Re: Gender Reveal Party

Posted by ShaunsMommy

I realize that I'm not answering your original question here buttttt.....as somone who did in fact "jump through hoops" and went through A LOT to have a baby, a gender reveal party invite would get a big ol' from me and I would mostly likely decline the invite. So overbaord IMHO.

ETA: most people have a baby shower (and get gifts)...then once the baby is born people visit in the hospital (and again they bring gifts). A gender reveal party just seems like too much to me. UNLESS it is being done IN LIEU of one of these things (ie the shower)

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I had totally ignored this thread bc I don't have kids, very few of my friends have kids, and when I'm prego, I'm not going to want to know the sex ahead of time, but I had to see why it was So compelling.

I should have known it would be drama.

I can see both sides of it. Life is REALLY short and there are so many negative things, sickness, funerals, etc, why not celebrate everything you can? If it were a relative or close friend, I'd be really excited to go to a gender reveal party (but I'd be confused about gift expectations).

If it's another opportunity to get gifts, I'd say it's a little over the top. I wouldn't expect that kind of party to be at a hall, but maybe they are really excited, tried hard to have a baby and their house can't fit them. I'd prefer to not have to bring a gift if I'm already going to give a shower gift, a baby gift and a 1st birthday gift, etc.

I think until we know whether gifts are expected, it's hard to judge.

Maybe you can ask the mom's mom or other relative casually if there is a registry for this event, and then they will tell you yes, or they'll tell you no gifts expected.

I would think it's a no-gifts occasion, especially since it will be easier to buy gifts for her once you know the gender.

LOL at fart party! I can see that perspective, too, but I feel like a baby, a wedding, agraduation, a significant birhtday, they should all be celebrated. Life is to short. I'll take any excuse to get together with family and friends, althugh I do have one family member in particular I feel who WOULD hold fart parties for his/her kids if they could get away with it.

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Posted by MrsA1012

Posted by cncforever

I think maybe they don't have space in their home and that's why they booked a hall.

Maybe they struggled for years and are so excited.

I don't get all the animosity. So many shit things in life, that I don't mind celebrating when I can.

Everyone lives weddings and the excess of it and then people end up divorced. At least a baby is for keeps

Some people just sound so miserable.

I'd get a gift of course. But if people are doubting them hosting such an event and think its silly, then you're probably not a good friend anyway and should stay away.

It's free food and a joyful occasion. Geez Louise!

Thank you ! If someone wants to celebrate who cares ??!! Life is hard enough. There is so much bitterness on here.

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I would think it was an exciting night out...
i would not bring a gift though.

just like if i was invited to a halloween or new yrs party...i would not bring a gift

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Posted by Aries14

Posted by ShaunsMommy

I realize that I'm not answering your original question here buttttt.....as somone who did in fact "jump through hoops" and went through A LOT to have a baby, a gender reveal party invite would get a big ol' from me and I would mostly likely decline the invite. So overbaord IMHO.

ETA: most people have a baby shower (and get gifts)...then once the baby is born people visit in the hospital (and again they bring gifts). A gender reveal party just seems like too much to me. UNLESS it is being done IN LIEU of one of these things (ie the shower)

But what if they arent even looking to get gifts?? I've been to two of these and neither of them were about "getting gifts". THe couples paid for everything and generally just wanted to share and celebrate that moment with people. Alot of people dont want to wait to find out the sex till the delivery but yet still want a special 'moment'. Doesn't make them greedy people that only want our money and gifts. IMO, of course

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Posted by kahlua716

[I don't think it's bitterness as much as exasperation with the over the top celebrating people do.

I love babies, I love weddings, I love parties. I'm also broke.

If it was a party thrown by someone I like- I would go. I'd bring a gift, if I could afford one. I'd also roll my eyes and talk to my sister about how ridiculous I think it is for about 2 minutes. (I feel the same about all the wedding parties too- there should be a shower, a bachelorette and a wedding- nothing more, nothing less )

I'm sure those of us who don't agree with it aren't lying awake at night obsessing over the unfairness of it all, plotting our revenge and screaming through the streets with signs protesting Gender reveal parties.

