Team Green vs. Finding Out

My DH and I can't decide if we are going to find out if our baby is a boy/girl at the 20 week sono (which is rapidly approaching)... I never used to think I would want to find out (pre-pregnancy) but now I think I want to know, ahh!

Is there anyone who found out that wished they stayed Team Green? Or any former members of Team Green who wish they had found out earlier?

TIA!

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We were team green from the start and stayed that way. It was one of the best decisions ever. It was great for the obvious reason - we wanted to hear "it's a ___" in the delivery room, but it ended up meaning so much more to me. I personally don't like knowing birth stats before the baby's born. I ended up needing a scheduled c-section because the baby was breech. I was so upset that we had to "choose" the baby's birthday. I wanted my LO to pick their own birthday, come out when they were good and ready. I also wanted to experience labor. I wanted to feel that sense of pride and accomplishment that I pushed my LO out. Since that was taken away from me, I was so glad I had team green to hold onto. It kept me motivated. It was the light at the end of my tunnel. And it was the most euphoric thing to hear "it's a boy!" while laid up on that table!

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I found out with both pregnancies and wish I stayed Team Green DH wanted to find out so I gave in.

I feel that we don't get many surprises in life and I missed out on that one suprise of "It's a __!"

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we stayed team green with the twins. So glad we did!!!! It was amazing learning the information in the delivery room.

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Team green 3 times. I loved it and never regretted it. The third time was so hard not to find out (esp since I had 2 boys already) and we almost did but many of my friends who were team green first and not after told me they regretted it and preferred team green so I decided not too.

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Tean green x 3......BEST FEELING EVER

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Team with our dd and it was such an amazing experience. When we have #2 we will no doubt be team again. You just cant beat that feeling you get that day

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I found out both times and soooo glad i did! For those that say it takes away from the surprise- you just get the surprise in the doctor's office a few moths earlier! I loved finding out for two reasons. First, i felt a much stronger bond to the baby once i knew what it was. Also, it made planning nursery and registering so much more fun and efficient! If I were to have a third there is no doubt I woild find out. I think it comes down to your personality. I am a planner and typically like knowing things ahead of time.

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I found out both times and soooo glad i did! For those that say it takes away from the surprise- you just get the surprise in the doctor's office a few moths earlier! I loved finding out for two reasons. First, i felt a much stronger bond to the baby once i knew what it was. Also, it made planning nursery and registering so much more fun and efficient! If I were to have a third there is no doubt I woild find out. I think it comes down to your personality. I am a planner and typically like knowing things ahead of time.

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we were for our first child, DH was BIG on not finding out.

2nd child - DH wanted to find out. But I refused, told him, "he sold me on the biggest surprise in life on the first one and we were doing it again."
He tried so many times to get me to find out the gender.
After the delivery, he said he was really glad that I stuck to .

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We were team from the begining and I always wanted it like that. It was so much fun to guess and have people wonder and guess about it too. The surprise after delivering and then getting to call everyone and tell them was so much fun. I was fun to pick out names we liked for & and then choose when we saw the baby. I personally do not like knowing just about everything before the baby was born.

Most people, including my husband swore but we had a

It's such a great surprise

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team green both times....i have never felt a feeling like it in my life.

makes for a great waiting room scene too...dh running out to report baby ___ is here.

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We were team green with our 1st dc and it was such a great experience! I'm due with #2 in 30 days and we are team again! I have never once felt like I needed to know to bond with the baby, it's my child and I have felt a strong connection to him or her from the moment I found I was pregnant.
Our families have also made it very exciting for us to not find out. When I had my ds our family filled the waiting room in the hospital anticipating the news of or
They videoed my dh and he videoed them as he told them it's a boy! It is the best video ever! I can't watch it without crying! There was such excitment!

Also I'm a planner type and feel a need to be prepared for almost everyothing. This was the one exception I've made. I never once regretted not finding out. Stay strong!

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Team Green here and I absolutely am so happy we didn't find out.

It was so exciting for not just us, but our family and friends. When I went into labor, everyone was on pins and needles dying for the info.

I know that non-Team Greeners say "it's the same excitement whether you find out at 20 weeks vs in the delivery room..." but I just think it's very different. I can't really describe it, but hearing the words in the delivery room...particularly the excitement in my DH's voice when he shouted "IT'S A GIRL!!!" is something I will remember forever.

