Do you feel bad when ??

I have Joseph (4) and Mariella (3mths)
and when its time to feed and change my DD which I am crazy about its every 2 hrs. like clock work. And feeding time what do you do with the other child. I sometimes feed my DD in the living room because I feel so bad that he is there by himself. And when I do the feeding in her room with the rocker and he walks by to go to his room and looks at me of course I tell him to join me and ask him questions like What are you doing ? Are you ok ? Do you need help ? I feel horrible. What can I do to help the way I feel, I miss the time we use to have together, I started taking a day here and there to spend time out with him but you know its my First Little Boy and he will always be my Little Boy.
And when my DH is watching him sometimes and I come home my DH is sleeping on the sofa and my DS is playing cars by himself and I get mad and my DH says that I have to let him learn and I am to much with my kids to spend time with them every min . of the day .. Do you think I am driving myself nuts.
Suggestions ??? This is really important to me .

Re: Do you feel bad when ??

I know exactly how you feel! DD was born when DS was 3 years, 8 months, and as much as I was enjoying DD, I felt really guilty about not spending as much time with DS. I finally worked out a "schedule." No matter what else happens during the day, when I put DD to sleep (nap or night time), I always use that time to play something interactively with DS. We read, play games, sing, sometimes even watch t.v. together. It makes both of us feel better to know that we will definitely spend time together each day-just the two of us. Yes, the laundry piles up, and my house sometimes looks like a tornado has been through it, but my kids come first. DD is 22 months now, and DS is 5, and the system continues to work, but all 3 of us play together, too, now. Good luck and it will get better!