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love someone unconditonally. Are u capable of loving some this way? have u ever been loved unconditionally?

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i would hope it would be my child...

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me personally...i love my parents and grandparents unconditionally as well

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I think parents and children can have that kind of love for each other. I am not sure other relationships are the same.

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I love my siblings that way. I don't think there is anything they could do and I wouldn't love them anyway. DH too, I think even if he cheated on me I would still love him. Doesn't mean I'd stay married to him, but I would love him.

And children, yes, I am sure I'd love my children unconditionally.

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I love my son unconditionally

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i think that the possibility for love to be NOT unconditional is there for everyone

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Parents, siblings and children are loved unconditionally. DH is loved, but definitely not unconditionally. That's just the way it goes for me. I think loving a spouse unconditionally isn't a healthy relationship. Conditions like faithfulness, affection, trust all come into play.

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I absolutely love my parents unconditionally. Even if I were to find out they did something horrible, like murder someone, I could never stop loving them.

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Love is Patient

By Jacey Eckhart

We were leaving home. After five months of residing in my parent’s Basement O’ Refugees, the kids and I were headed off to my husband’s next duty station to wait for him. That morning we were packing everything into the back of a minivan and leaving home. So I bounded upstairs at 5:30 a.m. to do my happy dance in the shower. California or bust.

I stopped at the top of the stairs. My mother was sitting in the dark, cradling her coffee by the light of the VCR.

“What are you doing up?” I asked.

“I’m often up this early,” she whispered. “I wake up this way.”

I was not sure that I believed her. Mom stood up and moved to the couch, pushing aside pillows to make room for me. She gripped my hand. We were leaving. After five months of cooking sausages and watching “Lost” and wearing out her Maytag, we were leaving.

“I’m afraid that my being so eager to go is hurting you,” I said into the dark. “You and Daddy have been so great and we’ve been awful. Crazy, even. And Kelsey….”

I stopped. I lowered my head onto her shoulder. She is so little, so thin.

“Oh, honey,” my mom said, patting my knee with our clasped hands. “Your life isn’t here. You have to move on.”

Every civilian in their community told us that we should stay for the whole school year. But my mom has been married to a military guy since 1959. She talked about how many hours I had to drive today and whether we needed cheese sticks for the ride. And all I heard was: Love is patient. Love is kind.

It’s a phrase from 1 Corinthians 13. I heard it at my wedding and dozens of other weddings. I’ve seen rendered on keychains and posters and kitchen canisters. It’s a phrase I’ve seen it so often that it does not strike me anymore. I see it and think yes, yes. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. is not easily angered. Love is great. Get some. Give some. Got it.

But ever since we signed our lease in San Diego, ever since I started feeling like myself again, I have heard this passage in my head every day. Because in these past few months my parents have done nothing but teach me, again, the meaning of love. Maybe that is the most important thing parents ever teach their kids—what love is and what love isn’t.

Because Love isn’t a doormat. Love isn’t a blank check. Love means that when people are going through a bad situation and they behave badly, Love blames the situation, not the people. Love doesn’t keep track of the things you said and did not mean. Love works on science fair projects. Love renders waffles.

Love stands in the kitchen while you get ready to leave and moves just enough in your way so that you bump into each other over and over. And over and over there are no words to say. So you make a peanut butter and honey sandwich. Find a ziplock. Ask if there is ice for the cooler.

Love checks the Weather Channel, follows you to your car. Love looks into a car that is already full to bursting and thinks you ought to take a bucket, a laundry basket, a lamp.

Love kisses you goodbye and laughs when you cry. “Drive safely,” Love says. “Call when you get to the hotel.”

And if you look at your window, Love will stand on the driveway waving and smiling. And you’ll notice that it is the same bright determined smile that you saw over your own narrow shoulder when you walked into Kindergarten. It’s the same smile that waited in the pew at your wedding. It’s the same smile that tells you that your life isn’t here. That you should run to it with open arms and that Love will be waiting right here when you return.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

1 Corinthians 13 (New International Version)


Jacey Eckhart “The Homefront Club:
The Hardheaded Woman’s Guide to Raising a Military Family.”
As an Air Force brat, Jacey Eckhart grew up swearing she would never enter the military or marry anyone who did. Of course, she married the first Navy guy she ever met. Eighteen years later, she and her husband Brad have moved 13 times. Tackled five deployments. Raised three kids. And Jacey has written over 400 columns that encourage, empower and entertain military families everywhere.

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my family loves unconditionally, you can really hurt them and they always forgive and love you to no end! i'm very lucky, I know I will always love my childrten unconditionally, even if they murdered someone, I'd hide them out in my basement even though they were wrong.

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there are things that are a lot worse than murder....
things that are unimagineable....humans have done the most horrific things to other humans....lower than animals...

So i don't know if i or anyone could say never ever....

But i hope...

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eh...well then your friends are bigger people than i
I have listened and have seen on tv too many things that if my parent or my child did.....well unconditional wouldnt even be a thought in my mind...

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i have to say that i Unconditionally love my neices and nephews. i totally understood unconditional love from them. they are an amazing group of children. i would do ANYthing for them.

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i have to say that i Unconditionally love my neices and nephews. i totally understood unconditional love from them. they are an amazing group of children. i would do ANYthing for them.

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Posted by Redhead

Posted by nancygrace

i have to say that i Unconditionally love my neices and nephews. i totally understood unconditional love from them. they are an amazing group of children. i would do ANYthing for them.

ok i am going to go out on a limb here and just pose the hypothetical...

Say one of you nieces..molested, tortured and killed a child of yours....
your love would be unconditional?

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Posted by Redhead

Posted by nancygrace

i have to say that i Unconditionally love my neices and nephews. i totally understood unconditional love from them. they are an amazing group of children. i would do ANYthing for them.

ok i am going to go out on a limb here and just pose the hypothetical...

Say one of you nieces..molested, tortured and killed a child of yours....
your love would be unconditional?

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Posted by emilain

Posted by Redhead

Posted by nancygrace

i have to say that i Unconditionally love my neices and nephews. i totally understood unconditional love from them. they are an amazing group of children. i would do ANYthing for them.

ok i am going to go out on a limb here and just pose the hypothetical...

Say one of you nieces..molested, tortured and killed a child of yours....
your love would be unconditional?

YIKES!! Ya know what Red, you always hit the nail on the head, that would definitely cause me to take away any unconditional feelings of love, holy cow I never even thought about something like that!

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