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I'm probably one of the few team greens that wished I had found out earlier. I ended up needing a c-section and there were some complications during it so I honestly don't remember them telling me it was a boy. I was so so excited for that moment and I never got it. For me, it would have turned out better if I'd found out at my 20 wk sono, at least I'd have the memory! I realize though that mine is a special case and it was fun to have people guess based on how I was carrying etc.

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Team green for both boys and we LOVED not knowing and the waiting. It's fun when people guess too. This way you don't get to have preferences either. I have two beautiful boys. With my second I was wondering if maybe it was a girl. At the moment of birth when I heard... It's a boy!
At that moment all I cared was he was healthy and beautiful, which he was.

Doesn't even matter about setting up the room. We picked two beddings, painted green, was going to add more boy or girl stuff after. Also, we got a ton of boy clothes after he was born.
I didn't have a shower

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Team
for my first 2 kids and this baby #3 due in Dec is also team

It is the best feeling in the world....to not know for 9 mo and then the moment in the delivery room where they announce it is PROB THE BEST EXPERIENCES in my life! It is like 9 mo of bottlesd up excitement and anticipation all comes to celebrate and I think it is also more fun to announce it to family and friends! Bec they didnt know gender or names either! =)

If i had 10 more kids I would be team forever and always!

Def Def def recommend it!

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I found out both times and had no regrets. It all depends on your personality. I'm a planner, and for me finding out the gender brought a new dimension to the remainder of the pregnancy. Hard to articulate exactly, but after I knew the gender, when I would talk to my little baby in the womb, I'd use the name I had picked out for it, I would sort of have a more concrete picture of him/her in my mind, etc.

It all depends on what works for your personality!

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I found out. Wouldn’t have it any other way. There were enough ‘surprises’ with my first pregnancy. Nothing was ‘normal’ or usual. I don’t care how many other million women had done it, it was the first time for me. Surprise enough when they told me “here she is!” and I was a C/S! ha!

Since she was a girl, there was a lot of doubt about her sex. She was breech nearly every time she was viewed. Or she had her legs crossed, butt to camera, etc. At one point it was just “look we’re 80% she’s a girl” and *I* wanted a boy! Haha I even had boy names ‘just in case’.

I don’t feel I ‘missed’ anything at all. Not pushing her out and feeling ripped in two, nope, nor regrets, not having a line connected to my spine, nope I’m ok, I’ll pass. Not having to live with those fing contractions longer than I already did (she was breech but my water broke early) yeah NO WAY would I volunteer for that crud again, ever. Being able to still by green, yellow and brown even tho I know she was a girl, was awesome.

That moment when they show you your baby is a huge indescribable surprise. Nothing can prepare you for it. THAT is YOUR baby. Yours. I didn’t bond right away but even that, she was mine. That child, those arms, legs, that crying mouth, she’s mine. TRUST ME that was surprise enough for me. Boy or Girl or hearing the words “it’s a boy/girl” would have been lost on me. None of that was important as knowing that creature wiggling over there is mine, my partner for the past 9ish months, my care for another lifetime, my whole world has been changed by that small child. If you’re lucky and get that instant love and affection, I can only imagine it’s a thousand times better.

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I found out for my first child and was team for my second.
While finding out was exciting (we did the reveal at home with friends and family) and we were able to fully prepare for our DD , there was nothing like hearing "it's a girl " in the delivery room. IF I decide on a 3rd (yearssss from now) I will absolutely be team Again

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I found out with my first 3 babies but stayed team green with baby#4. I wish I would have been team green the first 3 times too. That moment at birth when DH told me the sex was SO amazing. If we have any future kids we will stay team green.

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This tends to become a touchy subject so all I'll say is I was all the way and honestly could not have imagined knowing sooner....it's just simply a magical moment I don't feel could be replaced by finding out at 20 weeks when they pull that baby out of you in the labor room and tell you what it is. It's THE BEST!
Good luck!

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Posted by NYchic

This tends to become a touchy subject so all I'll say is I was all the way and honestly could not have imagined knowing sooner....it's just simply a magical moment I don't feel could be replaced by finding out at 20 weeks when they pull that baby out of you in the labor room and tell you what it is. It's THE BEST!
Good luck!

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I've done it both ways. The first time around I couldn't take not knowing. The anticipation was killing me and I was so anxious about registering and getting items for the baby. So we found out. I was so happy to know I was having a boy and to be able to plan. My second pregnancy I promised my husband we would stay team green. It was a totally different experience. I was much calmer, partially because I had all gender neutral gear. There was something special about hearing "It's a boy!" once he was born.

I don't regret either decision.

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We found out - gave us more time to argue about name and decor of room