I do understand that and we should all want that. I just don't think that whites are leaving NY to get away from diversity. It's more about money and change of pace.
i don't know if i want my kids to be in a area with "their own". i really don't. i think what i am trying to find or go or whatever is to find a place that does have a fair amount of what my kids are half are so that people there would understand(not the right word) it more.
for example, this happened to me recently and not so recently....
many people, and i mean many people of all different races comment on how "clean" my kids are. i am chinese and my husband is white so i am usually the one carting my kids around day to day. people from my husband's work comment on how clean my kids are. yes they use the word clean. people at the grocery store, people everywhere since i started having kids. at first i thought okaaayyyy...... and then lately it started bothering me like what do you mean my kids are clean? are other kids dirty? or do you mean you are surprised my kids are clean b/c my nationality usually is dirty? or ???? so i asked my friends if they've ever been commented on like that. (the are all white) and none of them have ever heard that comment. i'll be honest, i think it was racist after asking people i know about this. is that even a comment?
your kids are really clean.
and i am not a clean freak. my kid looks just like the other kids and yes with the occassional stain on the shirt.
my one girlfriend tells me honestly, that i am the first asian person she has known that is clean and the rest were dirty. so how am i suppose to take that? i think i hear the comment b/c people haven't met enough asians b/c they have only met one dirty one and now i am the your really clean surprise asian. i don't know what i am saying. it's just one of things bothering me lately.
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Posted by mommy2Two
Posted by ssdbk
Posted by mommy2Two
and when i mean by what are you, what nationality are you.
one of the things that have kept me in ny is that i think there is diversity here and since my kids are mixed i want them near the diversity. i have gone on vacation to places like virginia and there is nothing but predominately white. it's either a white neighborhood or a other neighborhood. i see moving south as something white people are more likely to do b/c they feel the neighborhood is changing (less white) in many parts of li and going south (where it is all, a lot more white) don't flame me but i am curious if this has to do with people leaving li too. everyone i've known personally or hear about moving south to nc, virginia and georgia has been white. (30 plus people/families)
There are ways to find out about demographics of any area you are interested in. DH and I have several friends who have moved south and I can honestly say that none of them did so for reasons that were related to ethnicity. You seem to want your children in an area with "their own" but I'm left wondering if you feel that white people should not want that. If you want them to just be in a diverse place, then I do understand that and we should all want that. I just don't think that whites are leaving NY to get away from diversity. It's more about money and change of pace.
i don't know if i want my kids to be in a area with "their own". i really don't. i think what i am trying to find or go or whatever is to find a place that does have a fair amount of what my kids are half are so that people there would understand(not the right word) it more.
for example, this happened to me recently and not so recently....
many people, and i mean many people of all different races comment on how "clean" my kids are. i am chinese and my husband is white so i am usually the one carting my kids around day to day. people from my husband's work comment on how clean my kids are. yes they use the word clean. people at the grocery store, people everywhere since i started having kids. at first i thought okaaayyyy...... and then lately it started bothering me like what do you mean my kids are clean? are other kids dirty? or do you mean you are surprised my kids are clean b/c my nationality usually is dirty? or ???? so i asked my friends if they've ever been commented on like that. (the are all white) and none of them have ever heard that comment. i'll be honest, i think it was racist after asking people i know about this. is that even a comment?
your kids are really clean.
and i am not a clean freak. my kid looks just like the other kids and yes with the occassional stain on the shirt.
my one girlfriend tells me honestly, that i am the first asian person she has known that is clean and the rest were dirty. so how am i suppose to take that? i think i hear the comment b/c people haven't met enough asians b/c they have only met one dirty one and now i am the your really clean surprise asian. i don't know what i am saying. it's just one of things bothering me lately.
I do know what you mean. I was talking to a friend about how my in-laws happen to be very generous. She then said something like, "well, they're not typical Jews." I'm Jewish too and my friend isn't. I do think that in some places in the south you will find people who were born and bred there and they haven't experienced a lot of diversity. I do not think that the transplants from this area would be an issue at all.
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queenb
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
i lived in northen virginia up intil october of this year we moved there 2 yrs prior and i found that there were ALOT of interacial couples where we were. we lived in fauquier county which is still considered the commuters zone for people who worked in DC. BTW DH is spanish and i am irish.
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MegZee
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Posted by queenb
i lived in northen virginia up intil october of this year we moved there 2 yrs prior and i found that there were ALOT of interacial couples where we were. we lived in fauquier county which is still considered the commuters zone for people who worked in DC. BTW DH is spanish and i am irish.
northern VA is a lot like LI, so Im not surprised.
my sister lives outside of Richmond, and lets just say the high school she teaches at is "the home of the confederates"
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Nicole728
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Re: those of you who have moved south, what are you
I've only had one problem with a southerner since moving down to NC...I got a PT job at a bank while looking for a job in the school system...and one of the ladies there was VERY religious...my first day there she asked me what religion I was...told me what religion every who worked there was and asked me if I go to church ...things like that.
Lets just say we had some differences b/c she was very close minded...a big one was she told one of my co workers and now a good friend that he was going to burn in hell b/c he was gay. My friend responded to her but it was wayyy to nice.
A customer commented one day that I was the only one who knew what I was doing there...she heard and told me that I was a cocky northerner and all northerners were cocky and I thought I was better than everyone there. I asked her to stop before i ripped her tongue out
there were some other things too, but too much to write here...
Other than that, everyone else has been nice...but I will agree that it is a different way of life here
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