Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

So I decided to bite the bullet today and put C3 in undies

He didn't go between 10am and 4:30pm. I put him on the potty every once in a while and he'd freak or play or make noise, but no pee.

At 4:30pm he peed alllllllllll over the floor and was SHOCKED about it, didn't know how to stop it, didn't know what to do and was upset, kept apologizing to me for it. I took him into his room to change his underwear and he started crying for a diaper b/c he didn't want to pee on the floor I told him he could have a cookie if he wore the underwear, so he agreed

So, 4:30pm until NOW (well 8:15pm) he was put on the potty, drank juice, ate dinner and NO pee, NONE at all. He is in a diaper now b/c he is in his pjs and winding down

But does this mean he isn't ready? I really don't like this

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

I have to tell you, he doesn't sound ready to me, and I don't think you want to push it because you don't want it to backfire on you. Wait it out a little longer. Maybe try in the early summer.

Do you put him on the potty throughout the day at all?

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

I wouldn't push him. He might be scared and that's why he's holding it...and then eventually letting it all go

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

See I am not sure...with Ali I had an entire day like that (I had her in underwear and sweats - sweats cause they absorb alot) and she had 3 accidents...the next day 2 and the next day she didn't have any.

She was very upset too, so I think that is why it worked for us...also once I did that I never put a diaper back on her...we did pull ups.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

He sounds like he is holding it. Maybe put him on the potty every 1/2 hour or so and encourage him and tell him it's ok. Mommy goes pee pee and daddy goes pee pee. I dont know...I'm really no help b/c I will be working on this next.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

I think you just gotta stick with it. Do you have training undies? The gerber ones with the padding? they will absorb some of it. I say stick with it...accidents are normal!! If he freaked I would think thats a good thing, like at least hes realizing pee doesn't belong on the floor! Maybe he'll get it come day 2 or 3, etc.

eta: maybe get a potty chart so he gets a sticker every time he pees on the potty? Or u can get a toy bin filled w/ $1 toys from the dollar store to give him each time?

Message edited 3/16/2010 8:46:58 PM.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

I was putting him on a lot, not every half hour (b/c I'll be honest, I don't watch the clock at all) and he just had no interest in going. He knows what he should do, I peed in front of him like a bizillion times today

DH made a big deal about it..

I am totally torn, part of me thinks he is ready and I need to buck up and part of me really thinks he isn't ready.

About the holding it, is that THAT bad? I mean, he isn't uncomfortable, or not drinking....when my parents were potty training me I went 48 hours without peeing (my mom brought me to the ped even!) and eventually I did go...

ETA-I just checked his diaper and it is dry

ETA2-And I totally tried bribery too, told him he could get a special car he wants if he went ONCE on the potty...didn't even phase him

Message edited 3/16/2010 9:00:06 PM.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

While it's possible he isn't ready, I'd give it a few more days before calling it quits till summer time.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

If it were me, I'd give it 3-4 days before giving up till the summer....longer if you could handle it.

I've been doing a lot of reading on it b/c I plan on training my son any day now (he is 2 1/2). What I find very interesting is that I'm reading how other cultures can potty train their kids waaaaaaay before 2 years old. The trick, sticking too it for as long as it takes with out giving up!!

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

I would not say he is not ready....sounds like he is trying to learn what to do and getting upset for peeing on the floor is totally norma, miki was like that in the beginning

just keep putting him on the potty...NO diapers during the day

he will get there

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

To me - if he could hold it like that he is ready. My son was pee'ing on the potty for months before I decided to train him and the first few days of training - he did similar to that. If I let him run undie-less - he would pee on the potty and even at times do it himself (I used the little potty and brought it room to room for the first week or so). He trained naked first and then eventually got the hang of it.

I'd load him up with liquids and try again for a day or two more and see if he let's it out. He sounds nervous to let it go. My older son was like that. He had to totally be reassured it was ok to let it out in the potty. If he let's you put him on - do it. Sit with him, relax him, even if it is watching tv or reading books and let him know it is ok. With my youngest - I also said he'd get a m&m for trying and a whole bunch for going when wearing undies (like 3-4 but it made him happy and he liked the idea of a whole bunch).

And PS my youngest is trained 2 months now and still will hold it as long as he possibly can not to stop to go...Even my 5 yr old - will hold it forever esp in public not to go outside of the house. they can hold it forever - they have amazing self control.

Good luck.

Message edited 3/17/2010 7:28:35 AM.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

i would give it a few more days before giving up. i think his reaction was pretty normal for the first day.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

Posted by Diana1215

I have to tell you, he doesn't sound ready to me, and I don't think you want to push it because you don't want it to backfire on you. Wait it out a little longer. Maybe try in the early summer.

Do you put him on the potty throughout the day at all?

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

He doesn't seem ready and that is okay! DS used to apologize and cry when he had an accident and it broke my heart because he felt like he was letting me down. I stopped and didn't push the issue for a while. I started PT about 2 months later and it was a totally different experience. He was ready and anxious to pee on the toilet. I didn't have to bribe him or remind him. Three days later he was fully potty trained and one week later he was wearing underwear to bed with no accidents.

Re: Does this mean he isn't ready? (PT related)

I would stick with it, Kate. He has to start somewhere. Accidents happen and they help them learn. I totally recommend the Gerber training underwear. They are very thick and absorb a lot. When T has an accident, they absorb enough so that pee isn't dripping on the floor (usually).

Of course, there are two schools of thought on this... either you believe it's best to wait until the child naturally tells you he wants to use the potty, or you make the decision to start and not look back... Do what's right for you.