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MrsRapz
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question about male OBs
DH is not comfortable with me using a male OB (which is fine by me) but what happens during delivery if the doctor on call is a guy?
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Cheeks24
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question about male OBs
Tell him to get over it  In all seriousness aside fromthe oncall doc, you can have male nurses in the delivery room as well. If you or your DH are really uncomfortable with a male doc, I suggest finding a practice that only has female docs.
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| Posted 6/25/12 2:49 PM |
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maymama
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Re: question about male OBs
it will get to the point that you just do not care.
i have never had a female GYN or OB so maybe its just me but it has never phased me. they are professional and this is their job. nothing more, nothing less 
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| Posted 6/25/12 2:53 PM |
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Re: question about male OBs
Posted by Cheeks24
Tell him to get over it In all seriousness aside fromthe oncall doc, you can have male nurses in the delivery room as well. If you or your DH are really uncomfortable with a male doc, I suggest finding a practice that only has female docs.
And even then, some small practices work with other practices for emergencies so it may end up being a male OB with another practice who delivers your baby. In all honesty, I think you do just need to explain to your husband that there is a distinct possibility that a male OB might deliver your baby.
My husband is MORE comfortable with my using a female OB, which I do understand, but he says that he just wants the best OB out there for the job and if that means it's a man, he's fine with it.
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| Posted 6/25/12 2:54 PM |
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Kels78
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Re: question about male OBs
I switched to a male Ob/Gyn and DH came with me for my first appts, which incl. an internal. The doctor was great, answered all our questions and after that visit both DH and I were super comfortable with him as our doctor. (Dr. Trongone).
And yep, you could totally have a male on call doctor or male nurses as mentioned below. Honestly, it's such a clinical situation that I never think of my dr as a man, just a qualified professional who is supposed to make sure baby and I are doing well.
I'd imagine that once it gets down to it in the delivery room most women don't care at all if it's a man/woman delivering them - they just want that baby out!
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| Posted 6/25/12 2:55 PM |
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Posted by maymama
it will get to the point that you just do not care.
i have never had a female GYN or OB so maybe its just me but it has never phased me. they are professional and this is their job. nothing more, nothing less
Agreed. And try to explain to your husband that he chose this profession most likely so he can join in the excitement of bringing a brand new life into the world and to help women and babies. My male OBs have always been sweet, warm and paternal... Nothing less than that.
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| Posted 6/25/12 2:56 PM |
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MrsRapz
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Re: question about male OBs
thanks - you guys are right, as always!
personally, i never really cared about male or female doctors (i've had both) but i can definitely see why DH is uncomfortable with it.
i'll have to mention it to DH that males (doctors AND nurses - thanks for pointing that out  ) in the delivery room are a possibility and he'll just have to deal
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Strawberry2468
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Re: question about male OBs
If he really has an issue with it then find an all female practice. My DH never mentioned caring about this and I've always had male Drs. It's not like I'm going there to sleep with them, they are deliving my babies.
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| Posted 6/25/12 3:16 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: question about male OBs
Even though in the middle of my labor I personally didn't care whose hand was where, I can understand why people prefer a female doctor. BUT, just remember that you could be disqualifying a better, more qualified doctor who you might get along better with because he is a man.
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alli3131
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Re: question about male OBs
I would say he needs to get over it because when I got to the hospital the on duty OB was a male. My Dr showed up a little while later. Also I had students taking care of me and in the L& D room and the OR there were tons of people. prbably more men than women. You really don't care by that point and my DH was not concerned with the staff he was more concerned with me and the baby.
An alien could have delivered my baby as long as we were in good hands.
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| Posted 6/25/12 3:39 PM |
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Samira0407
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question about male OBs
i think he'll have to deal with it; because like you said the male OB might be the one on call when you go into labor.
I go to an office that has 4 female doctors; and 2 extra female OB's at the hospital that handle deliveries. When i go into labor; 1 of the 6 will be on call and will deliver me. But you just never know who is on call; and in your case if it will be a male or female OB.
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BBin2012
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Re: question about male OBs
I go to an all-female practice since I prefer that, but if it comes down to it at the hospital I don't think it would matter as long as I and baby are OK!
