Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

before I jump.....

I just really need to vent and maybe a few "it will get better promises"?

I'm so overwhelmed, I'm so wound up, I could snap..

I dont even knwo where to begin..

I had to cancel my carpal tunnel surgery b/c the copays were over $1000 and didnt have the $ the day befor ethe surgery when they told me, in turn I'm in so much pain I can barely function most mornings...

Then we just moved..it was a NIGHTMARE and we are living out of boxes, house is not babyproofed, cant find anything,etc...

To top it off, me and Dh both had strep and a upper resp. infection while moving and are just physically exhausted...

Now today Chloe is throwing up ...

Noah is a BEAST at home...He doesnt listen, he hits when he is mad, he is so overwhelmed as well and his lack of communication skills means he acts out.

I feel like I'm gonna snap at them all the time. ALL I do is yell and sometimes scream and it saddens me so much.

The girls are into everything and need to be entertained 24/7 and I just am torn 3 ways all day long.

Noahs bus hasnt switched to the new house yet, so I'm driving all of us to old house, getting him on bus, coming home, getting girls inside, then back out to get him etc...and today with Chloe throwing up its just overwhelming me to the point of tears.

We have sooo much coming up and I'm so unprepared, I cannot even find more then 1 pair of my shoes!

I have silly things like Christmas cards to make...The thank you's from the girls party to send, moving annoucements, and 50000 phone calls with change of address stuff.

We changed school districts so dealing with having to do another CPSE pre school meeting in a few weeks...

Dr's appointments , birthday parties, Christmas parties...

We are also fighting with my inlaws because of silly drama we want no part of and It hurts me a lot b/c I really was close to them and miss them , yet am heartbroken by things they did and said...

I had to cancel the Christmas pics for tomm. B/c I have no tights for the girls..and No shoes for Noah but blue sneakers.sounds so stupid... but all the little things are adding up and b/c I'm not feeling good with being sick and my hands etc I am on the verge of snapping.....

It will get easier right?

Especially those with 3+ kids...This will all get easier right????????( feel free to lie)

Thanks for listening....

Message edited 11/19/2010 1:21:07 PM.

Re: Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

i have no practical advice, i wanted to tell you that i love you, i feel for you and wish i could snap my fingers and make things better.

i also wish i lived in NY because i would be at your house every single solitary day to help.

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I don't have any advice but as a working mom of 2, I can sympathize - your job sounds ALOT harder than mine!!!!! It must be so hard to entertain 3. Do you have any help? Can someone come over for a few hrs to entertain the girls while Noah is in school so you can organize the boxes or do a few errands?

Can you do shopping online at night when they go to bed? Alot of people are offering free shipping since it's close to the holidays.

Most improtantly, take care of you! A sick, unhappy mommy is not good for anyone!

It will get better!!!!!

Re: Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

It will get easier. Life just kind of ebbs and flows with the ups and downs.
Start small. Maybe focus on unpacking for now. I know that would relieve a lot of stress for me then just go one step at a time from there. You've got plenty of time for Christmas and cards so don't stress.

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You're just going through a rough patch, it will get better soon!
Have you tried acupuncture for the carpal tunnel? My mom had it pretty bad, and just one session got rid of it for her.

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I wish I could help you out somehow.

Can you hire a mother's helper for a couple of hours 1-2 times a week for the next couple of weeks? Or anyone who could help with the kids for a little while, even take Noah to school for you or something?

Just make a list in order of priority with things like TY cards being somewhere on the lower end and I promise it will get done.

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I hope things get easier soon!

Can you make some things easier for yourself? Like not stress so much about the Christmas photos or the thank you notes?

Try to unpack the things you need the most first and do the rest when you can. We are in our house over 2 years and I still haven't completely unpacked. I finally just accepted that I have to do a little at a time, when I have the time.

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Things will start looking up soon! Just keep your pecker up!

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It has to get better and will as soon as things start to settle down. Moving is huge and just like you feel unsettled, so do the kids, all 3. Remember to breathe deeply right before you lose it, may help calm you a bit.

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I have no real advise for you, but I can tell you it will get better!!!! I am a twin, and my brother was 15 months younger than myself! I loved growing up with my siblings, always had someone to play with!

Wish we lived closer, since our girls are the same age I would love to have them over for play dates!!! (and give you a break while Noah is at school)

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I think you have alot on your plate right now, so it's going to be a stressful time.

Like someone else said - the first thing you need to focus on is unpacking. Get a mothers helper in if you don't have any friends/family around to help. Do one room at a time and do as much as you can. This will bring some normalcy into your house.

