introducing concept of sibling - at what point in your 2nd pregnancy

at what point in your 2nd pregnancy did you introduce DC#1 to the concept of being a sibling or the fact that there was a baby in the belly?

introducing concept of sibling - at what point in your 2nd pregnancy

My SIL, after having two losses, waited until after the NT scan. They didn't really "understand" it until the baby was born though.

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i waited until DS noticed my belly, and then he asked me what was in my bubble, and we told him, i think it was around 15 weeks.

introducing concept of sibling - at what point in your 2nd pregnancy

I have been telling DS that there is a baby in mommys belly but he does not fully understand what the heck i am talking about... he is only 21 months

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My boys were 3.5 and 4.5 so I didn't want to tell them to early. Otherwise the pregnancy might feel like an eternity to them. I told them when I was around 20 weeks.

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we started talking about it when we told everyone around 12 weeks or so but he didnt understand at that point- now that I am like 39 weeks he sees my belly and seems to better understand that there is a baby in there

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We told DS from the moment we found out. He'll be 3 in a few weeks.

I'm a little over 20 weeks with a belly and he still is in denial

A few weeks agon I told him I couldn't carry him while we were taking a walk for longer than a block because it hurts Mommy's belly.

He looked at me and said:

'It's time for the baby's Mama to come get him!'

I said 'I am the baby's Mama!"

He looked at me again with a what cha talking about Willis face and said 'Mama, YOU'RE silly!"

Denial...lololol

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Posted by BriBri2u

We told DS from the moment we found out. He'll be 3 in a few weeks.

I'm a little over 20 weeks with a belly and he still is in denial

A few weeks agon I told him I couldn't carry him while we were taking a walk for longer than a block because it hurts Mommy's belly.

He looked at me and said:

'It's time for the baby's Mama to come get him!'

I said 'I am the baby's Mama!"

He looked at me again with a what cha talking about Willis face and said 'Mama, YOU'RE silly!"

Denial...lololol

introducing concept of sibling - at what point in your 2nd pregnancy

I am 9 weeks and dont plan on telling my 2 1/2 yr old dd until after all genetic testing

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We told my 26 month old 2 weeks ago ( I was about 10 weeks at the time) thinking she would forget/ not get it. I told her that there was a little baby in my belly and that she would be a big sister, that the baby was gonna sleep in her crib but that she would get a big girl bed (I really hyped it up ). She got SO excited. She put her face to my belly and said "Come out baby." I told her the baby is tiny and has to grow big before it can come out. Last night, she when she laying down in her crib, she told me she needed the "tiny baby" to sleep in her crib.

This morning we ran into my neighbor (who I hardly know) and she was commenting on how my DD was getting to be such a big girl...to which my DD responded "There a baby in mommy's tubby". I was SHOCKED! she outted me to a practical stranger!! We haven't even told most if our family yet!

I probably should have waited a little longer bc I have a feeling it's gonna be a long pregnancy with her anticipating the arrival the the "tiny baby."

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Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319

We told my 26 month old 2 weeks ago ( I was about 10 weeks at the time) thinking she would forget/ not get it. I told her that there was a little baby in my belly and that she would be a big sister, that the baby was gonna sleep in her crib but that she would get a big girl bed (I really hyped it up ). She got SO excited. She put her face to my belly and said "Come out baby." I told her the baby is tiny and has to grow big before it can come out. Last night, she when she laying down in her crib, she told me she needed the "tiny baby" to sleep in her crib.

This morning we ran into my neighbor (who I hardly know) and she was commenting on how my DD was getting to be such a big girl...to which my DD responded "There a baby in mommy's tubby". I was SHOCKED! she outted me to a practical stranger!! We haven't even told most if our family yet!

I probably should have waited a little longer bc I have a feeling it's gonna be a long pregnancy with her anticipating the arrival the the "tiny baby."

introducing concept of sibling - at what point in your 2nd pregnancy

We told DD at 12 weeks because I wanted to tell her older cousins. Well, big mistake. . . She told everyone we ran into. . . Made for some awkward moments LOL
and now, every time I go to the doctor she asks why he didn't take him out yet lol
But she is very sweet, she lays little treats on my belly for the baby like chocolate or toys. . . But gets mad when I eat them lol

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DD told ME I was pregnant. The morning I took the test we were in bed and she pointed to my tummy and said "baby in belly" I laughed and said "ha I don't think so kid!" (We weren't TTC). Well that night I started thinking about dates and realized AF was due a few days earlier so I told myself if I had a test in the closet I'd take it. Well, DH was out playing cards and I just happened to have a non-expired FRER so I said why the heck not. Well boom there it was. BFP. I almost had a heart attack I was so shocked. I told DD the next morning she was going to be a big sister. She was very excited.

Fast forward a week and MIL is babysitting DD and before we leave DD says "baby in the belly" and my MIL gives me this look like Wha? I had a quick excuse (preggo brain can't remember what it was right now) and she bought it. In hindsight I shouldnt have told DD so early especially bc she's so vocal. We didn't talk about the baby all that much after that until we were ready to announce to our parents.

introducing concept of sibling - at what point in your 2nd pregnancy

After first sonogram with a HB.

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Posted by BriBri2u

We told DS from the moment we found out. He'll be 3 in a few weeks.

I'm a little over 20 weeks with a belly and he still is in denial

A few weeks agon I told him I couldn't carry him while we were taking a walk for longer than a block because it hurts Mommy's belly.

He looked at me and said:

'It's time for the baby's Mama to come get him!'

I said 'I am the baby's Mama!"

He looked at me again with a what cha talking about Willis face and said 'Mama, YOU'RE silly!"

Denial...lololol

Crashing but that story made me LOL
So cute!

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When we found out!

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having a loss, i would personally wait until after the NT exam.

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From the second we found out. DD was almost 4 at the time and had been asking for a sibling for a while. Because I knew I would have so many dr appts early on that she had to go with me too we just told her. She was great when DS was born, I think it helped she had a lot of time to get use to the idea,

Congrats btw!!!!!

introducing concept of sibling - at what point in your 2nd pregnancy

We told her at 9w but she was in denial for a few weeks then one day it finally clicked and she got all excited

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Our ds is 2yr9mo old & we told him & have been talking about it since my bfp! He's my best buddy & I spend all day with him, so I love to talk about it! We also watch baby story together, & we took him to our first appointment; it was so cute bc all day b4 the appointment, he was saying we are going to mommys doctor to see the baby! I tell him to do nice nice to mommys belly & give baby a kiss! Too cute, I can't wait for his sibling to come!! I'm only 8 weeks. ETA: if he was older & fully understood, we would have probably waited until at least the 1st sono.

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I just got my BFP last Friday (DD is 2yr4mos), I estimate my due date to be around April 24th (DD will be exactly 3), I plan to start telling her around Christmas or if she asks (whichever happens first). I think she needs time to get excited, but I think if I tell her now or after the first sono...it's going to be a long 9 months for her!

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Message edited 8/23/2013 9:46:47 PM.

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i think you have to go with your comfort level and how you feel, I had a MC in nov and im so glad we never told DS, but if you are comfortable telling your child now, then i say go for it!! there is no right or wrong answer.