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memi7206
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Moms with 1 DC already?
HOw are you feeling about having to share your time now between kids?
I was laying with DS last night while he was sleeping, just playing with his hair and then all of the sudden I was crying.
I felt like I was cheating on him. That I would have to divide the time that I cuddle with him, that I would have to tell him to hold on or that I cant play with him right now bc I have to do something with the baby. I just felt bad for him and for me too. I was sad that my time with just us is coming to an end. I just felt bad and I hope he will understand.
Im very lucky in the sense that I got to give him my undivided attention for four years. That I got to see him grow from a newborn to the big boy he is now and I got to do it with just him, Im forever grateful for that.
While Im so excited for the new baby, Im just so sad too all of the sudden.
Has anyone else had this happen?
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Diana1215
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
It's totally a normal feeling, but it all falls into place. I have great quality time with both of my boys. They love each other so much and light up when the other walks into the room. You are only adding to his life, not taking anything away from it!
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BethanyLynn
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Yes I feel the same.. My DD is only 16 months so I REALLY feel bad. With only 3 weeks left I feel like I want to spend every waking minute with her because sadly, I know once the baby comes, she wont be #1 anymore and that kills me.
BUT, at the same time, I feel like she is so young, that she wont know life any other way. And that this new baby will be good for her and for us as a family. And she will be gaining a best friend, that hopefully she will love as much as I do!
I do cry sometimes at night thinking about what im doing to her world!  
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Me, Me, Me!!!! I'm having terrible guilt about it. Joey is only going to be 2. I feel like I need more time with him. I know it'll be fine but I fear he'll become a strictly Daddy's boy only since I'll mostly be the one tending to this LO
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memi7206
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by Diana1215
It's totally a normal feeling, but it all falls into place. I have great quality time with both of my boys. They love each other so much and light up when the other walks into the room. You are only adding to his life, not taking anything away from it!
thanks hun!
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by Diana1215
You are only adding to his life, not taking anything away from it!
totally just bursted out into tears at my desk  . damn hormones!
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memi7206
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by BethanyLynn
BUT, at the same time, I feel like she is so young, that she wont know life any other way. And that this new baby will be good for her and for us as a family. And she will be gaining a best friend, that hopefully she will love as much as I do!
I do cry sometimes at night thinking about what im doing to her world!
See and Im afraid maybe itll be harder bc I waited too long and hes had a LONG time to get used to it being just him.
Thanks for sharing. All these responses keep making me tear up.
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memi7206
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by DPerotti
Posted by Diana1215
You are only adding to his life, not taking anything away from it!
totally just bursted out into tears at my desk . damn hormones!
its ok, Im all teary too.
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BethanyLynn
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by memi7206
Thanks for sharing. All these responses keep making me tear up.
Me too. Hormones..Ugh.
I dont think it will be harder..if anything at least you can have conversations with him and talk about your feelings, explain to him that you love him etc...With my DD I feel like she is going to hate me! 
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memi7206
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by DPerotti
Me, Me, Me!!!! I'm having terrible guilt about it. Joey is only going to be 2. I feel like I need more time with him. I know it'll be fine but I fear he'll become a strictly Daddy's boy only since I'll mostly be the one tending to this LO
awwwww, I think he just pretends to like Matt better bc he really loves you more and has guilt about it, LOL.
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memi7206
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by BethanyLynn
Posted by memi7206
Thanks for sharing. All these responses keep making me tear up.
Me too. Hormones..Ugh.
I dont think it will be harder..if anything at least you can have conversations with him and talk about your feelings, explain to him that you love him etc...With my DD I feel like she is going to hate me!
awwww, she wont hate you!!! I mean really, my sister (who is also posting in this thread) was born when I was two and I dont recall it being remotely traumatic for me and I didnt hate her.......so thats gotta mean something, right?
Teenage years were a different story  
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by memi7206
Posted by DPerotti
Me, Me, Me!!!! I'm having terrible guilt about it. Joey is only going to be 2. I feel like I need more time with him. I know it'll be fine but I fear he'll become a strictly Daddy's boy only since I'll mostly be the one tending to this LO
awwwww, I think he just pretends to like Matt better bc he really loves you more and has guilt about it, LOL.
