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headoverheels
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BFing in public issues
DD is only 2.5 weeks old but she already hates the nursing cover - she cries and pulls off and won't hold her latch. It's beyond frustrating.
I personally have overcome my BFing in public insecurities but I do understand that it does make some people uncomfortable.
How can I be as discrete as possible? And since DD is only a newborn with a tiny mouth, how do I hide these ginormous National Geographic nips?? 
Please help!!
Message edited 4/2/2010 9:17:15 AM.
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snowprincess
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Re: BFing in publuc issues
i am one that has insecruties nursing in public - i always use my cover - i use a cover that wraps around my neck and is light weight - he can't pull it off easily - i did not use my cover till about 2 onths though till i was really comfortable nursing
i would nurse in the changing room at stores, the deer park outlets have a rocking chair in the bathroom, or i would nurse in the car before he was 2 months and setttled with nursing
but at 2.5 weeks i was still struggling with getting my son awake enough to eat - we had a lot of nursing issues inthe beginning
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:05 AM |
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Grill
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Re: BFing in publuc issues
Ugh...I went through (and still am) the same thing. My 3 mo. old DS will not eat under a cover and he pulls on/off a gazillion times because he's so curious. I wear a 3-shirt system. First layer is a nursing tank from target. Second layer is another tank or tee usually of the same color. Third is a cardigan or button down. The nursing tank covers my belly. The tee covers my breast down to the nipple. The cardigan covers any side skin that may be exposed. However, I find that if you can see my side skin...you're gawking. Good Luck!
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:07 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: BFing in publuc issues
gignormous NG nips. You rock LB.
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:08 AM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: BFing in publuc issues
Call my DH, he would be happy to block you and give you cover - pay him with a burger. though he can't start his duties til after next week. He is being a good Jew. 
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:13 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: BFing in publuc issues
Posted by Grill
Ugh...I went through (and still am) the same thing. My 3 mo. old DS will not eat under a cover and he pulls on/off a gazillion times because he's so curious. I wear a 3-shirt system. First layer is a nursing tank from target. Second layer is another tank or tee usually of the same color. Third is a cardigan or button down. The nursing tank covers my belly. The tee covers my breast down to the nipple. The cardigan covers any side skin that may be exposed. However, I find that if you can see my side skin...you're gawking. Good Luck!
I do wear nursing tanks in public underneath other shirts and that definitely helps, I'll bring a cardi as well, thanks.
I need to figure out how to position her head to hide these nips though! And how to get them in her mouth without flashing the entire world!
Posted by MsMBV
gignormous NG nips. You rock LB.
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:14 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: BFing in public issues
Posted by Goldi0218
Call my DH, he would be happy to block you and give you cover - pay him with a burger. though he can't start his duties til after next week. He is being a good Jew.
 Will a cheeseburger get me any extra benefits?
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Goldi0218
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Re: BFing in public issues
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by Goldi0218
Call my DH, he would be happy to block you and give you cover - pay him with a burger. though he can't start his duties til after next week. He is being a good Jew.
Will a cheeseburger get me any extra benefits?
He doesn't eat cheese with his burgers. He is a better Jew than I am.
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: BFing in public issues
Posted by headoverheels
I need to figure out how to position her head to hide these nips though! And how to get them in her mouth without flashing the entire world!
Practice in front of your mirror at home.
I also put the nursing tank under a regular shirt. When I pull the shirt up, after she is latched, I push it down as far as it will go and that hides everything.
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:26 AM |
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KangaMom
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Re: BFing in public issues
You are doing great and will get it all figured out. The most important issue is nourishing your DC I wouldn't be too concerned what others are uncomfortable with...
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:34 AM |
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Grill
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Re: BFing in public issues
I need to figure out how to position her head to hide these nips though! And how to get them in her mouth without flashing the entire world!
She is still so young. By 12 weeks or so, she'll be easier to latch. And as far as flashing everyone...you're really only flashing you and her. Her head is covering your nips from the rest of the world. It's anxiety provoking, but remember that others are not seeing what you are seeing...you've got a vantage point that no one else does. You will definitely get better at it in no time. But it does take practice.
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~Colleen~
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Re: BFing in public issues
Posted by Kidsaplenty
Posted by headoverheels
I need to figure out how to position her head to hide these nips though! And how to get them in her mouth without flashing the entire world!
Practice in front of your mirror at home.
I also put the nursing tank under a regular shirt. When I pull the shirt up, after she is latched, I push it down as far as it will go and that hides everything.
