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Budjeg11
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Do Your In-Laws
Usually get you and/or DH a Christmas/holiday gift?
My in laws will usually get DH some sweaters etc but have never actually gotten me anything
Just curious.. as I am stressing out over in laws gifts this year and just realized-- they clearly don't stress over what to get me !
ETA: My parents also give us both gifts for birtdhays, Christmas, anniversaries.. and they are very generous. His parents aren't into gifts so I don't take offense-- b ut just thinking if theyre not into gifts than I don't need to be into gifts for them either =)
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dlj97
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Do Your In-Laws
My parents get us gifts, dh's parents do not. They don't really give the kids either though!
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| Posted 12/19/15 5:02 PM |
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Posted by dlj97
My parents get us gifts, dh's parents do not. They don't really give the kids either though!
Same here
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| Posted 12/19/15 5:24 PM |
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ElizaRags35
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Do Your In-Laws
They usually give DH a bunch of stuff and then give me a few things. I'd rather they didn't though. I have enough junky watches with interchangeable straps from HSN to last a lifetime. With them it's definitely quantity vs quality.
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| Posted 12/19/15 5:31 PM |
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
They give us both gifts - same amount
My mom doesn't give us gifts but that's bc I told her not to. She doesn't have much $ and I don't want her spending it on us. Though she will get a little thoughtful something if she sees it. With me, it's raisinets.
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| Posted 12/19/15 5:33 PM |
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PitterPatter11
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Do Your In-Laws
Both sets of parents get us gifts. My parents though are not into internet shopping so I usually buy the gifts for DH and my parents reimburse me.
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| Posted 12/19/15 5:39 PM |
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cets1290
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Do Your In-Laws
they only get your dh a gift and not you? I find that to be so mean :( I wouldn't get them anything then! Let dh get them something
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| Posted 12/19/15 6:02 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
In laws get my dh and I both gifts. Sometimes a share gift
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| Posted 12/19/15 6:26 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
Posted by cets1290
they only get your dh a gift and not you? I find that to be so mean :( I wouldn't get them anything then! Let dh get them something
ITA! That is really wrong of them.
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| Posted 12/19/15 6:38 PM |
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Peainapod
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
well my MIL is insane with her gift giving. she's loaded. she's always bought me something and DH something, and then sometimes a joint gift on top of that.
my parents always buy for DH and sometimes its more than what they give me..LOL.
and that's really weird they only buy for him. How rude!!
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| Posted 12/19/15 6:49 PM |
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mrsdukes
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
I have grown kids, and I buy their spouses and my younger son's girlfriend the same amount of gifts as I do for my own kids. And, my inlaws are deceased now but they always bought us both gifts.
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| Posted 12/19/15 8:03 PM |
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wakemeup
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
We get a check and the kids get gifts. My ILs have always been awesome and generous.
My parents buy us both gifts as well.
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| Posted 12/19/15 8:56 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
When I did, yes she always bought for both of us.
As did my mom.
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| Posted 12/19/15 9:00 PM |
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queensgal
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
They do give us both something. But always a gift card. Rarely it's for something that required any thought - either generic visa or a place I wouldn't go to (i.e. Their fav restaurant)
I sound ungrateful but just background to say I'm just like you. This year I told DH this is his responsibility!!!
I shop for all teachers, my family, nieces/nephews on both sides, and our kids. Plus I do cards, cookies, decorating, etc. this is the only thing he has to do.
So OP I totally agree with your approach! BTW I do think it's odd they buy for him and not you. But then again my I laws say "let's take a family pic" and ask me to take it since I'm not included.......but that's another story lol
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| Posted 12/19/15 9:04 PM |
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Millie3
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
No. After a couple of years of buying for my inlaws, I stopped. They were very ungrateful and so I don't bother getting them gifts for anything.
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| Posted 12/19/15 9:15 PM |
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Budjeg11
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
Posted by cets1290
they only get your dh a gift and not you? I find that to be so mean :( I wouldn't get them anything then! Let dh get them something
I could get into a million things that annoy the ever living crap out of me when it comes to my in laws but although I was taken aback about this one at first I think my MIL just felt like she still needed to shop for her little boy so I wasn't really offended ...lol. but cue my bigger issues with my in laws-- i.e. the fact that he gets treated like a little prince whose mommy still needs to take care of him because his wife isn't.
