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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
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IMO, she is using the word "submissive" correctly and she does not mean "compromise." In their marriage, her husband has the final word and, in return, he provides and protects her. I think it takes a special kind of relationship for this to work which is groundly firmly in mutual respect. It sounds like they found that balance and I'm sure that balance was easy given they are both moderatly wealthy. However, for the everyday man, I'm not sure how this arrangement would work for everyday people are struggle financially, emotionally, etc.
I was going to say something similar. I think she means "submissive" in the true sense.
If that's the way she meant it.. then... like I said- whatever floats their boat, I'm not married to 'em. This would NOT work in my marriage, that's for sure.
Agreed.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
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Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by Pumpkin1
IMO, she is using the word "submissive" correctly and she does not mean "compromise." In their marriage, her husband has the final word and, in return, he provides and protects her. I think it takes a special kind of relationship for this to work which is groundly firmly in mutual respect. It sounds like they found that balance and I'm sure that balance was easy given they are both moderatly wealthy. However, for the everyday man, I'm not sure how this arrangement would work for everyday people are struggle financially, emotionally, etc.
I was going to say something similar. I think she means "submissive" in the true sense.
If that's the way she meant it.. then... like I said- whatever floats their boat, I'm not married to 'em. This would NOT work in my marriage, that's for sure.
Agreed.
Also agreed. I could never.
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2BadSoSad
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Im far too feisty to be submissive in any form of the word, but hey, if it works for them, then more power to them.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I think they go by the same religion as the Duggars. The independent fundamentalist Baptist Church.
I always watch the Duggars on TV and was curious about their religion. I came across a book called I fired God. It's about this women life growing up and married in this religion. She uses the word Submissive a lot because in the religion the women are taught to be submissive to the men at all times and stay happy and sweet. It's an interesting read. Not at all what I thought. A bit disturbing. She even mentions the Duggars a few times. So not to sure about all of it.
If she is happy and it works for her, then that's great. Just curious after reading this book if all these women are actually happy or just say everything is fine.
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Annie91606
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I think this can work in many marriages, depending on the background and personalities involved. It appears to work for her. She also got married young, I believe.
It would not work in our marriage. My mom was always assertive and I am too. Also, my in laws have a marriage where my MIL is submissive and has always had my FIL call the shots. As a result, my DH is turned off by women who cannot think for themselves and do what their husband wants. He felt line his Dad had too much of pressure to make all the decisions, that his Mom is not a partner, and he resented it and had less respect for her.
She also has issues with feeling helpless.
Not for me.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Posted by Annie91606
I think this can work in many marriages, depending on the background and personalities involved. It appears to work for her. She also got married young, I believe.
It would not work in our marriage. My mom was always assertive and I am too. Also, my in laws have a marriage where my MIL is submissive and has always had my FIL call the shots. As a result, my DH is turned off by women who cannot think for themselves and do what their husband wants. He felt line his Dad had too much of pressure to make all the decisions, that his Mom is not a partner, and he resented it and had less respect for her.
She also has issues with feeling helpless.
Not for me.
Well being submissive and not being able to think for yourself are two different things.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Posted by Alli06
I think they go by the same religion as the Duggars. The independent fundamentalist Baptist Church.
I always watch the Duggars on TV and was curious about their religion. I came across a book called I fired God. It's about this women life growing up and married in this religion. She uses the word Submissive a lot because in the religion the women are taught to be submissive to the men at all times and stay happy and sweet. It's an interesting read. Not at all what I thought. A bit disturbing. She even mentions the Duggars a few times. So not to sure about all of it.
If she is happy and it works for her, then that's great. Just curious after reading this book if all these women are actually happy or just say everything is fine.
I was going to say that I watch the show. I love the family, just not some of their beliefs, but to each his own.
I have seen Michelle talk (on the show) and say how a wife MUST be submissive to her husband. She needs to let him feel life HE is running the house, finances etc. Look, it works for them, I don't agree but it works for them.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Im far too feisty to be submissive in any form of the word, but hey, if it works for them, then more power to them.
Me too! Just hearing the word submissive makes me get a little antsy!
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Annie91606
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
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Posted by Annie91606
I think this can work in many marriages, depending on the background and personalities involved. It appears to work for her. She also got married young, I believe.
It would not work in our marriage. My mom was always assertive and I am too. Also, my in laws have a marriage where my MIL is submissive and has always had my FIL call the shots. As a result, my DH is turned off by women who cannot think for themselves and do what their husband wants. He felt line his Dad had too much of pressure to make all the decisions, that his Mom is not a partner, and he resented it and had less respect for her.
She also has issues with feeling helpless.
Not for me.
Well being submissive and not being able to think for
yourself are two different things.
Maybe, but neither of those appeal to me in my marriage. We are partners, we both make decisions for our family. We grow as friends and husband and wife by challenging each other. It makes us better people overall. I also think it makes us better parents.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
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I was going to say that I watch the show. I love the family, just not some of their beliefs, but to each his own.
I have seen Michelle talk (on the show) and say how a wife MUST be submissive to her husband. She needs to let him feel life HE is running the house, finances etc. Look, it works for them, I don't agree but it works for them.
I don't watch the show- but I wonder if he feels he's running everything, or if she is and makes him feel like he is, if that makes sense. And in some ways, that may not be fair to him, in my experience DH and I are happy because we share the load. Him expecting me to do as he says would not go over well.
