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LadyH
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
I don't like my MIL at all. I actually think she needs professional help.
She runs an "in home" daycare out of her house. But I am putting DC in daycare by me because I know she will do whatever she wants with my baby when I'm at work no matter what I say. She will have him at most 2 days per week.
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
Why would your DH do that when he knows you don't get along? I would kill my DH--lol
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| Posted 9/18/08 8:05 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
Posted by hmm8191
Posted by melijane
I hear you all on the MIL thing but don't you think they deserve to share this time too?
Sharing is one thing. Moving in with you is another.
I have a lot of issues with my MIL and have made it clear to DH that she is not staying over with us after the baby is born. I'm not 100% sure that he gets that but it's the way it is going to be. I'm compromising by not asking my Mom to stay with us too. They are both local so it SHOULD not be a problem to have them come over during the day and then go home.  I know this is going to be an issue.
Well if they are local there is really no reason for them to stay. I am OOS
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| Posted 9/18/08 8:20 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by melijane
I hear you all on the MIL thing but don't you think they deserve to share this time too? It is their sons baby as well.
I personally disagree. They had their children, now this is our children. I personally don't feel obligated to do anything with grandparents (my parents or his) that I don't feel comfortable with.  My own comfort and stress level are numero uno.
I think every new family needs to start with the DH, DW and child, and our parents need to know their place. I think the beginning is when this needs to start. I often find I have friends whose parents are way too overinvolved in their marriages and it's usually never a good thing, some trouble often brews in the marriage b/c of someone's parent overstepping their place. JMO
I totally understand what you're saying and you have every right to do things the way you want to. I guess I am a softie! I would feel bad if I prevented them from taking part in this special time. However they will be here 2-3 days at most.
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| Posted 9/18/08 8:27 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
I don't know, I'd be thrilled if my MIL wanted to come and spend a week with us after the baby comes. I think it would be a great help in the beginning when you aer trying to figure things out and are sleep deprived. In my case, I know that won't happen since my SIL is due the day after me, but my mother will most likely be with us for about 2 weeks, and while we don't get along too well, I am welcoming the help while I can get it. My mother lives in Florida and I can't even imagine telling her not to come when the baby is born, especially since lives in Florida.
We all took turns staying with my sister when she had her baby last year and even though she fought it at first, she was so happy we didn't listen to her. She got to sleep in between feedings, while we helped around the house (Laundry, cooking, shopping, etc).
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angnick
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
wow i would not let that happen. If she wants to stay can she stay with someone else? Perhaps a sibling of dh's? If you two do not get along, i would definitely not let her stay in your house for 3 weeks especially while dh is at work!
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| Posted 9/19/08 8:20 AM |
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Theresa05
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
You do what you feel is right?
We don't speak to my inlaws nor are they allowed to see my child...
you would set me on fire before they had contact..
so whatever makes you feel comfortable stick with it and GOOD LUCK!
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| Posted 9/19/08 8:38 AM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
Oh maaaaaan! MIL is one of the reasons we moved out of NY.
I'll put it this way... She wore a WHITE DRESS with a TRAIN to our wedding! Enough said..
The woman is pure drama. It would be SOO much worse now if we lived in NY because we have DS. She has only come up for visits since he's been born and it's been tolerable but she hasn't stayed with us. She's stayed in a hotel. But when she's here, I think she feels like she's on "my turf" so she is relatively behaved. But the comments! Ugh.
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| Posted 9/19/08 8:42 AM |
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Jessica511
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
I love my MIL to death, but still wouldn't want anyone staying with me after the birth (and that includes my OWN mother)
Good Luck!! Just be honest with your DH about what's best for YOU after this birth and not what's best for his Mom....I hope it all works out!
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| Posted 9/19/08 8:52 AM |
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NoahsArkTummy
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Re: Anyone not get along with their MIL?
PEEKERS!
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