I agree...practice in front of a mirror. I wore tanks under everything so all I had to do was lift the top shirt and pull down the tank - everything was covered. At that age I also used a cloth diaper as a cover of sorts...I covered my chest more so than covered her head.
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:38 AM |
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randella
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Re: BFing in public issues
I had this issue with Sasha in the beginning. Eventually she got over it-- but, I still hates the nursing cover and I was never one who could really nurse in public with ease, and I never felt she got a good feeding either.
I would just always try to find a spot that was quiet, where you could be discreet, but have a little privacy-- a ladies lounge, a dressing room, etc. Once you get her to latch, throw a light blanket over you.
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Ophelia
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Re: BFing in public issues
wear a jacket.
whe he knocks the cover off (which he ALWAYS does) I just put him to the side where his head is the most readily seen (pointing out to the public) and then tuck it in to my jacket/sweater. then only the top is exposed...and if you are standing directly over me, that is YOUR fault, not mine
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| Posted 4/2/10 10:17 AM |
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beachgirl
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Re: BFing in public issues
Just bring a large light blanket like s swaddle, place that over as much of your breast as possible, then whip it out one two three and once she is latched on you can pull the blanket up as much as possible to cover the breast. I know you are concerned about flashing your nip but if you do it quickly no one will see it and if you do then who cares really - in the grand scheme of things if its that offensive for you to show 5 seconds of a nip to feed your child then people need to get a life.
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KennysMommy
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Re: BFing in public issues
I suggest practicing in front of a mirror to see what it looks like and to know how to best "cover up" w/o having to use a nursing cover or blanket. I have large breasts and can nurse pretty discreetly.
I also wear my bellaband (from pregnancy) to cover my belly/sides from being exposed when my shirt is up.
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| Posted 4/2/10 10:37 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: BFing in public issues
I never thought to practice in front of a mirror - great suggestion everyone. Thanks
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JandJ1224
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Re: BFing in public issues
Just try practicing at home, you will be a pro at getting it in with little nip flashing in no time!
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| Posted 4/2/10 12:49 PM |
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usuk2004
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Re: BFing in public issues
I always support my breast with the hand that's not under DS and have my fingers ready to close over my nipple if he pulls off.
Like others have said, though, I'm sure you're fine and not flashing the world nearly as much as you think you are.
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NinaLemon
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Re: BFing in public issues
Posted by usuk2004
I always support my breast with the hand that's not under DS and have my fingers ready to close over my nipple if he pulls off.
Like others have said, though, I'm sure you're fine and not flashing the world nearly as much as you think you are.
This is what I do as well and it works for me ...although I have to say at 2.5 weeks I wasn't ready to nurse in public, not because I was uncomfortable with people seeing me nurse but at that point I didn't know what I was doing yet! I was still trying to get him to latch well and stay awake - we were both usually naked and one of us was crying ....wouldn't be a pretty sight in a public place!
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| Posted 4/2/10 3:24 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: BFing in public issues
Posted by NinaLemon
Posted by usuk2004
I always support my breast with the hand that's not under DS and have my fingers ready to close over my nipple if he pulls off.
Like others have said, though, I'm sure you're fine and not flashing the world nearly as much as you think you are.
This is what I do as well and it works for me ...although I have to say at 2.5 weeks I wasn't ready to nurse in public, not because I was uncomfortable with people seeing me nurse but at that point I didn't know what I was doing yet! I was still trying to get him to latch well and stay awake - we were both usually naked and one of us was crying ....wouldn't be a pretty sight in a public place!
Awwww this reminds me of my issues with DS! It took a good 5-6 weeks before I felt comfortable even BFing him at home! It's definitely easier the 2nd time around
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| Posted 4/2/10 9:55 PM |
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Maybe try a discreet spot-we did that today. If not, screw it. She needs to eat. People will have to get over it.
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WhatNow
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Re: BFing in public issues
I just want to tell you that I see women breastfeeding their babies without cover ups on playgrounds, in doctors offices, in kids stores, in libraries all the time and I have NEVER seen anyone's nipples. Only you think you are flashing the world. In reality, things are barely visible and most of the time, not that many people are even realizing that you are BFing.
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| Posted 4/2/10 11:32 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: BFing in public issues
What kind of cover are you using? Try one that attaches around your neck and has wire - like the bebe au lait - that way you can see her, and she can see you.
The blankets never worked for me. They were always falling off.
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