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OMg this made me  I never thought I would be comfortable with a male OB, never went to one, when I got pregnant with DD I picked a female OB , but then one day I went into preterm labor , was admitted to LIJ and lets just say every single male nurse and an on call male OB put their hands up my vajayjay next few days  I was so scared and in so much pain that I could care less 
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bettybcafe
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Re: question about male OBs
Yea, he seriously needs to get over it..besides its not what he wants is what you want. Besides, you're the one pushing out that baby, not him. OBs are professional...whether male or female they are doing their job, that is all..
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Sparrow
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question about male OBs
If YOU are ok with a male OB then tell DH to get over it. Really, you are the only one who should have any say in the gender of your doctor. I can understand a woman not being as comfortable with a male doctor (although my practice is all men and it's fine by me) but for a husband to be saying this is just ridiculous to me.
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TheDivineMrsM
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Re: question about male OBs
Posted by maymama
it will get to the point that you just do not care.
ITA. I had female docs my whole life and a midwife for DD's birth... but after hour #20 or so of labor, you could've marched a junior high school field trip through there and neither DH nor I would've noticed. A male OB ultimately performed my c-section.
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butterfly20
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Re: question about male OBs
If you go into labor and they call an ambulance that brings you to the nearest hospital instead of the one where your OB has rights too then wouldn't you get a doctor on staff? They'd probably have women...
But honestly, when I started going to an OB I was very scared of them so I picked a lady. I didn't like her personality, and wasn't gentle and I stopped going. I then got pregnant from dh and picked another female dr - and had the same problem. After the m/c it was my final straw and I switched to a male dr, he was 10000000x better. My male dr has male backups, except for one female - the last I ended up leaving from actually and I pray I don't get her cause I might seriously take the oncall dr instead of her.
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springsandra
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question about male OBs
I actually don't see why he'd be uncomfortable with you going to a male doctor. It's not like you're flashing random men on the street. It's a doctor. Might be worth its own discussion.
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MaZz
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Re: question about male OBs
I have a male obgyn but had I chosen a woman, I still would have had to deal with the male nurse in triage when I went into labor. There are a million and one people who come in and shove their hands in you that it becomes normal and your dh will just have to deal. The male nurse I ended up with was young and cute. Dh was right in the room with me while he was feeling around. DH may have been uncomfortable but he was just goin to have to deal with it KWIM?
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AngnShaun
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Re: question about male OBs
Posted by Sparrow
If YOU are ok with a male OB then tell DH to get over it. Really, you are the only one who should have any say in the gender of your doctor.
i agree... Is he seeing this as being sexual. Im sure he will see that its far from that.
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Posted by springsandra
I actually don't see why he'd be uncomfortable with you going to a male doctor. It's not like you're flashing random men on the street. It's a doctor. Might be worth its own discussion.
Well I get it... I mean, he's probably just uneasy about seeing a man with his hand up his wife's vagina. I know my husband doesn't enjoy it... BUT he doesn't mind if I have a male OB. He just wants whoever is best for Baby and me and whoever I'm most comfortable with. I think telling your SO that she cannot see a male OB is another story. If that is the case then it should really be discussed bc if a male nurse or OB comes into the room that day, it will lead to a lot of undue stress for a woman who is already very scared and in a lot of pain.
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evenedan
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Re: question about male OBs
Posted by alli3131
I would say he needs to get over it
Totally!
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InShock
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Re: question about male OBs
Posted by springsandra
I actually don't see why he'd be uncomfortable with you going to a male doctor. It's not like you're flashing random men on the street. It's a doctor. Might be worth its own discussion.
ITA. It's kind of baffling to me.
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BeachGrl
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My DH actually loves my male OB. He thinks he's such a nice and friendly Dr, and I agree.
I have noticed that most of my male Drs, in every specialty, have actually been nicer than some of the female ones I have
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labonnevie
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Re: question about male OBs
Posted by MrsRapz
thanks - you guys are right, as always!
personally, i never really cared about male or female doctors (i've had both) but i can definitely see why DH is uncomfortable with it.
i'll have to mention it to DH that males (doctors AND nurses - thanks for pointing that out ) in the delivery room are a possibility and he'll just have to deal
and if you're in a teaching hospital, you'll most likely have male attendings. after you have the baby you'll be poked and proded by everyone. as maymama said, there comes a point that it won't matter. my OB is a male and i LOVE him, as does my DH. he is the best person for the (our) job and we're beyond comfortable with him.
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