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True or False: "Marriage Means Your Spouse Comes First"
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MikesBride
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Ilana
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Re: True or False: "Marriage Means Your Spouse Comes First"
Honestly in some circumstances, yes...my ILs are terrible to me and have tried to put me down many times. If DH did not stand up to them about me there's no way I would have married him. In the same vein, we don't make decisions without each other...when we got married we created a family and THAT family comes first, period.
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KittyGags
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Re: True or False: "Marriage Means Your Spouse Comes First"
Posted by AnaMaree77
In my marriage, and I can only speak for myself, my DH comes first and vice versa. This includes children, parents, siblings, friends, etc. I do have two stepchildren and both DH and I agree that we come first, we are a solid foundation as a combined unit FOR them. If we fall apart, then everything falls apart. Therefore, our love and happiness comes first to benefit our family. With that being said, that doesn't mean if my SD or SS needed me, i would automatically cater to my DH first....it would depend who needs me more at that moment but ultimately, my DH and I are as one.
I 100% agree with this. And I don't have kids.
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| Posted 1/5/11 5:33 PM |
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DaniJude
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Danielle
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Re: True or False: "Marriage Means Your Spouse Comes First"
My husband is my #1 priority and I am his.
That being said, it depends on what is happening. When my brother was hurt, for example, Vinny took a backseat because Vinny was healthy and perfectly fine and Kenneth needed me. He understood this and still understands this, at times, to this day. So, if someone is suffering then they need me but normally - day to day with regular stuff - Vin is the number one priority.
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| Posted 1/5/11 5:40 PM |
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Elbee
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Re: True or False: "Marriage Means Your Spouse Comes First"
False. My spouse doesn't come first --- my family's well being does --- that includes my husband, my son, my future child and me. At any given moment I make decisions and act according to the needs of my family. So our 'unit' comes first, and everything else comes second.
That's not to say that I don't take into account outside family members and their needs but priority #1 is my family. They trump all others needs, wants and desires.
ETA: this held true before we had children also. Once we were married 'we' came first ... we discussed everything, we made decisions, we planned our future...
Message edited 1/5/2011 5:56:57 PM.
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| Posted 1/5/11 5:47 PM |
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SweetestThing
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Re: True or False: "Marriage Means Your Spouse Comes First"
False. I come first. I'm no good to anyone if I don't take care of myself. DH comes second. The rest of the world comes a distant third.
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| Posted 1/5/11 5:55 PM |
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