Differing political views - impacting your relationships

This is NOT a political debate... I'm just having a really really hard time because I feel very very strongly against our new POTUS, like I've been shook to the core, nauseous Every night upset.... yet A LOT of my relatives and co-workers support him. I'm having a really hard time dealing with my anger and disgust. It's to the point that I didn't even want to have my dd's first birthday party last week because I don't even want to be around my family. I don't want people who support those ugly things this man stands for to be in the same room as my daughters. I went on Facebook for the first time ina few weeks, and I'm seething at people's comments, especially those putting down the women's marches. I was always a believer that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but this situation of him being our leader is just too over the top that I can't look at and respect people in the same way.

I guess I'm writing this because I'm wondering if anyone else feels this too, and if anyone has any thoughts on how to move past this, at least the part that involves my friends/family. I'll never accept him but I don't want to lose relationships.

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You are not alone. Two tips for FB

1) Unfollow is a beautiful thing

2) Join groups with similar views as you. My entire feed these days are from groups created for the exaxt concern you have as well as human rights groups. Its empowering to me and makes me feel like im not alone

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YES! My DHs family is Extremely Conservative and are VERY much Pro-Trump. The rhetoric today denouncing the Marchers from most of them on FB is making me SICK. Same for some friends. I am really struggling with it. REALLY. I am not engaging bc they are family and its FB but Im having a REALLY hard time with it.

Thankfully, my immediate family, even those who have historically voted GOP are anti-Trump, so thank God for that.

Differing political views - impacting your relationships

I am opposite of you but having the same problem. I personally put nothing on facebook that is political and I unfollow those that constantly do. It has nothing to do with their views, it's just the constant bombardment of links and comments that I find annoying.

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I'm ashamed to admit it because I thought I was above this but it absolutely has. My parents and in-laws have different views then I do. There have been a few heated discussions. Luckily we are now in a place where we just don't bring it up for the most part.

But I have a once close friend who I've slowly distanced myself from. I can agree to disagree. I don't expect everyone to see things the way I do but the things she posts are so ridiculous I have found myself wondering if I know her at all. It has 100% impacted how I view her and my relationship with her.

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Same here! My entire extended family is opposite from myself and my immediate family. Some of the things my cousins were posting today were making me really upset! I haven't responded to any of it, because I don't want to blow my cover in the Facebook world, but it took everything I had not to today. It's one thing if we don't have the same views, but when people start posting "bored housewives are marching" or "must not have been a sale at kohls today" or posting on the live cams "shut the f up" (all men btw) I freaking lose it to the point of holding back tears.

Differing political views - impacting your relationships

I didn't unfriend, but I unfollowed a lot of people. A lot. I can't believe how many. It's disheartening.

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I unfollowed or unfriended. I wasn't close with these people before FB anyway. After everything that Trump said and did, it's not OK that someone willingly voted for him and I will not tolerate it. This isn't about tolerating other views; it's about hate.

ETA: I do not have anyone in my close (mom, dad, etc.) life that voted for him.

Message edited 1/22/2017 7:18:36 AM.

Differing political views - impacting your relationships

I can deal with FB, I unfollow people whose posts anger me.

In my own house, my father is a huge trump supporter and every single day he makes sure to remind me that trump is the greatest president and a whole bunch of other things I can't even bring myself to repeat. It becomes a lot of yelling, usually in front of my DS, and me just taking DS upstairs to get away. It's causing a lot of stress on everyone and I honest to god have no idea how we will make it through 4 years of this presidency just within my own home.

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I agree with you, it's tough especially with people I'm close to. The crazy comments from people I love are the worst. I wouldn't get into with them and have mostly unfollow those folks.

The in person comments though are harder to deal with, I don't have the expectation that I could change anyones' mind and wouldn't even think to try. I've been just pulling out my phone and ignoring it that. I hope I can continue to do so. It's difficult since I have so much to say.

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Differing political views - impacting your relationships

I have ZERO issue with opposing political views. But when you start throwing horrible insults at people that have different views than you...eh...not a fan, so they get deleted or unfollowed. I've done both in the past few months sadly.

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I'm having a vey difficult time with friends and some family. I've unfollowed so many friends but even ones I continued to follow I really have no desire to hang out with. I'm very involved in my dd school and I would say most of the moms are Trump supporters and post the worst stuff about anti-Trump supporters and yesterday they were very negative about the women's March. I find myself questioning if I can remain friends with these women.

I'm apart of PSN LI and that really helps to just see others with the same views. I'm going to try to get more involved with local meet ups with like minded people because I just cannot relate to women who think a Racist and Sexist is good for our country and our children.

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Yes!! I have unfollowed my kids friends parents ( I would delete them but don't want to alienate her from her her friends

Good friends I am distaning myself from other because they support trump but their attitude towards it I can't take anymore.

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Thank you everyone who has responded. It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one with these intense feelings.