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LFitzy79
can hardly wait
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he's a moron, plain and simple
yes, that's right, my boyfriend is a moron, I'm dating the most obnoxious, self righteous idiot out there, and I'll tell you what else, a less patient person would have left him a long time ago. he's being a jerk, and I'm so aggravated with him, and our relationship that I feel like telling him it's just not worth it.
does anybody else go through this kind of feeling? is it normal to feel this frustrated?
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JenniferEver
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
I've had periods like this with my FH, especially lately.
ETA: But I think if you feel really frustrated and unhappy,it's NOT normal and it's a sign of a problem
Message edited 8/16/2006 10:59:09 AM.
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| Posted 8/16/06 10:58 AM |
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nov04libride
big brother <3
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
I don't think it is normal, at least in a healthy relationship. I get frustrated with DH but never to the point where I feel it isn't worth it. If he is a pompous and self-righteous jerk I would kick him to the curb! You deserve better and don't need to settle! Though I never say that to my real life friends because the last time I spoke the truth they are now living together and it sounds like he is the same jerk he always was, and she has totally changed and become this woman with no self confidence or self esteem. It's really sad.
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| Posted 8/16/06 10:59 AM |
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MrsMerlot
Unconditional Love
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
Yes, it's normal to get frustrated, and I've gone through it plenty of times with DH and when we were dating.
It's important to step back and "re-evaluate" what those issues are and figure out how to solve them. Unfortunately, if there's no solution, you would have to accept him for the way he is, or leave him to another woman to deal with.
Either way, it's important for you to get your feelings out and discuss them with him. 
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| Posted 8/16/06 10:59 AM |
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LFitzy79
can hardly wait
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Lauren
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
I just feel empty and tired...I feel like I shouldn't have to fight this hard to make it work. I don't know....
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| Posted 8/16/06 11:00 AM |
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curliegirl
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
Posted by LFitzy79
I just feel empty and tired...I feel like I shouldn't have to fight this hard to make it work. I don't know....
You have to ask yourself if it is really worth it.....The way I did it with DH.....even when he is being the biggest a$$ on the planet, I remember that I can picture us growing old and having grandkids.....if you don't "see" a future, maybe there isn't one.....
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| Posted 8/16/06 11:02 AM |
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LFitzy79
can hardly wait
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
Posted by nov04libride
I don't think it is normal, at least in a healthy relationship. I get frustrated with DH but never to the point where I feel it isn't worth it. If he is a pompous and self-righteous jerk I would kick him to the curb! You deserve better and don't need to settle! Though I never say that to my real life friends because the last time I spoke the truth they are now living together and it sounds like he is the same jerk he always was, and she has totally changed and become this woman with no self confidence or self esteem. It's really sad.
this is what I don't want to become....I feel like he makes me question my thoughts...like maybe it's me and a normal person wouldn't be aggravated
I have soo much on my plate right now, and instead of trying to help make things easier and support me, he's pushing issues that I can't possibly resolve right now.
here's an example: he lives about 25 minutes away from me, I just moved to a new place 6 months ago--so since I've moved he's been coming over a lot more often to my apartment, and I've been going less and less to his...one of the reasons is my dog....he lives on a main road with no fenced in yard, and he's not comfortable letting Gus roam free in his house (Gus is a puppy still and likes to steal things and play keep away). so while he's been pissy for a while that I don't come over often, now that I have a second job and have even less time, he's really starting to push the issue....and I'm like "what, do you need attention? are you five?"
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nov04libride
big brother <3
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
Posted by LFitzy79
Posted by nov04libride
I don't think it is normal, at least in a healthy relationship. I get frustrated with DH but never to the point where I feel it isn't worth it. If he is a pompous and self-righteous jerk I would kick him to the curb! You deserve better and don't need to settle! Though I never say that to my real life friends because the last time I spoke the truth they are now living together and it sounds like he is the same jerk he always was, and she has totally changed and become this woman with no self confidence or self esteem. It's really sad.
this is what I don't want to become....I feel like he makes me question my thoughts...like maybe it's me and a normal person wouldn't be aggravated
I have soo much on my plate right now, and instead of trying to help make things easier and support me, he's pushing issues that I can't possibly resolve right now.
here's an example: he lives about 25 minutes away from me, I just moved to a new place 6 months ago--so since I've moved he's been coming over a lot more often to my apartment, and I've been going less and less to his...one of the reasons is my dog....he lives on a main road with no fenced in yard, and he's not comfortable letting Gus roam free in his house (Gus is a puppy still and likes to steal things and play keep away). so while he's been pissy for a while that I don't come over often, now that I have a second job and have even less time, he's really starting to push the issue....and I'm like "what, do you need attention? are you five?"
Stay true to yourself. If he isn't understanding or supportive now, I don't see things getting better as he becomes more comfortable. I talked to my friend who is still with the jerk, and she said she was afraid of being alone or having to start over again...But there is that possibility of someone so much better! Never settle!
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| Posted 8/16/06 11:12 AM |
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skew
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Re: he's a moron, plain and simple
sounds like an attention issue to me (meaning wants more attention). is he going through any changes that is causing him to react this way? no excuse of course just trying to rationalize the behavior. men can be SUCH babies and it can be VERY tiring trying to have to deal w/ sometimes.
i don't think you are wrong in questioning your feelings or future, it is TOTALLY normal. if it seems like this is an ongoing issue and is becoming too stressful, i would have a talk w/ him and express how you feel. there is no reason why you should have to continue feeling uneasy and uncertain about the relationship.
if you want to talk, please feel free to FM me
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