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ok so as you girls know i am getting a c-section done, but don't know what day yet..... Dh and I are season ticket holders to the New York Rangers and they are in the playoffs for the stanley cup, which is rare for them, and they are doing well , so my ??? is to you, would you be angry or upset if your DH went to the games while you were in the hospital???? i mean there is nothing for him to do while i am there, and he will be there during the day but at 5:00 he has got to leave to catch the train, also my mom purchased tickets for my brother who is 16 to go with him.... i was getting upset last night thinking about him leaving me in the hospital but i know that i am going to have visotors everyday while i am in there, and at night i am going to try and sleep, just wondering if you girls would get upset or just let things role............i mean it is only one or 2 nights.....................


TIA

Message edited 4/16/2007 11:07:30 AM.

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I would def not be angry. At least someone can have fun DH went out everynight when I was in the hospital and I was happy for him

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no i wouldn't be upset. i'd want him to go and have some fun.

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The day after I gave birth while i was still the hospital, DH left me for about 3-4 hours, not for a leisure thing, but to go to school so he wouldn't fail his finals for his masters.

My mom and SIL stayed with me while he was gone til about 10pm. Honestly, I didn't miss him and he was glad to get out of the hospital for a bit of air.

While school and a ranger game aren't the same, I would let him go, but just ask him not to drink.

GO DEVILS by the WAYYY!!

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I wouldn't be upset at all. After all the visitor's etc.. I'm actually thinking I'll want some alone time to rest while the nurses take care of the baby.......

(I'm planning a c/s too)

As long as he's there for the big moment and most there after. It's not like he's saying he just wants to go hang at the local pub w/ the boys..

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thanks girls....... i don't think i am going to be angry bc i knew about this for months, but sad bc i am going to be in the hospital alone without him,,,, his response, you won't be alone the baby will be there....... just overwhelming i guess............

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Honestly - I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

Plus you are going to need his help the days after you come home - so this might give the rest he needs before you come home.

Visiting hours are usually at night - so you will have company while he is not there.

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no i would let him go....

dh is working 2 of the days i will be in the hospital from 7am-6pm

as much as i want him there with me to keep us company.... why waste 2 days of him sitting there looking at me when he can use those days at home with the baby when i come home!!

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Thanks girls, i was just making sure i was not going crazy thinking ok you should go but what are people going to think, like my crazy family, you really let him leave.... he is not taking off of work either until i come home so he is here which i am going to need him...... so we are hoping that they make a c-section for this thursday so he can be home next week with us.......... Thanks again!!!!

YOU GIRLS ROCK AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT YOU!!!!!!!!!!

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where will u be delivering?

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I'd let him go and not be upset at all- kudos to you for seeing how important the game is to him! He might surprise you though- he may decide he doesn't want to leave.....

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nicole ... let him go and dont be mad at him... you will have plenty of people around you that DH might just get in your way or something.. and as far as taking off of work.. ..i think its best that he takes off of work when you and the baby are home so that he can help you ..

cant wait to me your little princess...

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I can see where you would want to get upset at first...I even thought about the situation before I replied. Truthfully, I was so tired after my surgery, I couldn't wait for the phone to stop ringing and visiting hour to be over so I could try and sleep! I think when you have that baby in your arms you will realize you wont feel alone in the hospital. I even sent my husband to work for 3 of the days there so he could use his time at home instead. Good luck! And I hope your team wins!!

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Posted by nmp070106

Thanks girls, i was just making sure i was not going crazy thinking ok you should go but what are people going to think, like my crazy family, you really let him leave.... he is not taking off of work either until i come home so he is here which i am going to need him...... so we are hoping that they make a c-section for this thursday so he can be home next week with us.......... Thanks again!!!!

YOU GIRLS ROCK AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT YOU!!!!!!!!!!

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How many games will there be during your time in the hospital? Honestly, I would really only be okay with one game, if that.

It's funny that so many people feel differently b/c I am usually the wife who is totally lax about my husband socializing without me, going to bachelor parties or spending a lot of time on the golf course.

I've already been hospitalized once while dating DH and I needed him there. He's pretty quiet most of the time, so his presence never bothered me. Also, DH was the buffer between me and my family members, who had their own ideas about my treatment. I will need that when there is a baby involved and I am still weak. I am having a C-section, too.

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I guess Im the minority here- I would never ever tell my husband he could or couldnt do something... but Id be diappointed he wouldnt want to be with me and the baby...

This is once in a lifetime... never get these days back...

The days I was in the hospital and DH and I were alone with our new family- were just "wonderful"

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Being a BIG hockey fan (sorry I'm an Islander fan) I would so NOT be angry. As long as I was not alone.

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I wouldnt be upset. Two days after I had DS my husband, all of my family, and all of my friends were enjoying my jack and jill surprise baby shower. My DH was the guest of honor filling in for me It was nice that one of us got to experience it. They video taped it and then he brought it to the hospital that night and we watched it together. It was very cute and I was truly happy that he had fun. I used the time alone to bond with the baby and get some well needed rest.

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Sounds like My DH, he just gave up his season tickets this year but If it were the end of the playoffs, I know he would be there. And since its at night usually and you will have visitors I think I would allow one game at least.

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I would let him go. He will only leave at 5 pm. Not the whole day.

Take that chance to rest, sleep, etc... You will see him the next day.

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I am not gonna lie, I would be jealous as hell...especially if I was a Ranger fan.
and thinking about how hormonal I was, it wouldn't have been pretty.
If I wasn't a sports fan, maybe not so much...but if I had to be lying in the hospital after giving birth to OUR child, he has to share in my "pain"somehow.

but people do it all the time. Look at that chick who got induced a couple of days early so her DH could go to the Chicago playoffs game
This is all my selfish beeyatchy opinion.