bacholarette question- need help

i am in a wedding in june my future sil. her sister is planning the bacholarette party and has never been to one. i tried giving her pointers and some advice since ive been to my share.

anyway they want to go in the city rent a limo bus and go to a restaurant and out to clubs. here is the kicker. her sister wants the bridal party to foot the bill. she wants 5 girls to pay for a limo bus carrying 15 girls. my problem is why do we have to pay for 10 other woman. also besides the 90 we have to foot each person the 5 of us we have to cover dinner for us and the bride and drinks. this night is going to be way over 200 bucks and my dh is going for the bacholar party. its getting costly. not to mention they are getting married in the grand bahamas.


i explained that the other women are not expecting us to pay and i dont think its appropriate. what do you think? am i wrong here?

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Every bachelorette party I went to I always chipped in.

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why can't everyone going in the limo pay split the cost?

that's how it has been for all the b-parties I have been to-no one ever seems to mind and if they do, they can choose not to go in the limo. I don't think the bridal party should have to split the cost alone...

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All the girls, including the other 10, should be putting in their fair share for the night, that includes limo, dinner, clubs, etc.. The only girl who shouldn't have to pay is the Bride-to-be.

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Everyone should be chipping in - not just the wedding party.
Tell her that is the way it has always been and no one expects to be paid for.

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I can see the BP covering the limo bus and the brides expenses but not everyone's dinner & drinks. (did I read that correctly?)

But this is something that should be discussed & decided based on the entire BP's budget.

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she wants the wedding party to cover the limo at 132 dollars an hour. and then she suggested we go to her friends appt for appetizers. i said if we are paying so much for a limo i dont want to be in someones appt having appetizers. she thought that would cut costs.

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everyone who goes should pay-- although the BP should pay more... perhaps if you guys paid a bit more to offset the costs of other things for the rest of the girls going, but the BP always pays for decorations, etc.

It's a fine line-- and sometimes it's not worth putting up a fight for 50 bucks..

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its not the different of 50 dollars plus the fact that im a sahm on a budget and had to pay for part of the bridal shower, have to pay for airfare for myself, husband and baby, hotel for 5 days, plus bridal shower gift, wedding gift, my dress, my daughters dress (flowergirl). my point is when does it stop?

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I agree, where does it end? I do not think that it is fair for only the BP to pay. That is ridiculous. It's one thing for you to cover the bride, but you should not have to pay for all of these other people who are going. I'd be royally pizzed.

Honestly, I don't see why the BP should pay anymore than anyone else going (except maybe for the added $ to cover the bride).

I would tackfully tell the sister. It sounds like she doesn't have a clue.

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Whoever steps foot in the limo bus, needs to also step up and foot the bill.
Not just the wedding party!

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We always covered the brides expenses and the little favors like the tiara and the special straws , other than that everyone who went paid

JMO of course

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I was in a bridal party and ran a bacholrette party for a friend. We did the same thing except we went out to the hamptons. EVERYONE paid for their share of the limo bus out there. However, we had 2 girls who cancelled at the last minute so the bridal party covered their costs becuase we didn't want to have the other people have to ante up money when we told them it was going to be more money. I think it was like $30 additional that day.

We also (the bridal party) took the bride to be out to dinner before all this. \

No way should you have to pay for other girls having fun.

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Every BP i've been too the girls all paid there own way except for the Bride to Be. That is way to much to ask five girls to pay for. If you want to put extra in for the limo, that's reasonable.

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I think it is crazy to have the bridal party pay for the enitre limo bus, if all the other girls weren't going then you probably wouldn't be getting a limo bus in the first place! Each person chips in for the bus and maybe even everything!

For my party I knew that it was very expensive for the girls, we did a 1night cruise, so I personally paid for a limo to and from the ship and paid my own way for the cruise.

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I definitely think that you should have everyone chip in - especially if you are paying for a shower!

Also, FYI - target has a bunch of bachlorette items in the $1 section - buttons, tiaras and fun stuff - not the best quality, but hey you only use it for one night!