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YourMama
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
You are NOT being sensitive. She had her kid and named them what she wanted to and now it's your turn. This does not concern her. I would let her know that if she takes it upon herself to change your baby's name in her house you will be changing her baby's name in your house. I'd find the most horrific boys name and start calling my husband that in front of her just to mock her. I know it's not mature but I'm not very mature.
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PrettyPeonies
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
I agree w/what all the other ladies have been saying. I have an over barring MIL too and sometimes you need to hold strong. Its always a good thing when DH is on your side and it sounds like he is. Hold tough, you are that little angel's Mommy and you get to decide what her name is!
Good Luck!
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| Posted 6/6/12 5:20 PM |
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OhBoyorGirl
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
Wow! That is crazy. Hopefully by the time October comes around, even she will realize how insane that is. I'd try not to worry about it until then, even though I can definitely see how you'd be super po'd thinking about it. Good luck!
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| Posted 6/6/12 6:00 PM |
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TheDivineMrsM
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
That's ballsy of her. I'd tell her she choce whatever name she wanted for her child. Say that your daughter's name is Aubree (in a stern, semi-b!tchy tone) and see if she gets the hint.
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| Posted 6/6/12 6:38 PM |
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CallaLily
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
Posted by maymama
my response? "i guess you won't be seeing much of AUBREE in your house!" 
Exactly what I was going to say. My MIL doesn't like the name we picked for our DD and told us she won't be calling her that. She said she'll say "hey you".  DH and I had a big fight about it. I told him the first time she says that to my child she's out of my house. Some people are so inappropriate.
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| Posted 6/6/12 7:10 PM |
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RSquared0907
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
I'd definitely be annoyed and would probably reconsider using Rose as a middle name, even though there is some significance to it. I just don't understand people sometimes 
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| Posted 6/6/12 7:12 PM |
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springsandra
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
Posted by Sparrow
 Oh hellz no! I would be scrapping Rose for a middle name. That is beyond rude! She's going to decide what she wants to call your DD and basically change her name? That would not fly with me. I really hope she was joking.
ITA. I would change the middle name then. Use a different R name or something.
We used Rose as our daughter's middle name and some in our family call her by both names together ("Megan Rose") and I just love it. If you don't love the name, you should change it. My MIL is Rosy -- she doesn't try to call DD "little Rosy" or anything. It's definitely her MIDDLE name.
Now that you know what a jerk your MIL is going to be, you can at the very least prevent this from being an issue.
Oh and Aubree is a beautiful name!!!
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| Posted 6/6/12 8:35 PM |
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MrsKelly
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
I would be perfectly content on changing the middle name... dh on the other hand, not so much. I can tell it will cause an issue between him & i if i put my foot down in changing it
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| Posted 6/6/12 11:05 PM |
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gina409
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
honestly..i might have slapped her 
that is beyond rude...i would call her by her middle name or dh by his in front of her and when she asks why say well if u r going to do it so am i
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| Posted 6/7/12 12:36 AM |
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LiveItUp
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
I'd be extremely upset as well! She has no right to decide your DDs name or tell you she won't call her by the name you choose for her. That's incredibly rude and definitely disrespectful to your and your DH. I would definitely bring it up with your DH, you shouldn't have to let this weigh on your mind during your vacation. I would think he would be offended as well even though it is his mother saying it. you and your DH both chose and love the name Aubree then that's her name and your MIL shouldn't have a say in the matter. If it were me, I'd be so tempted to say ' well if she won't be called Aubree in your house then we won't be bringing her to your house'. I know that wouldn't go over well, but it really annoys me when people try to name other people's babies. We've already gotten strong suggestions for names from DHs mom and grandma but we refuse to let anyone else name our child. We won't even tell anyone he names we're considering because we don't want to hear their opinions.
Congrats on your  btw! Another October girl! 
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| Posted 6/7/12 3:38 AM |
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JennCo
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
i absolutely HATE when people pull this kind of crap in families. I have a friend that didn't pick a name she loved b.c of the nickname that her MIL was going to use, so I've seen it happen before.
i would talk to your DH about it and see how he feels about you DD being called rosie. chances are he won't like it either and you should both tel them together that there is no way in hell you want her being called that!
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| Posted 6/7/12 9:52 AM |
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ARIELSMOM
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
i would worry about it when the baby is here. How often will the baby be in her house? Also, im sure once she is born and everyone around her is calling her by her first name, she will also. It sounds like she is just busting your chops.
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| Posted 6/7/12 10:26 AM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
people are crazy!
