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ChilisWife
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
I don't think there is anything "wrong" with day care and will most likely need to put my son in day care. It is not an option for me to be a SAHM so whether my mother, family member, nanny or day care provider watches my child during the day, it will not be ME one way or the other and I have to face that.
However because I am a paranoid first time mother, I do have some "concerns" about day care due to what other people tell me. First, everyone is telling me that children that go to day care are constantly sick because they are around sick kids all the time. Second, they tell me that my child won't be supervised as well as they would be if it was "one on one" care. I don't know if these things are true or not but perhaps some of you can put my fears to rest.
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
I know kids with SAHMs and kids that spent all their time in Day Care. Some are great, some not so much. But I don't think it is because of one thing or the other.
The reality is that most moms need to work - or just want to work. I see nothing wrong with that at all.
Do not let anyone make you feel bad about this. Women make the best decisions for their families and their particular situations. Nobody has the right to judge those decisions.
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| Posted 1/4/07 11:35 AM |
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LInative
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
Posted by DandN
I think there is an assumption in this country (not an assumption voiced on these boards - just a general societal belief) that every woman WISHES she could stay home with her child/children. And honestly, that's just not me - nor is it the case for many, many women. I can't wait to be a mom and I'm sure my 16 weeks with my child will go too quickly, but I dont want to give up my teaching job. I think my working will make me a better mom.
I will add that when I lived in Ireland for a year back in 2000 I was a nanny for 2 boys while I was doing doctoral research. The nannying job was the hardest job I've ever had.
Agreed. There are many days when coming to work is actually a break for me. DS loves daycare, and despite the fact that it can be a germ fest this time of year, I like that he has the interaction and exposure to other children and adults.
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| Posted 1/4/07 2:53 PM |
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Don't forget too - these daycare kids build a super immune system because they are exposed to all types of germs - they actually wind up healthier than kids sheltered from germs in their early years....
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MsMBV
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
Posted by ChilisWife
I don't think there is anything "wrong" with day care and will most likely need to put my son in day care. It is not an option for me to be a SAHM so whether my mother, family member, nanny or day care provider watches my child during the day, it will not be ME one way or the other and I have to face that.
However because I am a paranoid first time mother, I do have some "concerns" about day care due to what other people tell me. First, everyone is telling me that children that go to day care are constantly sick because they are around sick kids all the time. Second, they tell me that my child won't be supervised as well as they would be if it was "one on one" care. I don't know if these things are true or not but perhaps some of you can put my fears to rest.
Many of the day care centers are now very much on a "if your child is sick we will make you take them home" system. If you repeatedly take your child to the daycare in my office sick, they will remove you from the program. From what I hear this is becoming more common. As far as supervision is concerned, infants are on a 3 to 1 basis, and are in cribs.
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| Posted 1/4/07 4:25 PM |
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purplegirl
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
Posted by KateDevine
but what is so wrong with day care?
I am the product of day care and I actually think it was GOOD for me. I see it with my neice as well, she has excellent socialization skills and is only 15 months old.
Most day cares have highly skilled teachers or providers who will be a good support system for your child.
I don't know why day care gets such a bad rap, I mean, I am sure the first time I have to leave my son I will be VERY upset, but I know he and I both will be looking foward to seeing each other again. We are leaving him with my SMIL at first on days when both DH and I have to work, but that is mainly because DH's schedule changes every week and we wouldn't know what days to put him IN day care, but eventually he will be in day care.
Like I said, I don't mean to start drama, I honestly don't understand this debate.
I just saw this post and felt that I had to comment, since the original post about going back to work was mine... The problem for me is not really with day care in itself... I think there are some fabulous day care programs and babysitters out there and I know I'll be lucky if I can find one and get my child into it. My concern was that I'd rather not HAVE to put my baby in day care... I'd rather take care of him/her myself. It just pains me that I may end up missing some of those priceless "firsts" by being away from my little one all day. But staying home is probably not going to be an option for us financially... thats all I meant by the original post.
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| Posted 1/4/07 7:33 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
I didnt go to daycare, but I dont think anything is wrong with it. When we have a baby, we will explore all the different options.
I have no idea - how much does it cost per month?
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| Posted 1/4/07 10:45 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
Posted by MsMBV
As far as supervision is concerned, infants are on a 3 to 1 basis, and are in cribs.
Actually its 4 to 1.