Posted by Annie91606
Well being submissive and not being able to think for
yourself are two different things.
Maybe, but neither of those appeal to me in my marriage. We are partners, we both make decisions for our family. We grow as friends and husband and wife by challenging each other. It makes us better people overall. I also think it makes us better parents.
ITA. Obviously we're not there so we don't know but how much does she really need to think for herself and does it matter if she does? If she is truly submissive to him I'd imagine his word is what matters most.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
She is a Christian and lives by the bible. The scripture that references submission is:
Ephesians 5:22-33
22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
They are a wonderful example.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Posted by Michmouse
She is a Christian and lives by the bible. The scripture that references submission is:
Ephesians 5:22-33
22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
They are a wonderful example.
Right. She is talking about biblical submission. There is a lot of interesting writing about this topic by educated women. (check out sheworships.com or practical theology for women...two good blogs written by women with theology PhDs) It is actually a place of strength, that you essentially are lifting up others through the act of submission. Its not that women are less intelligent or capable of making decisions, but more of an active decision to empower your husband, in this sense. Also, this scripture gets interpreted to mean that women should submit to all men...it doesn't say that.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I also noticed that she got married when she was only 20 years old. Maybe he is older, and has "taken care" of her during the course of their marriage.
In that case, it makes more sense that she follows his lead. She has likely never been on her own. So this type of marriage probably works well for them.
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I'm more struck by her observation, "It's very difficult to have two heads of authority [in a marriage]." If it works for them, then fine - but I'd like to think that my daughters see my husband and I as two heads of authority in our home.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Posted by Annie91606
I also noticed that she got married when she was only 20 years old. Maybe he is older, and has "taken care" of her during the course of their marriage.
In that case, it makes more sense that she follows his lead. She has likely never been on her own. So this type of marriage probably works well for them.
He is only 2 years old than her.
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Annie91606
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
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Posted by Annie91606
I also noticed that she got married when she was only 20 years old. Maybe he is older, and has "taken care" of her during the course of their marriage.
In that case, it makes more sense that she follows his lead. She has likely never been on her own. So this type of marriage probably works well for them.
He is only 2 years old than her.
All right, so he is not a father figure type, but she was still very young and impressionable when they got together.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I'm so glad she isn't getting bashed for this here.
I am not a submissive type at all, and I can see my part in a lot of the turmoil in our marriage
That being said, if both marriage partners are in full agreement in the roles, there is nothing wrong with this kind of dynamic...
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
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Posted by Michmouse
She is a Christian and lives by the bible. The scripture that references submission is:
Ephesians 5:22-33
22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
They are a wonderful example.
Right. She is talking about biblical submission. There is a lot of interesting writing about this topic by educated women. (check out sheworships.com or practical theology for women...two good blogs written by women with theology PhDs) It is actually a place of strength, that you essentially are lifting up others through the act of submission. Its not that women are less intelligent or capable of making decisions, but more of an active decision to empower your husband, in this sense. Also, this scripture gets interpreted to mean that women should submit to all men...it doesn't say that.
agree. I think the main point to take away from what she said is that she has an understanding of her role and it's IMPORTANCE in her marriage. So, she does recognize and value her own self worth. Submission doesn't mean you become someones doormat. If she can feel confident in her husband enough to trust him with being the "head of operations" so to speak then good for her. It's not for everybody, but for some it may work well.
I'm no rocket scientist myself...but in regards to some matters my husband is not mature enough to be the head of operations in this household, but that doesn't mean I undermine him at every turn or belittle him or treat him like a child. I offer my input and when I feel it is necessary for the best interest of my family as a whole, I take the reins...with his support of course.
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Posted by meloyellow
Posted by rsquared
Posted by Michmouse
She is a Christian and lives by the bible. The scripture that references submission is:
Ephesians 5:22-33
22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
They are a wonderful example.
Right. She is talking about biblical submission. There is a lot of interesting writing about this topic by educated women. (check out sheworships.com or practical theology for women...two good blogs written by women with theology PhDs) It is actually a place of strength, that you essentially are lifting up others through the act of submission. Its not that women are less intelligent or capable of making decisions, but more of an active decision to empower your husband, in this sense. Also, this scripture gets interpreted to mean that women should submit to all men...it doesn't say that.
agree. I think the main point to take away from what she said is that she has an understanding of her role and it's IMPORTANCE in her marriage. So, she does recognize and value her own self worth. Submission doesn't mean you become someones doormat. If she can feel confident in her husband enough to trust him with being the "head of operations" so to speak then good for her. It's not for everybody, but for some it may work well.
I'm no rocket scientist myself...but in regards to some matters my husband is not mature enough to be the head of operations in this household, but that doesn't mean I undermine him at every turn or belittle him or treat him like a child. I offer my input and when I feel it is necessary for the best interest of my family as a whole, I take the reins...with his support of course.
Same with us. I do the bills and he has no problem with it and would rather I do it. As long as everything is getting paid, he doesn't care.
As long as it is not an abusive controlling relationship, I don't see how it is any different from a woman having their dh do the bills or do all the working or other decision making.
I know people married just as long as them and longer and really not wanting to be together. They should be applauded for wanting to stay married and having it work for them.
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Would not work for me and I would not choose to raise a daughter to seek a marriage like this, but it's not my marriage, so it's none of my business.
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