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Bridex100
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Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
We're pretty sure we will be having another son. When we told our parents, they both were really disappointed and keep saying how now we'll have to have a 3rd child so we can try for a girl. If they said this once, fine but they KEEP saying this over and over and over again.
Yes, I did want both a girl and a boy but am happy that DS will have a baby brother he can be friends with. I really do not appreciate these negative comments.  I am more annoyed that these people don't get that I am done after having 2 kids and will not be having any more children.
Anyone else get negative comments about having 2 or more same sex children?
How do you retaliate?
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Posted 10/13/10 11:56 AM  |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
dude..i wanted to punch people when they kept on saying that they hoped I was having a girl! Honestly, as long as the baby was healthy...who cares. besides I really wanted another boy....
maybe we'll try for a third!!
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| Posted 10/13/10 11:59 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
And if you do have a boy and then a girl, like us, everyone has to comment, "Oh, I guess you're done then. You have a set.", or something stupid like that. No matter what, people will give you their opinion on how many DC you should have.... 
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| Posted 10/13/10 12:09 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
Posted by GoldenRod
And if you do have a boy and then a girl, like us, everyone has to comment, "Oh, I guess you're done then. You have a set.", or something stupid like that. No matter what, people will give you their opinion on how many DC you should have....
ITA. I used to get "You have a boy & a girl? Great,than you're done!"
Tell them the odds don't change on the 3rd pregnancy either. It's the same 50/50 shot.
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| Posted 10/13/10 12:20 PM |
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DandN
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
We have a 3.5 year old daughter and 4 month old twin girls - EVERYONE makes comments like "oh your poor husband!" "wow - so you'll try for a son, right?" It's so annoying.
And the funny thing is, when the sono tech told us that we were expecting two girls, the first thing my husband said was "Oh thank God!" He makes no secret of the fact that he loves having all girls.
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:07 PM |
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stayandjohn
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
Please, after 3 boys I get the comments all the time. Oh you have to try for a girl now, oh you must be devestated you dont have any girls, you can always adopt a girl
I want a girl, of course, but I got three healthy happy sons so whats wrong?
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:24 PM |
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cityandbeachmom
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
Idk what we are having for #2 but as long as the baby is healthy I don't care what it is. It would irk me if people said that too. I am not one to keep my feelings in. If we have another DD, and I hear that, I will say "My uterus is closed for business" We wanted 2, we got two...end of story!"
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:37 PM |
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Merf99
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
Yes! I have 2 girls and everyone always comments to my DH that we now need to try for a boy!
Oh you could be like my MIL who says THANK GOODNESS you have girls! I don't want any of my kids to have boys!!
So thanks - if she was a boy, I would have known how she really felt!!
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:40 PM |
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sleepie76
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
I'm pregnant now with #2 but we aren't finding out the gender.
Everyone says, "Oh, I REALLY hope its a boy."
It's not even what they say, it's how they say it. With this tone like it would be the worst thing if it was another girl.
I always say, "As long as it's healthy, I really dont care" and its the truth.
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:44 PM |
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my3bugs
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
I have 2 boys and been getting that from the 2nd birth's. Doesn't stop and he is 3 yrs. Now it is worse as I am pregnant with #3. I haven't found out the sex but assume it is a boy - since it is what I am use to. I know this will be our last child and I am not ready for the comments (even though they have slightly started). I try to laugh it off and just say things after 2 boys - not sure I would know what to do with a girl (hey - I may not - they seem like a different world to me) or I say you get what god gives you. But I know it is aso annoying!!!!! I am afraid to find out the sex because I think people are going to pity me if they find out it is a boy rather than be happy for me that I am hopefully having a healthy baby.
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:45 PM |
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Twstdvenus1
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
Posted by DandN
We have a 3.5 year old daughter and 4 month old twin girls - EVERYONE makes comments like "oh your poor husband!" "wow - so you'll try for a son, right?" It's so annoying.
And the funny thing is, when the sono tech told us that we were expecting two girls, the first thing my husband said was "Oh thank God!" He makes no secret of the fact that he loves having all girls.
Sounds just like my hubby. Before we knew the sex of DD2, DH said that he wanted another girl...even knowing that I was done after this pregnancy. DD2 is only 2 months old and people ALWAYS ask if we are going to try for a boy. When I say I'm done, no more kids, I get this look of utter shock and disbelief.
I just tell them...daddy has his 2 princesses and his Queen....with no boy...there no one to try to dethrone him
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:45 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
Posted by GoldenRod
And if you do have a boy and then a girl, like us, everyone has to comment, "Oh, I guess you're done then. You have a set.", or something stupid like that. No matter what, people will give you their opinion on how many DC you should have....
Exactly. I can't tell you how many times I have heard things like that - like oh your're done! or instant family! blah blah because I have B/G twins.
And how many people have told me I'm crazy b/c I chose to have a third when I already have one of each.
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:51 PM |
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WhatNow
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
Posted by Niecey
I am pregnant with #3.
What, WHAT?? I missed the announcement, if there was one! How exciting! Yay! Congrats, Denise!!
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| Posted 10/13/10 1:53 PM |
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Peainapod
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
when you're dating..its when are you engaged...then when are you getting married?? then when are you having kids..?? then when is the next kid??? then the boy/girl comments.
people should just STFU!!! good god..what is wrong with people. its not their lives nor their kids. I will be happy with whatever god gives me.
your parents say this now, but once the baby comes, they wont even care.
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| Posted 10/13/10 2:11 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
I went through the same thing I didn't retaliate, I just acted extra excited to have another girl. It will pass and when the baby is here - no one will care that he's the same sex.
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| Posted 10/13/10 2:19 PM |
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Annie91606
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
My MIL did When we had our Level 2 ultrasound and found out we were having a second (healthy!) boy, she said "oh that's a shame".
We do not plan on having any more, gender never mattered to us. I feel like I hit the jackpot already, having 2 wonderful baby boys when I was over 35 years old.
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| Posted 10/13/10 2:19 PM |
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beachgirl13
Mommy to 3 boys!
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
I have 2 boys and don't know what I"m having. People always make comments about how it would be so nice if I get a girl, etc. Makes me wonder what the reaction will be if #3 is a boy, but I don't care. 3 boys will be great!
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| Posted 10/13/10 3:05 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Negative comments about having a 2nd child the same sex as your 1st child
I tell people I"m done after 2 - Regardless of sex, I don't want another PERSON to raise and care for and pay for - boy OR girl ......... Sometimes I don't think peopel get the fact that having a CHILD is not like buyign a new car !!!!!!!! -
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| Posted 10/13/10 3:31 PM |
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