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Well think of it this way...your tone was interpretted wrong by the girl who told You about it.

Maybe the girls tone was also read wrong?

When I Was struggling to get PG, I said MANY times to comments like yours " I wish I had such problems"...But it was never truly directed at the person who said it...more of a woe is me moment on my end.

I bet anything the girl had that moment and it was read into too deeply to be about a comment YOU pecifically made by the person who told you.

Let it go, since you cannot apologize what more can you do ya know? At least you can be more sensitive if you choose to in the future.

You shouldnt have to control your comments to avoid hurt feelings regarding someone elses issues, if your not being intentionally rude in the first place ....

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i completely agree with dm24angel...

i do not think you did anything wrong. i can understand why you feel awkward, but it is not your fault.

i never had major fertility issues, but i had a m/c and it took me almost 1 yr to get PG after. maybe i was secretly resentful of women that were PG or new moms, but never would i expect people to walk on egg shells around me.

Message edited 11/13/2007 1:24:14 AM.

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

"I just wanted to tell you something... its off the record, and I'm not going to tell you who, but you need to watch your tone in your emails."

Then she clarified, "... about talking so much about your baby."

Then, she went on to tell me that it can offend people who have fertility issues and are trying to get pregnant.

She even said something about wishing she had my "burden" of not having a life....

In retrospect, she never even looked at me or said hi to me my whole pregnancy _ I would say hi to her and she would ignore me... its not unusuakl in an autism center though... we employ people with social issues, it didnt eben faze me....so this may have been going on a long time, and she may have had this resentment towards me as she heard me moaning in bathrooms, grunting in my 3rd trimester as I ran playgroups for toddlers (on the floor), etc, and thinking I'm unappreciative the whole time... and hurting her in the process...

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Posted by Ang-Rich

Posted by lipglossjunky73

"I just wanted to tell you something... its off the record, and I'm not going to tell you who, but you need to watch your tone in your emails."

Then she clarified, "... about talking so much about your baby."

Then, she went on to tell me that it can offend people who have fertility issues and are trying to get pregnant.

She even said something about wishing she had my "burden" of not having a life....

In retrospect, she never even looked at me or said hi to me my whole pregnancy _ I would say hi to her and she would ignore me... its not unusuakl in an autism center though... we employ people with social issues, it didnt eben faze me....so this may have been going on a long time, and she may have had this resentment towards me as she heard me moaning in bathrooms, grunting in my 3rd trimester as I ran playgroups for toddlers (on the floor), etc, and thinking I'm unappreciative the whole time... and hurting her in the process...

Liza...I am sure that I would feel the same way you do. You had no intention whatsoever of offending this person so you feel bad that it happened.

But...at the same time I think it's wrong for your words to be twisted this way - you never said that Cailen was a burden nor that you didn't adore being his mom.

I know that there are many women that are dealing with fertility issues so I don't want to offend anyone. I just think that you were bullied in this particular situation knowing full well that you never had any intention to hurt anyone. I think it's unfair to call you out on this.

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I think she is being way too sensitive, it's her problem not yours

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As someone with fertility issues, I do not and cannot expect anyone to walk on eggshells around me. I would not have taken offense to your comments.

What DOES offend me are people who neglect, abuse or simply tolerate the blessings they have been given. That hurts more.

Here is something for Cailen to make you smile:

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I don't think your coworker should have advised you to watch your tone...I think there is NOTHING wrong with your email!!

Seriously...this girl is so offended by your mention of having no life b/c she is struggling with infertility? Then everything around her must offend her..babies and parents are everywhere.

I just don't get how some people are sensitive to so much. I can completly understand the upset over infertility...but in this situation her offense is totally unwarranted.

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