Staying in Hiding socially is expensive!

Well my First social event after my BFP cost me $76!! For French toast & Orange Juice!

My cousin had a birthday brunch; I didn’t want to tell anyone yet so I still went; all the ladies were ordering 4-5 drinks each! I guess no one really noticed I only had OJ and after that just water so when it was time to split the bill it was evenly split between the number of us at the table!

Then we went out to another bar and luckily since i only had water I didn't have to pay for anything there!

Told DH no more social events while in hiding! It will cost me an arm & a leg! LOL!

Once you’re out in the open and in a group with drinkers…do people still have you split the bill evenly?? I sure hope not!

Message edited 5/7/2012 5:04:55 PM.

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$76 is an expensive brunch!!!!!

In my group of friends, they do have us split the bill and no one ever says, "Hey, Cari is pregnant so she shouldn't have to pay for the 5 drinks we each had!" I really should speak up, but I hate doing that, so I started declining dinners while I'm pregnant. Actually - I want to start declining them always - my group of friends can't just have a glass or two of wine...it always turns into shots and ridiculously expensive drinks. I am sick of paying for $100 dinners!

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Posted by Cacarina

$76 is an expensive brunch!!!!!

In my group of friends, they do have us split the bill and no one ever says, "Hey, Cari is pregnant so she shouldn't have to pay for the 5 drinks we each had!" I really should speak up, but I hate doing that, so I started declining dinners while I'm pregnant. Actually - I want to start declining them always - my group of friends can't just have a glass or two of wine...it always turns into shots and ridiculously expensive drinks. I am sick of paying for $100 dinners!

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Whenever I go out to dinner with my friends they always have me pay for what I ordered, since I'm not drinking, and they split the remainder equally. They're so good to me, I love them

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Oh no! I definitely could see myself turning down certain invitations in the future.

SIL's bday dinner is next month; we'll definitely go to that. Won't be out to everyone then either so guess I'll have to be prepared for another high bill!

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no, thankfully, i went out with 3 people (one of them knows)...i clearly didnt drink but i made that clear from when i said in front of everyone, i dont need a glass for the wine, im not drinking it.

then the other people reduced the bill by the liquor cost and i only split the other charges with them.

eta: im never one of those people to split hairs or anything like that but when it comes to alcohol, i totally agree with you...it really adds up and i dont think is fair if you're not drinking. to me its the same if one person orders lobster and the other people order burgers.

in the sitation above, i was grateful that the other people who i went to dinner with were nice enough to recognize that i didnt drink so i shouldn't pay because i wouldve been paying an additional $30- to me, thats more than pocket change.

Message edited 5/7/2012 6:53:09 PM.

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I went out with three other girlfriends shortly after I told everyone. They all had drinks. When the bill came they went to split it and I reminded them that I only had water.

I've got diapers to save for. I'm not paying for someone's drinks unless it's their bday

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I had a bachelorette dinner this weekend and both my friend, who is 33 wks preggers, and I had pay a full share. It only ended up being $90 per person, so not terrible, but if it was over $150, I probably would have said something.