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| Posted 6/7/12 10:32 AM |
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Mrs213
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
Your not wrong at all, I would be pizzed
I agree with the person who said if dd is known by Rosie in their house, MIL is known by jackass in your house. I would say that and see what she says
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| Posted 6/7/12 10:48 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
This is more about MIL's loss of control/power than it is about the name.
You are the parents. You have the control & you choose who is in your dd's life & who is not. You chose the name & the nickname. As your daughter grows up - you tell her what her name is & that she isn't Rose or Rosie. If Grandma wants to be loved, she's going to fall in line with what Aubree wants. Try calling a toddler by a different name & see what happens. MIL can choose any nickname she wants for your kid but that kid will tell her that her name is Aubree & will insist on being called the name you say. When she's older, her friends/boyfriends will come up with nicknames but the younger kids will correct anyone who is wrong.
But I would tell DH that he needs to reign his mom in. And tell him the last thing any pregnant woman needs is angst from her MIL.
I would still choose Aubree Rose if you both want the name. I wouldn't let your MIL's asshole tendencies change your decision.
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| Posted 6/7/12 12:10 PM |
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PhillyGirl
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
As someone with in-laws who have shall we say not the healthiest concept of boundaries, my advice is:
1. DH needs to nip this in the bud and talk to his mother about this sooner than later.
2. Tell her as long as she is going to call your daughter by the wrong name in her house, your daughter won't be visiting her house. And follow through.
3. Suggest that she buy a dog and name it Rosie if she likes the name so much.
May sound harsh but in my experience, this is just an indicator of things to come if you don't stand your ground and establish who is the parent here, now.
Good luck, I personally know how difficult dealing with situations like this can be. 
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| Posted 6/7/12 12:50 PM |
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ArmyOfBabies
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
This would not go over well if my MIL said that to me.
I'd just change the middle name so she has no reason to call her Rosie.
My sister said something similar to me about out name. We are using Fiona and my sister (the soon to be godmother) said, "Oh I'll call her FiFi!!". To which I said, "Like heck you will! She's not a dog." I don't mind it being shortened to Fi, but certainly not FiFi.
I don't understand why people can't just let the parents dictate what they want their child to be called.
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| Posted 6/7/12 3:56 PM |
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mosa77
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
I would nicely let her know that if she doesnt plan on calling her aubree at her house then you dont plan on your dd ever coming into her house until she changes her mind and calls her by her name that You chose for her
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| Posted 6/7/12 6:15 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
id change the middle name..... dh said the kid wouldnt be visiting the house until they use the proper name.
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| Posted 6/7/12 10:56 PM |
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WorkinMom324
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
and that's reason # 5405 NOT to tell anyone your baby names before the baby is born! especially your MIL!!
Sorry she rained on your parade 
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| Posted 6/8/12 10:41 AM |
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
CRASHING: This sounds like something my MIL would do. Since I wouldn't want to upset DH by getting rid of the middle name, I would bring it up with DH. You actually handled it a lot nicer then I would have because my response would have been "then I guess she won't be coming in your house". DH needs to talk to MIL. But try to tell DH the conversation in a calm matter. Tell him what his mother said and tell him that you aren't comfortable with that. If you lose the battle, start calling your MIL something she wouldn't like (at least again that's what I would do).
I'm sure DH will see what you are saying. I also try to ask DH sometimes "am I being too sensitive and hormonal?" If you both loved the name Aubree and he didn't FIGHT with you to make it Rose, then that's the name he will agree on and tell him mom to use.
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| Posted 6/8/12 12:06 PM |
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
We are naming our baby after his daddy, Michael Anthony T. Everyone who knows DH calls him Michael, Mike or sometimes Mikey. So when we told his family what we were naming the baby, they said they loved it and asked what we would call him.... They were like "Junior?? Matty? Mat?? (Bc his initials are MAT). I was like I don't know... Michael? Mikey? But recently my FIL referred to him as Matty Jr. He's not Matthew!!!!!!!!! He's Michael!!!!! I don't care if his initials are MAT. So I plan to respectfully ask them not to call him Mat when he's born lol. They're reasonable though and mean no harm so I'm certain they'll respect my wishes. Your situation sounds similar except that your MIL is insane. Where does she get off telling you what your own child will be called?! That's crap.
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
Posted by WorkinMom324
and that's reason # 5405 NOT to tell anyone your baby names before the baby is born! especially your MIL!!
Sorry she rained on your parade
I disagree because this issue would only have come up after the baby was born anyway.
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curiousO
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Re: opinons please re: name for dd & MIL
Posted by Kate
She sounds awful. I would not use Rose for the middle name, especially since you aren't thrilled with it anyway.
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