Egghhh I need to vent...

My mil is driving me to drink!

For those who dont know, she has helped Dh and I out on many occasions and for that we are very grateful...unfortunately or sincere thanks is never enough for her...She feels because shes done the things shes done -shes our boss...and we are too do things her way ALL the time!

She is smarter than me dh the dr the dentist and so forth....shes apparently so damn gifted!!!I never seen someone wear so many hats

When I was EBFing all she did was b!tch n cvomplain about how bfing is bad, you cant see whats hes getting blah blah blah, she made me feel like sh!t ...then when ry lost those few extra oz in the hospital, she in so many words said it was my fault because I choose to BF...Nice thing to tell a new mom right???

This made nuts... hence the reason i started pumping like a crazy person..which lead my milk supply to decrease, and result in me breaking those capillaries, and in the end is the reason why hes now on strictly formula...

She questions everything I do, and even makes those im nervous so im gonna breath heavy sounds while i change MY baby!!! She cant understand why i never ask questions (umm either i know what im doing or i ask my OWN mother???)

She thinks its her RIGHT to see him everyday..or at least 5/7 days in a week...2 weekends ago we spent in its entirety with them n then ate there for dinner that wed. and that wasnt good enough!...HELLO- we do have our own life- and i have a family too! Sun is DH only day off- we like to spend it as a family day- however yesterday when she was here she kept saying to the baby..ill see ya sunday... UMMM NO YOU WILL NOT!

She suggests that I go out with DH about 2x's a week n let her babysit...everyday she calls asking if i can leave so she can babysit...uhhmmm hello... what is your need to be alone with MY son???? I dont wanna go out- i wanna be with my 4 week old BABY!

I had a talk with her about 2 weeks ago...she kept her comments at a minimal and now shes back at it again... Im so f-ing tired of answering to her...HER WAY ISNT THE ONLY WAY- why cant she see that???? As if being a new mom isnt hard enough i need her up my ***!

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are we related???? lol my MIl is the exact same and to make matters worse she would tell me how to do everything HELLOOOOOOOOOOO yes this is your first grandchild BUT i was married before and have kids i think i know how to take care of a baby!!!!!!!!! , hang in there, i know what you rae going through!!!

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Has DH stood up to her??? That sounds soooo annoying. Try to be firm and consistent with her so she will finally get the picture. Like never let her come over on a sunday so she will finally stop asking etc. Easier said then done I'm sure. Good luck

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oooo yea..Dh had it out with her once...n it was ugly, and somehow it all got blamed on me.../so i dont go that route anymore!

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i am lucky to have wonderful inlaws, and we havnt added any children into the picture yet, but i am sorry that you are going through this.

hope all gets ironed out and you get the space you and your husband need alone, with your son.

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I don't even have any advice to give. My FIL drives me nuts but it's nothing like what you are going through. Just stick to what you want ... make at as clear as possible whenever you can that you're in charge of your baby, and hopefully in time things will get easier. Hang in there!!!

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Oh Marissa...I was wondering when you were going to post about her. I knew something was brewing. I'm so sorry that she's being such a "know-it-all" and a royal pain in the arse.

You have to tell her ( i guess again and again) that you need time to be with your family and that you're enjoying your time ~ALONE~ being a mom. You appreciate her offering but you still want to do things with your new family. Maybe tell her that you're going out with the baby, check your caller id and try to avoid her for a while.

Those comments really have to stop about how you're doing things the wrong way. When did BF'ing ever become bad? She's just one of those women that think her way is right and you're never going to change it. But that doesn't mean you have to deal with her speaking to you that way. She should treat you with respect and also respect your decisions about being a mother.

You don't need this stress right now...you should be enjoying that little cutie!

Good luck Marissa...lots of for you!!

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I'm so sorry that is happening to you.