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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
Posted by ohbaby08
This post is very interesting to me, because I have this same argument/discussion with my husband. I tend to post a lot of political stuff on FB, because it is my outlet to vent my frustrations. I don't do it to throw my points of view in other people's faces, but if an article I share enlightens someone to something they hadn't thought of before, that's great. If not, and I'm just posting into the void, so be it.
My husband, on the other hand, thinks FB isn't for political discussions. We don't discuss politics at home because we don't share a lot of the same views. So, to me, FB (and my parents) are really the only places I can discuss it.
I don't find it egocentric. I find selfies and videos of oneself to be much more ego-driven than someone posting their political opinion.
I guess I should clarify that I don't think that all political posts are egocentric. The thing that struck me about the OP was that she said she felt compelled to post. I was curious as to what would cause that compulsion and I stated that I could see someone being embarrassed if it was one of those situations where someone is constantly getting on their soapbox and spewing political views all over Facebook. Frankly, I am embarrassed for those people too. THAT to me is egocentric. The OP explained in further detail what her posts are about and related to and why she enjoys posting about these things - makes total sense, and I think her inlaws embarrassment stems from their own insecurities.
Personally I am more in the camp that Facebook is a break from reality, a chance to catch up with old friends, look at people's vacation pics or cute pics of their kids. For me it is not a place I go to learn things or get my news from. That's what I come on here for!
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
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Personally I am more in the camp that Facebook is a break from reality, a chance to catch up with old friends, look at people's vacation pics or cute pics of their kids. For me it is not a place I go to learn things or get my news from. That's what I come on here for!
I used to feel the same way! As a matter of fact, when MIL first signed up, I taught her some "etiquette" which specifically included instructions not to engage in heated discussions on FB. Holy pot calling the kettle black, huh? Lol, ok so I don't get into heated discussions on FB, but based on some of the provocative articles, it could...
I think all of those rules went out the window when the campaign began!
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ohbaby08
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
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Posted by ohbaby08
This post is very interesting to me, because I have this same argument/discussion with my husband. I tend to post a lot of political stuff on FB, because it is my outlet to vent my frustrations. I don't do it to throw my points of view in other people's faces, but if an article I share enlightens someone to something they hadn't thought of before, that's great. If not, and I'm just posting into the void, so be it.
My husband, on the other hand, thinks FB isn't for political discussions. We don't discuss politics at home because we don't share a lot of the same views. So, to me, FB (and my parents) are really the only places I can discuss it.
I don't find it egocentric. I find selfies and videos of oneself to be much more ego-driven than someone posting their political opinion.
I guess I should clarify that I don't think that all political posts are egocentric. The thing that struck me about the OP was that she said she felt compelled to post. I was curious as to what would cause that compulsion and I stated that I could see someone being embarrassed if it was one of those situations where someone is constantly getting on their soapbox and spewing political views all over Facebook. Frankly, I am embarrassed for those people too. THAT to me is egocentric. The OP explained in further detail what her posts are about and related to and why she enjoys posting about these things - makes total sense, and I think her inlaws embarrassment stems from their own insecurities.
Personally I am more in the camp that Facebook is a break from reality, a chance to catch up with old friends, look at people's vacation pics or cute pics of their kids. For me it is not a place I go to learn things or get my news from. That's what I come on here for!
I didn't mean my post as a direct response to you. I was just commenting on various things said in the thread. Sorry if it came off that way.
My hubby has the same view of FB as you do.
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
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Posted by lulu
Personally I am more in the camp that Facebook is a break from reality, a chance to catch up with old friends, look at people's vacation pics or cute pics of their kids. For me it is not a place I go to learn things or get my news from. That's what I come on here for!
I used to feel the same way! As a matter of fact, when MIL first signed up, I taught her some "etiquette" which specifically included instructions not to engage in heated discussions on FB. Holy pot calling the kettle black, huh? Lol, ok so I don't get into heated discussions on FB, but based on some of the provocative articles, it could...
I think all of those rules went out the window when the campaign began!
This was me! But, this election brought out my feisty side lol
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
I ignore all my in laws political posts. My mil just blindly follows her husband. I don't engage because it's just not worth it. I wouldn't stop posting I'd just tell them to hide my feed.
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Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
I have very different political views than my own mother. We do not talk politics at all. We know we have different views and we respect that. As far as Facebook. Unfollow them if you need to post political topics. I have unfollowed quite a few people who constantly forward or link unsubstantiated news stories multiple times a day, from both political parties. For me, Facebook is not about posting my political rants but to connect with family and friends, if you want to be political and your family doesn't like it, unfriend them or create a new profile for your opinions and use your own to share things with your family.
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
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Posted by ohbaby08
This post is very interesting to me, because I have this same argument/discussion with my husband. I tend to post a lot of political stuff on FB, because it is my outlet to vent my frustrations. I don't do it to throw my points of view in other people's faces, but if an article I share enlightens someone to something they hadn't thought of before, that's great. If not, and I'm just posting into the void, so be it.
My husband, on the other hand, thinks FB isn't for political discussions. We don't discuss politics at home because we don't share a lot of the same views. So, to me, FB (and my parents) are really the only places I can discuss it.
I don't find it egocentric. I find selfies and videos of oneself to be much more ego-driven than someone posting their political opinion.
I guess I should clarify that I don't think that all political posts are egocentric. The thing that struck me about the OP was that she said she felt compelled to post. I was curious as to what would cause that compulsion and I stated that I could see someone being embarrassed if it was one of those situations where someone is constantly getting on their soapbox and spewing political views all over Facebook. Frankly, I am embarrassed for those people too. THAT to me is egocentric. The OP explained in further detail what her posts are about and related to and why she enjoys posting about these things - makes total sense, and I think her inlaws embarrassment stems from their own insecurities.