He fell asleep on me last night, in his rocking chair. I held him so long there, that I fell asleep too and Matt had to wake me up. I could've stayed there all night. He's still a mush ball when it comes to Mommy.
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memi7206
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
Posted by DPerotti
Posted by memi7206
Posted by DPerotti
Me, Me, Me!!!! I'm having terrible guilt about it. Joey is only going to be 2. I feel like I need more time with him. I know it'll be fine but I fear he'll become a strictly Daddy's boy only since I'll mostly be the one tending to this LO
awwwww, I think he just pretends to like Matt better bc he really loves you more and has guilt about it, LOL.
He fell asleep on me last night, in his rocking chair. I held him so long there, that I fell asleep too and Matt had to wake me up. I could've stayed there all night. He's still a mush ball when it comes to Mommy.
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
I actually hated her as an infant and kicked her in the mouth with my little bell shoes when she tried to keep me company in my crib
(teenage years - don't go there!)
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memi7206
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Posted by DPerotti
I actually hated her as an infant and kicked her in the mouth with my little bell shoes when she tried to keep me company in my crib
(teenage years - don't go there!)
Dude, you were like 2! I was trying to bring you toys to play with and you had those white baby walking shoes with the bells and she kicked me square in the nose and gave me a bloody nose. Im still bitter about it
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EricaAlt
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
I'm actually the opposite. With DS I was scared to have a child b/c I've always been so independent and I loved having my "me" time or me and DH time. It was weird to think things will change and I can't just go and travel, go out at night, go out with DH last minute for something... etc, etc.
Then I had a tough birth so I knew I loved DS, but we had to get to know each other. Now I LOVE being a parent. He amazes me everyday and now I know how to love another and open my heart. I can't wait to have another and share that. I also had two siblings and we have a great relationship. I can't wait for DS and the baby to have their special relationship too.
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Posted by memi7206
HOw are you feeling about having to share your time now between kids?
I was laying with DS last night while he was sleeping, just playing with his hair and then all of the sudden I was crying.
I felt like I was cheating on him. That I would have to divide the time that I cuddle with him, that I would have to tell him to hold on or that I cant play with him right now bc I have to do something with the baby. I just felt bad for him and for me too. I was sad that my time with just us is coming to an end. I just felt bad and I hope he will understand.
Im very lucky in the sense that I got to give him my undivided attention for four years. That I got to see him grow from a newborn to the big boy he is now and I got to do it with just him, Im forever grateful for that.
While Im so excited for the new baby, Im just so sad too all of the sudden.
Has anyone else had this happen?
Every.single.day.
I am so happy to be bringing another life into this world, into our world. And I watch DD with other friends babies and her own dolls and I KNOW she'll be a great big sister.
And then I cry. I cry because I'm afraid to lose the special bond I have with her...she's my best bud, we do everything together. She makes me laugh, she makes me cry...and I thank God for making her such a special little person that I've had the pleasure of being Mom to. For the last almost 4 years, it's just us (and DH)...I am hers, she is mine. And now we have to share each other with another little person.
Then I cry because I feel like I'm being unfair to  because he/she will be certainly loved and cherished and we conceived because we wanted another, we wanted to complete our family. And I don't want him/her to ever feel otherwise.
But from everyone I know who has had more than one, they have ALL gone through these feelings. And in every case (sometimes after an adjustment period) their lives have only been improved and enhanced with addition of another. Their love only grows, it doesn't divide. I keep hanging on to that......and cherishing every moment I have with just DD and me.
(I am also planning time when I am on maternity leave to leave the baby with my mom and go have "big girl" time with DD, just her and me....I think it's important to have one on one time with each child)
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memi7206
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Posted by FrankiesGirl107
Posted by memi7206
Their love only grows, it doesn't divide. I keep hanging on to that......and cherishing every moment I have with just DD and me.
(I am also planning time when I am on maternity leave to leave the baby with my mom and go have "big girl" time with DD, just her and me....I think it's important to have one on one time with each child)
, I guess this is true
And good idea!
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Re: Moms with 1 DC already?
everything will be fine.
i'm 27 mos older than my sister and i don't even remember life before her.
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