The rest will all fall into place once your house is organized.

If it makes you feel any better I tell myself "It has to get easier" about 50 times a day!

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I bet you could even get a bunch of girlfriends to come over one night, open some wine and have them all help you unpack and get settled. You could turn a daunting task into some fun Oh and have DH take the kids while this is going on. It will be amazing how much you can get done with no kids and a bunch a females working together

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Ohhhh Donna - sending you a million of these....



I have also been living the cycle of hell in my house - everyday OVER AND OVER again - it is like Groundhog Day, right?

Re: Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

it WILL get better

one step at a time. dedcutibles are infuriating......our family has a 7k deductible plan... perhaps you can see about switching to spouses plan and have the proceedure in January once switched?

maybe just do photo christmas cards and skip making them this year? photo thank you cards too. snap a cute picture of your child.

with the inlaws... we've had our share of that. while things may have seemed nice in the past, if things got ugly now it can make you wonder how sincere stuff was in the past....assess and move forward. if they are being uncooperative then take a step back for a while and see how things are.

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Hang in there, Donna

Re: Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

I had carpal tunnel with both pregnancies really bad so I know how painful it is. Acupuncture did help, but I would try to get the surgery asap. When you are in pain, it makes everything so much harder.

I'm sorry if this comes off rude, but I would try to cut out the non essential items and save up for your copay so you can have the surgery. You need to take care of yourself first.

We all know that you are already set for Xmas gifts , so at least you don't have to worry about that expense. Not sure if you were planning on it, but don't reschedule the Xmas photo shoot. I am sure you have plenty of pics of the kids that you could use. Then you'll save that money from the shoot and the money you would have spent on tights etc....

It's November 19 - don't stress out about xmas cards yet. If you are really behind, send out New Years cards instead. Also - think about making it a combo Moving/Holiday card so you only have to send out one.

You can change your address online for a lot of things. Try that instead of phone calls.

Set a goal with unpacking - unpack 4 boxes a day or something like that.

If you feel too spread out - say no to some birthday and holiday parties. No reason you have to go to every event.

Re: Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

I only have the twins...don't know how you do it with three! You clearly are Superwoman! I had a breakdown last night becaue the twins have been a mess all week...constant crying and hardly sleeping during the day.
But, I have been through crappy times like this in the past few months and good times were always around the corner.

Just take a deep breath and make sure you take some time for you...even if it is just a long shower one night. And don't forget to stop and think about how amazing you are to be balanching everything that you are. Your little ones are lucky to have you!

Re: Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

feel better

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so sorry u are going thru all of this... i have carpal tunnel that just started acting up again after some time. i have been pretty stressed out and went for acupuncture.although it didnt take all of my pain away,it did relieve some of it and made it much more manageable, but most of all, it melted away tons of stress! so maybe u can try and get some me time and try it. the woman i went to was amazing. her name is monserrat. i am going to try and cut corners so i can go more often now. she also does gentle work on kids with special needs, i am considering evenutally bringing my stepdaugher who has pdd/nos to her who has tons of anxiety and stepson with adhd as she said its really helped kids too. she massaged my neck for a tiny bit and her hands were amazing, so i just sent my dh there for massage therapy for his neck/back pain, and he loved it. i think i would love to have a massage for an xmas gift! LOL
they are in lake success/nhp:


http://alquimiaforhealth.com/index.php

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Posted by Tine73

I had carpal tunnel with both pregnancies really bad so I know how painful it is. Acupuncture did help, but I would try to get the surgery asap. When you are in pain, it makes everything so much harder.

I'm sorry if this comes off rude, but I would try to cut out the non essential items and save up for your copay so you can have the surgery. You need to take care of yourself first.

We all know that you are already set for Xmas gifts , so at least you don't have to worry about that expense. Not sure if you were planning on it, but don't reschedule the Xmas photo shoot. I am sure you have plenty of pics of the kids that you could use. Then you'll save that money from the shoot and the money you would have spent on tights etc....

It's November 19 - don't stress out about xmas cards yet. If you are really behind, send out New Years cards instead. Also - think about making it a combo Moving/Holiday card so you only have to send out one.

You can change your address online for a lot of things. Try that instead of phone calls.

Set a goal with unpacking - unpack 4 boxes a day or something like that.

If you feel too spread out - say no to some birthday and holiday parties. No reason you have to go to every event.

Message edited 11/20/2010 10:11:12 PM.

Re: Talk me off the ledge..........(LONG sorry)

Hang in there! Take it all one day at a time!

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WHY DON'T YOU CALL ME!! Ill be calling you tomorrow to set up a day I can come and help!!