Personally I am more in the camp that Facebook is a break from reality, a chance to catch up with old friends, look at people's vacation pics or cute pics of their kids. For me it is not a place I go to learn things or get my news from. That's what I come on here for!
So you can make your facebook experience what you want by simply unfollowing or unfriending those who post things you don't want to see. That's what I do. Why you feel the need to call it egocentric to post political things, I don't understand. Facebook is a platform to socialize online. You can share 500 selfies of yourself (which I personally find much more egocentric and I unfollow friends who do that) or post about political issues. Just cut it out of your feed if you're not interested.
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
Posted by Chai77
Posted by lululu
Posted by ohbaby08
This post is very interesting to me, because I have this same argument/discussion with my husband. I tend to post a lot of political stuff on FB, because it is my outlet to vent my frustrations. I don't do it to throw my points of view in other people's faces, but if an article I share enlightens someone to something they hadn't thought of before, that's great. If not, and I'm just posting into the void, so be it.
My husband, on the other hand, thinks FB isn't for political discussions. We don't discuss politics at home because we don't share a lot of the same views. So, to me, FB (and my parents) are really the only places I can discuss it.
I don't find it egocentric. I find selfies and videos of oneself to be much more ego-driven than someone posting their political opinion.
I guess I should clarify that I don't think that all political posts are egocentric. The thing that struck me about the OP was that she said she felt compelled to post. I was curious as to what would cause that compulsion and I stated that I could see someone being embarrassed if it was one of those situations where someone is constantly getting on their soapbox and spewing political views all over Facebook. Frankly, I am embarrassed for those people too. THAT to me is egocentric. The OP explained in further detail what her posts are about and related to and why she enjoys posting about these things - makes total sense, and I think her inlaws embarrassment stems from their own insecurities.
Personally I am more in the camp that Facebook is a break from reality, a chance to catch up with old friends, look at people's vacation pics or cute pics of their kids. For me it is not a place I go to learn things or get my news from. That's what I come on here for!
So you can make your facebook experience what you want by simply unfollowing or unfriending those who post things you don't want to see. That's what I do. Why you feel the need to call it egocentric to post political things, I don't understand. Facebook is a platform to socialize online. You can share 500 selfies of yourself (which I personally find much more egocentric and I unfollow friends who do that) or post about political issues. Just cut it out of your feed if you're not interested.
Did you even read what I wrote?!?! I specifically said "I don't think all political posts are egocentric." You don't understand because you didn't read what I wrote. I explained exactly what I thought was egocentric in the post that you quoted. I would certainly consider someone posting 1000 selfless egocentric as well. The two situations I described are not mutually exclusive.
I am just stating my opinion. You don't have to agree with it and frankly, unlike many people on here, I am not bothered or offended by what I read. It really doesn't affect me how someone else feels or finds the need to post about. I am not a political person by nature therefore nothing I read really gets my panties in a bunch.
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Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
I would never censor myself like that if asked. I think it goes against the whole freedom of speech thing.
On a related note, it's hypocrital. I have conservative and R friends. They talk nonstop about how we need to stop being PC, freedom of speech, etc. they have used that to defend stuff they've said or posted. But I've noticed they are usually the first ones to point out that people need to let things go, keep their mouths shut, stop poking fun at Trump etc. these are same people who followed the birther sh!t with Obama and that his middle name is Hussein and he's a Muslim in secret.
So it's a wee bit hypocrital.
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
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I would never censor myself like that if asked. I think it goes against the whole freedom of speech thing.
On a related note, it's hypocrital. I have conservative and R friends. They talk nonstop about how we need to stop being PC, freedom of speech, etc. they have used that to defend stuff they've said or posted. But I've noticed they are usually the first ones to point out that people need to let things go, keep their mouths shut, stop poking fun at Trump etc. these are same people who followed the birther sh!t with Obama and that his middle name is Hussein and he's a Muslim in secret.
So it's a wee bit hypocrital.
I see what you are saying but I think this is a generational thing. For example if you are conservative Catholics and you have based your whole life fighting against abortion and then you have a daughter in law that is totally prochoice and posting pictures of her at pro-choice demonstrations and posting pro-choice articles etc., I could see friends of the older couple saying things to you about your crazy daughter in law. I think it's totally wrong of them to say anything or expect their daughter in law to change but because she has an otherwise good relationship with them, and it's relatively easy for her to just block them and her friends from seeing this stuff, why not just do it to keep the peace? These are old people! No one is changing their mind at this point. And in my experience with my own mother, the older she gets the crazier she and her friends become.
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Re: Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
I can sort of see where they are coming from. My mom posts a lot of conservative trump loving stuff and it embarrasses me. That said, I don't talk to her about it- so it's a diff scenario. Deep down though I die when she posts a real good one, lol, especially bc she is friends with so many of my friends.
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Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
As your Facebook friend, I don't think you post anything overly political excessively at all. At least compared to me lol.
I think they have some nerve but to keep the peace, just block them or teach them how to unfollow you.
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Spinoff to in-laws: when politics get in the way
Just delete them from Facebook or block them from your posts. When they ask why you can tell them since you embarrass them then there is no need for them to see your posts. I would also block these so called people who would be offended and are making them look bad. I'd be livid if my inlaws questioned what I posted and they would promptly be blocked. Personally I don't like political posts and do not even LIKE the ones I agree with but its your right to post what you want. If somebody doesn't like it they can unfollow you. I had to unfolllow a few people during the election for their ridiculous posts.
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