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| Posted 12/19/15 9:21 PM |
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Budjeg11
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Posted by queensgal
They do give us both something. But always a gift card. Rarely it's for something that required any thought - either generic visa or a place I wouldn't go to (i.e. Their fav restaurant)
I sound ungrateful but just background to say I'm just like you. This year I told DH this is his responsibility!!!
I shop for all teachers, my family, nieces/nephews on both sides, and our kids. Plus I do cards, cookies, decorating, etc. this is the only thing he has to do.
So OP I totally agree with your approach! BTW I do think it's odd they buy for him and not you. But then again my I laws say "let's take a family pic" and ask me to take it since I'm not included.......but that's another story lol
Ya same here-- I feel like even if they did give me a gift their gift should be his responsibility since theyre HIS parents and I do EVERYTHING else holiday (and lets faceit, everything else ) related , But in this case DH doesn't care - hes the one that's always said not to bother with a gift-- That's not the way I was raised... but a girl can change
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| Posted 12/19/15 9:23 PM |
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Usually my Inlaws give us both money as a joint gift. If they do happen to buy physical gifts instead, they always get us gifts of equal value.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
My IL's have always bought me gifts and she spends as much on me as she does on DH. And the reverse is true, my parents buy DH too and spend the same on him.
Frankly, I'd be quite insulted if my IL's bought for DH and not me. I'm his wife, I'm family..........I would consider that in very poor taste on their part to not consider me and get me something as well. Especially since we, as a couple, buy gifts for them on Xmas.
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gina409
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
Posted by Hofstra26
My IL's have always bought me gifts and she spends as much on me as she does on DH. And the reverse is true, my parents buy DH too and spend the same on him.
Frankly, I'd be quite insulted if my IL's bought for DH and not me. I'm his wife, I'm family..........I would consider that in very poor taste on their part to not consider me and get me something as well. Especially since we, as a couple, buy gifts for them on Xmas.
Same here!!
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Budjeg11
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
Posted by Hofstra26
My IL's have always bought me gifts and she spends as much on me as she does on DH. And the reverse is true, my parents buy DH too and spend the same on him.
Frankly, I'd be quite insulted if my IL's bought for DH and not me. I'm his wife, I'm family..........I would consider that in very poor taste on their part to not consider me and get me something as well. Especially since we, as a couple, buy gifts for them on Xmas.
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My parents are the same way as your parents and in laws. I agree-- but again-- considering the many things my in laws do which are in poor taste and show a disdain for how they feel about me-- this one ranks low lol.
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WannaBeAMom11
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Do Your In-Laws
They cut us a check as they dont shop and would hAve no clue what to get us. . I buy their gifts as Dh would have no clue what to get them.
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nferrandi
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Re: Do Your In-Laws
They used to make a little more effort in the gift department, but they did always buy for both of us or a joint gift. Now we either get a gift card or usually wine- which is technically for both of us, but DH usually enjoys that gift more then I do ;)
My parents always do equal for both of us. And it's usually cash. The best gift in the world. Lol
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BlessedMomma
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Do Your In-Laws
Usually just our daughter. And they arent big on that either. My in laws are not big on presents. They do better for her bday. They were never big on presents even before her, like when it came to us.
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| Posted 12/20/15 9:54 AM |
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Posted by Hofstra26
My IL's have always bought me gifts and she spends as much on me as she does on DH. And the reverse is true, my parents buy DH too and spend the same on him.
Frankly, I'd be quite insulted if my IL's bought for DH and not me. I'm his wife, I'm family..........I would consider that in very poor taste on their part to not consider me and get me something as well. Especially since we, as a couple, buy gifts for them on Xmas.
My MIL is more out of site, out of mind. That is how she acts. Makes no sense though as my parents are out of state too but always remember us and have a relationship with our kids. Some people just put more of an effort into things.
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