If you stay at someone house..

Oh wow, that's so rude of them. Isn't it enough you're providing them with free shelter so they don't have to pay for a hotel? Why do they also expect you to pay for all their meals and snacks? I'd be so pissed.

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Do these people think your home is an all inclusive resort and they are on vacation?
That is SOME balls

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They absolutely should be offering to help out with groceries, cooking, cleaning, household chores, and utility bills (a family of 6 extra people is a lot to take on! Imagine your water bill!). And the occasional taking your family out to dinner isn't out of the way either. They're staying a minimun of 2 weeks? There's a very real possibility that it will be more than that with contract work being so unpredictable. How long have they been staying with you so far? You should work this out with them now before it goes any further.

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Very rude but a total lack of communication. This should have been all talked about prior to them coming. While I absolutely think and would if it was me, contribute probably too much, some people don't think that way and it should have been discussed. Not everyone has common sense, especially when dealing with family.

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That is crazy. My in laws live pretty far so when they come to visit it's for few a weeks. MIL foots the entire grocery bill for all of us while they are here.

I will offer to pick stuff up on the way home if we need something quick, but she buys most of it.

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If you stay at someone house..

This is one I can't wait for an update.

I hope you stand up for yourself. Very ballsy.

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Thats just damnded crazy. They are taking advantage of you because you allow them to. I hope you spoke up.

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Oh no! You are not overreacting at all! 6 people, for at least 2 weeks! and not offering anything? No way!

When I go to my country and stay with my mom, I only go with DS. We stay there longer (about 5 weeks), but I get lunches here and there, I invite her for lunches or dinners, I pay in the supermarket if I'm with her, but I also get my own stuff (cereal, milk, yogurts, bread, snacks, etc), I pay water and electricity bill for the month I'm there, or leave the money for her to do it, and I pay the cleaning lady a couple of times. I consider taking a free ride a very inconsiderate and rude behavior.

If you stay at someone house..

I have stayed with family before for maybe 2 days
I usually buy gifts for the children every time I go
culturally I would feel odd to pay the grocery bill or offer to buy a meal etc
It would be felt as if you insulted their ability to pay

2 weeks is a long time
I don't know , at least the family should help with cooking and take turns with meal prep and cleaning

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Please stand up for yourself. You need to have a sit down and tell them they either buy all groceries or leave now. You are not a hotel. You are not a maid. They don't get to freeload. There is an enormous difference between staying a night or two, with one or even four people, than two weeks with six people. The fact that they are not offering is not cool.

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Oh fu@k that. Thats bullsh@t

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from what you wrote it sounds horrible, and they should offer to help, pick up food and re stock or at least prepare some meal or ask how they can help. However, what was said when you offered them a place to stay? did you set some boundaries or say, you can stay but I would appreciate some help with .....

If you stay at someone house..

I had to come back to say that dh and I stayed with his parents for a night or 2 during hurricane Sandy bc we had no power, a 2 week old baby, and I was recovering from a c-section, and we STILL picked up food for ourselves and tried to help out with cleaning and laundry! I hope your guests get it together and realize they are completely taking advantage.

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I think your family is being rude. Not only should they be providing their own groceries, they should be looking for ways to make your life easier since you are hosting them.

I would be so very annoyed if I had family staying with me that did this. Although my mother stays with me for an average of 3 weeks every other month and she never buys groceries, makes dinner or offers to help out in anyway! I so feel your pain.

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Posted by NervousNell

Posted by klingklang77

Posted by hmm

Posted by Laraaidan

Oh fu@k that. Thats bullsh@t

wow, this is a new person using such lang lol

She's an old poster.

But to answer the OP, that's ridiculous. Did they even bring a gift at least?

And that's normal language. For me at least.

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Posted by Laraaidan

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by klingklang77

Posted by hmm

Posted by Laraaidan

Oh fu@k that. Thats bullsh@t

wow, this is a new person using such lang lol

She's an old poster.

But to answer the OP, that's ridiculous. Did they even bring a gift at least?

And that's normal language. For me at least.

Me too!! Missed you nervous nell lol

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I can't even walk through someone's front door for an evening with out bringing something... There is no way I'd stay for a few weeks and not do just about everything in sheer gratitude.

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Beyond inconsiderate. I cannot believe they expect that you purchase the groceries and prepare the meals. Also, what about the increased water and electric usage?

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We stayed with my inlaws for 2 months back when DS 1 was 15 mos old.

We bought most (if not all) of our own food, and DH made dinner for his parents every night (MIL isn't the greatest cook so it was a treat for them).

We also cleaned the house really well (it was dusty) and DS and I spent our weekends elsewhere (I was working during the week - we visited my family, friends, etc since their house was pretty small).

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If I was staying in someone else's home for 2 weeks, I would not only buy groceries for my family, but I would buy their groceries are well.
I'd offer money for utilities, I'd order in, or take the family out to dinner a few times.

Staying in someone's home is a HUGE favor, like $200-300/day money saving favor. Asking for anything beyond that is disgusting, and beyond selfish, in my opinion.