I enjoy being a MOm and I enjoy working too. Day care works for us and DD is all smiles when she gets there and sees the girls who take care of her. In a perfect world, family could watch her. But, we dont have that option and I not only need to work, but I like it.
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| Posted 1/4/07 11:58 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
I'm a product of daycare - my mother is a professor, and worked full-time, and I think I came out pretty damn good, if I do say so myself 
My daughter is in daycare 5 days per week, from about 9-5pm. There are definitely days when I'm sad to drop her off, and my inclination is to take her back to the car, play hookey and play with her for the day. BUt, overall, I couldn't be more pleased with the results. She's formed bonds with other babies her age, and with her teachers, she learns more than I could ever teach her - she's even learning sign language, and has a vocabulary of about 15 words now. Her teacher has taught her to cover her mouth when she sneezes and coughs, she says please and thank you with *almost* everything, and quite honestly, for us it's GOOD that she doesn't get constant attention the whole day. I think it's so important for children to learn how to self-entertain, and to gain a certain amount of independence. It gives them a certain kind of confidence that I can't quite put my finger on, but I know it's there, and I love it.
Most important, I love that when I drop off my daughter in the morning, her teacher tells Alex, ok, Alex, time to say bye-bye to Mommy because Mommy is going to Work! I know for myself that growing up with a working mother taught me some invaluable lessons, particularly that my worth is just as important as my husband's, and that I can have dreams and aspirations beyond just having a family, and be proud of it, and able to pursue those dreams. When I leave for work, and Alex says bye-bye, a little part of me smiles knowing that I'm passing that gift on to my daughter.
I'm not saying it's harmful for a child to stay at home. I don't want anyone to misinterpret this - it all depends on family circumstances, the child, and what is BEST for that particular family. But, if the family chooses daycare, I don't think it's a drawback in any manner whatsoever.
Message edited 1/5/2007 9:51:11 AM.
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| Posted 1/5/07 9:50 AM |
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Posted by Bxgell2
I'm a product of daycare - my mother is a professor, and worked full-time, and I think I came out pretty damn good, if I do say so myself
My daughter is in daycare 5 days per week, from about 9-5pm. There are definitely days when I'm sad to drop her off, and my inclination is to take her back to the car, play hookey and play with her for the day. BUt, overall, I couldn't be more pleased with the results. She's formed bonds with other babies her age, and with her teachers, she learns more than I could ever teach her - she's even learning sign language, and has a vocabulary of about 15 words now. Her teacher has taught her to cover her mouth when she sneezes and coughs, she says please and thank you with *almost* everything, and quite honestly, for us it's GOOD that she doesn't get constant attention the whole day. I think it's so important for children to learn how to self-entertain, and to gain a certain amount of independence. It gives them a certain kind of confidence that I can't quite put my finger on, but I know it's there, and I love it.
Most important, I love that when I drop off my daughter in the morning, her teacher tells Alex, ok, Alex, time to say bye-bye to Mommy because Mommy is going to Work! I know for myself that growing up with a working mother taught me some invaluable lessons, particularly that my worth is just as important as my husband's, and that I can have dreams and aspirations beyond just having a family, and be proud of it, and able to pursue those dreams. When I leave for work, and Alex says bye-bye, a little part of me smiles knowing that I'm passing that gift on to my daughter.
I'm not saying it's harmful for a child to stay at home. I don't want anyone to misinterpret this - it all depends on family circumstances, the child, and what is BEST for that particular family. But, if the family chooses daycare, I don't think it's a drawback in any manner whatsoever.
I LOVE what you said - it brought tears to my eyes....
I never thought of the fact that I'll be passing on a work ethic to my child this way - plus, you make me feel so good about all the things my child will learn and all the wonderful things to be experienced in daycare!
thank you so much for this post!!!!
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| Posted 1/5/07 3:32 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: I don't mean to start drama
Posted by MrsJ
Posted by MsMBV
As far as supervision is concerned, infants are on a 3 to 1 basis, and are in cribs.
Actually its 4 to 1.
I enjoy being a MOm and I enjoy working too. Day care works for us and DD is all smiles when she gets there and sees the girls who take care of her. In a perfect world, family could watch her. But, we dont have that option and I not only need to work, but I like it.
The daycare center in my office uses a 3 to 1 ration. I was not aware that they decided to go less than the allowable ratio. Sorry for any misinformation.
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