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Any advice for surviving? My 2 year old twins are acting like animals lately, literally and I can't take it. One was so mad they put a hole in my wall with the front door and there's a door stopper there and then they just don't listen and their behavior is becoming unsafe. Aside from putting them in a playpen for every transition I don't know what else I do and even that they fight, bite each other and can jump out of. I'm at my whits end. I work as a behavior analyst and have never seen such aggression, rage and lack of empathy from a child. I'm at the point of seeking another professionals help with them because I can't take it...
 
  To add, for just turning 2 they do have very advanced language skills and can communicate in full sentences. I also keep them busy through the day, activities, walks, arts/ crafts and they nap 2 hours mid day and for the most part sleep 8:30-6:30 daily... 
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			Posted 4/12/19 11:28 AM    | 
	
	
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Michi 
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Maybe they can benefit from the structure of a half day school program? I 
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NYCGirl80 
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Posted by Michi
  Maybe they can benefit from the structure of a half day school program? I 
 
  I was going to say the same. 
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			Posted 4/12/19 2:55 PM    | 
	
	
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Posted by NYCGirl80
 
 Posted by Michi
  Maybe they can benefit from the structure of a half day school program? I 
 
  I was going to say the same.  
 
  We do music together and a mommy and me another day at a preschool I have them enrolled for the 2s class in September and i hope I make it until then
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			Posted 4/12/19 9:06 PM    | 
	
	
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petvet 
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Children don't generally have lots of empathy at that age. They are little cave people lol. Hang in there! 
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			Posted 4/12/19 9:53 PM    | 
	
	
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Chai77 
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How do you react to the aggression and destructive behavior- what is the consequence?
  My daughter is about the same age, and time out has really helped her curb her troublesome behavior.  And of course, you know that it’s normal for two year olds to act like little beasts and not have great empathy for others! 
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			Posted 4/12/19 11:11 PM    | 
	
	
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babyfever24 
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Def put them in a twos program......my kid changed completely when he started daycare.....good luck!  
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			Posted 4/13/19 3:20 PM    | 
	
	
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NYCGirl80 
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 Re: Age 2... 
Posted by TwinMommyToBoys
 
 Posted by NYCGirl80
 
 Posted by Michi
  Maybe they can benefit from the structure of a half day school program? I 
 
  I was going to say the same.  
 
  We do music together and a mommy and me another day at a preschool I have them enrolled for the 2s class in September and i hope I make it until then 
 
  I'm suggesting more of a separation class.  Is the 2s class drop off?  Sometimes being away from mommy is helpful.  Case in point...this morning my daughter was a nightmare, screaming and throwing a tantrum and crying.  Got her to daycare and she was an angel.
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			Posted 4/15/19 3:29 PM    | 
	
	
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hidingin1516 
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oh age 2... lol. it's hard and 3 is proving to be worse for me.  i have 2 girls then a boy. will be 3 in may and he is just out of control.  crazy, insane, dangerous aggressive.  we haven't been able to go out or on vacation b/c hes a disaster. hes in a 2'sprogram 2 days a week and it doesn't help.  hes good ther ebut once back with me he's. a nightmare and stubborn.  i force naps b/c i need the break but he needs it too.  there's really no advice except hang in there.   
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			Posted 4/21/19 9:47 AM    | 
	
	
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TooSoontoTell 
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I'm with you. I feel like I have a literal beast. aggressive, insistent, persistent, cave like, stubborn. I have never seen anything so awful in behavior, so worried it's never going to improve. I won't even attempt time out because I don't think I will succeed! No advice, just consolation. 
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			Posted 4/21/19 11:10 PM    | 
	
	
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Leb 
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I remember how age 21-24mos was like the most perfect time ever. On her second birthday my DD woke up with an attitude and literally turned into a dcik overnight! It totally passes. I used to try to just tire her out. Long walks. And a little trampoline and I’d just encourage her to jump jump till she passed out hahaha.  
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			Posted 4/23/19 11:48 PM    | 
	
	
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My 2 yo DS is a total a-hole.  Every day.  I don't know what happened to him.  He was the fattest, happiest, sweetest baby.  Now he is a miserable prick.  Yes, I'm actually talking about my toddler like that. LOL  
  He's my third.  In my experience, every phase lasts about 3-4 months.  We just have to get through it.  I'm on month 4 of him being a jerk. I'm hoping he is wrapping it up. I am seeing a light at the end of the tunnel.  He has started waving at strangers and smiling again.    
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			Posted 4/24/19 10:00 AM    | 
	
	
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Posted by FirstMate
  My 2 yo DS is a total a-hole.  Every day.  I don't know what happened to him.  He was the fattest, happiest, sweetest baby.  Now he is a miserable prick.  Yes, I'm actually talking about my toddler like that. LOL  
  He's my third.  In my experience, every phase lasts about 3-4 months.  We just have to get through it.  I'm on month 4 of him being a jerk. I'm hoping he is wrapping it up. I am seeing a light at the end of the tunnel.  He has started waving at strangers and smiling again.    
 
 
  what kinds of jerky things does he do? My toddler I keep saying is a jerk too but sometimes I wonder if those things are normal. 
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