I'm sorry I just have to vent a bit...

I'm tired of being told that my family doesn't want to tell me things because I'm pregnant.

Some background:: My oldest brother ((29)) was diagnosed with cancer last June, he underwent chemo for 6 months, they were able to get rid of 70% which was great, but then it started growing back. Which brings us to now.

My mom tells DH whats going on, and DH assumed that she also told me ((they talk while he's working and I'm home with DS)). This was 2 weeks ago, and DH brought up last night how he wishes he could help etc. I look at him like *** are you talking about, the chemo is working. So I find out last night, that my brother will be going for ICE treatment, and I have no idea what this is, and then will be going for a bone marrow transplant soon.

Did they think not telling me, and me finding out randomly was going to hurt less? Were they not going to tell me until after the baby was born? I don't get it... and I know that its not as if I could of done something if I found out 2 weeks ago, but I'm just so hurt ..

Thanks for reading .. sorry it was so long, but it felt good to finally get my feelings out a bit..

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first of all,

I know how you feel - my parents tend to keep things from me when they think it will stress me out too much. little do they know it just makes it a lot worse when you actually do find out!

i can understand them not wanting to upset you, but maybe tell them that it ends up upsetting you more when you find out through the grape vine?

best of luck and lots of prayers for your brother

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for your brother

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So sorry to hear this about your brother I do understand that your family wants to protect you. THeir hearts are in the right place. Trynot to get too upset they didn't tell you. Put yourself in your mother's shoes, she is dealing with the sickness of one child and with your pregnancy, all she wants is both of you to be healthy and it must be a difficult time for her. I hope your brother makes a full recovery...many many prayers for your family

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Thanks girls for the hugs and prayers. I know I'm overreacting a bit just because I'm so scared for my brother, and we're so close, and to think I didn't say anything to him for the last 2 weeks just broke my heart.

Pregnancy hormones are in full swing lately.. I swear its because I'm having a girl, I was never so crazy with DS

But thanks again, it was good to get off my chest!

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First of all big for your brother!!

My family has been the same way with me during this pregnancy! It bothers me and I agree w/you that either way you find out and it makes it harder the way they are doing it.

This is completely different but my parents put my family dog down and knew they were doing it for 2 weeks, then told me the morning of an HOUR before!! I was literally throwing up with anger and being so shocked and upset. I know its not the same thing at all but they did it that way b/c I was pregnant to me it was 20,000x worse to deal with rather than had I known all along and prepared for it.

IMO your not overreacting and while you are pregnant I still think you should be kept in the loop about important information. I also do understand where your family is coming from, so its a tough position. Maybe just tell them for the future to please keep you informed, you don't like to get info from a second person?

Again big and for your brother!

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for your brother for you. Sorry that you are going through this!