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Posted by kahlua716

I don't think it's bitterness as much as exasperation with the over the top celebrating people do.

I love babies, I love weddings, I love parties. I'm also broke.

If it was a party thrown by someone I like- I would go. I'd bring a gift, if I could afford one. I'd also roll my eyes and talk to my sister about how ridiculous I think it is for about 2 minutes. (I feel the same about all the wedding parties too- there should be a shower, a bachelorette and a wedding- nothing more, nothing less )

I'm sure those of us who don't agree with it aren't lying awake at night obsessing over the unfairness of it all, plotting our revenge and screaming through the streets with signs protesting Gender reveal parties.

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Posted by MrsPJB2007


I this so much.

Particularly the part about rolling my eyes and talking to my sister about how ridicilous the party is...because in the REAL WORLD people do this all the time but on LIF everyone gets an invite to a party and says "WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE TO CELEBRATE EVERY SINGLE THING IN THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Whether or not someone "expects" a gift at any party they throw, most of us are brought up that you never go empty handed somewhere. So whether people can understand it or not, a party can add a little stress to one that is invited because they know they will feel obligated to bring a gift.

Message edited 7/27/2012 12:37:19 PM.

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I absolutely love a good party -- if you've ever hung out with me you know that I'm a walking party.

But if I get an invite for a gender reveal in a hall, yes I WILL roll my eyes for a second and think "really?" and gossip with my DH about how crazy it is that they are doing it. This doesn't mean I don't enjoy celebrating a baby or that I am Cruella Deville and in my spare time skin dalmations for the fur. I'm human and I judge because well, did you read the part about being human? The whole "the world is such a negative place why can't we just enjoy a celebration" argument is great for when you are in the question round as a Miss America contestant, but again I live in this place called reality.

Parties are wonderful but as each trend happens and MORE parties are added to events, it can be hard to juggle it all. From all the events with weddings to now the increasing number of events for when you have a baby. Pretty soon there's going to be a "Conception Party" where everyone cheers your DH on and gives pointers on positions, all with great decoration ideas from Martha Stewart Living.

You want to celebrate and go to all the events but maybe your bank account is saying "B*tch please, not another party." Of course there is the option of "Just don't go" and that is 100% true. However I imagine that it really stinks when you say no because the host is disappointed, you feel like crap and then when 1032094 pics on FB show up you feel left out.

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Posted by MrsPJB2007

Posted by kahlua716

I don't think it's bitterness as much as exasperation with the over the top celebrating people do.

I love babies, I love weddings, I love parties. I'm also broke.

If it was a party thrown by someone I like- I would go. I'd bring a gift, if I could afford one. I'd also roll my eyes and talk to my sister about how ridiculous I think it is for about 2 minutes. (I feel the same about all the wedding parties too- there should be a shower, a bachelorette and a wedding- nothing more, nothing less )

I'm sure those of us who don't agree with it aren't lying awake at night obsessing over the unfairness of it all, plotting our revenge and screaming through the streets with signs protesting Gender reveal parties.

I this so much.

Particularly the part about rolling my eyes and talking to my sister about how ridicilous the party is...because in the REAL WORLD people do this all the time but on LIF everyone gets an invite to a party and says "WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE TO CELEBRATE EVERY SINGLE THING IN THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Whether or not someone "expects" a gift at any party they throw, most of us are brought up that you never go empty handed somewhere. So whether people can understand it or not, a party can add a little stress to one that is invited because they know they will feel obligated to bring a gift.

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This thread is too long lol biut I don"t think they asked for gifts, and it could be fun and prob have food and yummy cake lol

What is the diff between this and getting a invite to a halloween party or nye party

Idk I get what everyone is saying bc it is not the norm but if u r going to celebrate anything why not a baby

I am just a pregnant hormonal mess and if I could celebrate every day I would,esp if it involved cake

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And as for a conception party my sis would have thrown me one if I let her, that is what yrs of infertility will do to u lol

She would have held the stick as I peed

She knew how long we waited and she had no prob celebrating and still does

Sometimes it really is just about nothing else than pure joy and excitement and wanting to share it with the people u love

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Posted by MrsPJB2007

Posted by kahlua716

I don't think it's bitterness as much as exasperation with the over the top celebrating people do.

I love babies, I love weddings, I love parties. I'm also broke.

If it was a party thrown by someone I like- I would go. I'd bring a gift, if I could afford one. I'd also roll my eyes and talk to my sister about how ridiculous I think it is for about 2 minutes. (I feel the same about all the wedding parties too- there should be a shower, a bachelorette and a wedding- nothing more, nothing less )

I'm sure those of us who don't agree with it aren't lying awake at night obsessing over the unfairness of it all, plotting our revenge and screaming through the streets with signs protesting Gender reveal parties.

I this so much.

Particularly the part about rolling my eyes and talking to my sister about how ridicilous the party is...because in the REAL WORLD people do this all the time but on LIF everyone gets an invite to a party and says "WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE TO CELEBRATE EVERY SINGLE THING IN THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Whether or not someone "expects" a gift at any party they throw, most of us are brought up that you never go empty handed somewhere. So whether people can understand it or not, a party can add a little stress to one that is invited because they know they will feel obligated to bring a gift.

Message edited 7/27/2012 1:32:50 PM.

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I don't think it's bitterness as much as exasperation with the over the top celebrating people do.

I love babies, I love weddings, I love parties. I'm also broke.

If it was a party thrown by someone I like- I would go. I'd bring a gift, if I could afford one. I'd also roll my eyes and talk to my sister about how ridiculous I think it is for about 2 minutes. (I feel the same about all the wedding parties too- there should be a shower, a bachelorette and a wedding- nothing more, nothing less )

I'm sure those of us who don't agree with it aren't lying awake at night obsessing over the unfairness of it all, plotting our revenge and screaming through the streets with signs protesting Gender reveal parties.

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I will preface this by saying I didn't get through all the pages of responses.

But, if this is a gender reveal party, I would think that they wouldn't expect gifts because how would you know what to get? The couple is finding out the sex of the baby, so presumably they either want girl things or boy things. And since you haven't found out the sex until AFTER you have arrived at the party, there is no way you could know ahead of time, KWIM? What would you bring? Something gender neutral would be kind of pointless since the baby's gender isn't going to be a surprise. It would be a waste to bring both pink and blue, because half of the gifts would have to be returned.

This is my thinking.

Message edited 7/27/2012 2:50:13 PM.

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Posted by bookworm

Posted by gina409

And as for a conception party my sis would have thrown me one if I let her, that is what yrs of infertility will do to u lol

She would have held the stick as I peed

She knew how long we waited and she had no prob celebrating and still does

Sometimes it really is just about nothing else than pure joy and excitement and wanting to share it with the people u love

I don't have a comment for the topic. I just love this



So happy you're preggers.

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Awe.. when I was pregnant (hello hormones) I thought a gender reveal party was the most beautiful idea ever I would cry just thinking about it..not that it mattered either way but I felt like a big piece of the puzzle of who my beautiful perfect baby would be was revealed. I envisioned games and baby pools and prizes. I envisioned all my loved ones finding out with me and everyone soooo excited and crying with the results. My family talked me down and we had immediate family at home which was just as great but I could totally understand why a pregnant woman would want a hall lol ... If there is no registry I don't think a gift is expected. Its probably just a celebration.

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Posted by lynnd126

Posted by maybebaby

Posted by lynnd126

Posted by yogabbagabbagabba

You ladies are so pathetic. It's a party. Go and have fun.

Let me guess: those of you who are complaining about this and that, if you didn't get an invite to such a party, you'd be complaining about that, too. Admit it.

So someone wants to do something different than the norm, throw a different kind of party and everyone here is getting hot and bothered and their panties in a bunch. My goodness gracious. This is frustrating to read!!!

Life is short.
Smile.
Have fun.

Jeez!!!

You needed a fake name to say THAT?

Anyway, I just farted and we're having a party for it. I need your address to send the pocketfold

I got your fart invite, but DH didn't Please send one to him soon cause he's a fart smella!

Sorry but we aren't having +1s to save on budget. There will be a fart bar with personalized Chinese takeout boxes for the favor so you can bring some home to your DH.

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I think it's a coed baby shower, but if they call it baby shower - men won't go.